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A Delicious Slice of Life
 
Dontcha just love surprises and the sheer delight in being able to discover and share them?

That's what I love about blogging. This blog, your blog, everyone's ........

Just full of surprises.

A delicious slice of life.
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OPEN LETTER - Please read, comment and pass on
Posted:Nov 9, 2012 2:20 am
Last Updated:Oct 12, 2013 8:13 pm
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Dear Affairlook,

I am a blogger with 460 posts, so I can claim to be familiar with this area of your site. I even once carried out an analysis of blog users by contrast with the rest of the site and found pretty much a 50:50 gender balance. This gave what is variously known as Blogville, Blogosphere and Blogland a particular character unique to Affairlook. I would go as far as saying that it created for Affairlook a unique selling point when compared with other adult-orientated dating/sexual encounter sites.

The gender balance is absolutely critical to the quality of Blogville. You don’t need to carry out an analysis to see that the most attractive, popular and watched blogs are by women bloggers. In short they make this area of the site particularly appealing. Men and women have, for the most part, different blogging styles, whether presenting imagery (especially self-imagery), being anecdotal, or writing erotica.

I recently found that having prevented standard members from being able to blog and interact there has been an immediate shift in the male: female ratio, so that Blogville has become significantly more masculine, and although female premium bloggers continue to produce some excellent material the relative proportion is less.

There seems to be an impression that the purpose of blogging is simply to express material. It isn’t. The comments on each post constitute an interaction, so that a dialogue exists. I’ve already had standard members say, “If I can’t interact, what’s the point?” Some from excellent bloggers.

Standard members who blog often then become premium members because they want an opportunity to privately comment on a post via internal email – maybe a shared experience that they want to convey privately. It doesn’t have to always be a conversation about a date.

I understand that there have been a small minority of female members who have used this site to solicit for business off this site, but this has been an issue of the facility to flirt, not the opportunity to blog. It’s a bit like throwing the baby out with the bathwater, as the saying goes. Blogging involves a lot of trouble, and its openness makes such behaviour easy to police and report abuse.

Being able to blog gives many women an escape from an interminable amount of emails from men, a huge number poorly written, due to the gender balance issue, gives them a voice and an opportunity to share experience with other women in particular. It makes the site more female-friendly. If this deteriorates so does the female friendliness, and you will lose active female membership. You will simply become “another adult dating site,” and they are two a penny, as well you know.

Finally members who blog put a huge amount of effort into their posts. Bloggers are your unpaid authors from whom the whole site benefits. You have over the years created a very special community, but these restrictions on standard members truly does cause harm to Blogville and by extension the whole site. Perhaps one way of looking at it is that bloggers earn the right to comment openly on each others’ posts. If there are a minor issues with this then treat them as minor issues and not the major surgery that has been carried out.

I’m sure this wasn’t your intention, but do listen to a blogger who cares. I don’t want, to coin another expression, you to kill the goose that laid the golden egg, because at first glance it seemed like a good thing to do at the time.

I am making this letter open on my blog, because I’m hoping that those who comment will add any points I’ve missed.

Please reconsider. It would mean so much.

Kind regards

warmandsexy52


Please comment and feel free to link.

Thank you

warm xx


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Just a Thought.....
Posted:Nov 3, 2012 4:06 am
Last Updated:Nov 7, 2012 3:14 pm
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ballerinas dancing
in frocks pale green and gold
one by one each left the stage
upon a wind so cold

***


I got home yesterday, put my feet up and listened to some beautiful classical music on the radio. Through the window I could see the leaves dancing in a strong breeze. If I blinked and caught the view for just a split second each image would always be different from all the others.

And yes, the tree does look a little different today.

I love that special uniqueness of the moment, each to be cherished as best we can.

To share such special moment with someone else is as close to magical as I can envision.

Have a lovely weekend.


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I've been Tagged - Ten and a Bit Warm Revelations
Posted:Oct 31, 2012 9:51 am
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2013 2:59 am
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I was tagged by three lovely, delightful bloggers - [blog misskissin], Stranger_inSpain and Violette001. How could I refuse? So here goes....

One

When I was three I watched my father dive into a swimming pool and then decided to dive in after him. At that point I realised I could not swim! I had a phobia about water that lasted about three years which was cured by another friend of the family swimming out to a rock in the middle of a rocky cove with me on his shoulders. Then he threw me in, so I had to swim back. Kill or cure!

Two

The first vehicle I took the controls of was a Fokker F27 Friendship airliner travelling on an internal flight from Singapore to north Malaya. I was 13. I was allowed to steer and gently bank the aircraft. Yes, there were passengers on board! They don’t do that kind of thing any more! The second vehicle was a 52 ton tank. It had a double-declutch gearbox and a gear shift between my legs. Having never driven a car getting the double declutch wrong that close to my gonads was pretty terrifying! Talk about incentive to get it right quickly! I then didn't drive a car until I was well into my twenties!

Three

I once used to go out most days to practice my golf strokes on the Maifeld in Berlin. This was where Hitler held some of his greatest rallies. Just me, all alone. It was eerie.

Four

Despite the UK have very strict firearm laws I learned to shoot at the age of 12, as I came from an army family and had opportunities down on the range. My favourite was the submachine gun, which was a real boy’s toy. Scary, huh? I haven’t used any firearm since I was a and hope that the strict gun control laws stay in the UK.

Five

I’ve visited 24 different countries. I haven’t got to the South American and Australian continents ...... yet. Started travelling very young and believe it’s the reason why I consider myself to be open-minded and tolerant.

Six

I’ve had two supernatural experiences. One was hearing my grandfather’s dying gasps six years after he passed away. The other was a person in dungarees apparently walking to work who simply vanished in front of my eyes. The first froze my spine. The second left me totally confused.

Seven

I have had four situations while flying when my death was a real possibility if things went any more wrong. In that respect I am lucky. I have learned that my death is no different from before I was born, and I have never had any nightmares about that. I do believe that the amazing universe transcends any attempt at understanding it, leaving us with an increasingly rational view of what is around us while at the same time retaining an eternal mystery. Therefore there is something that is greater than myself, but I’m relaxed about letting that mystery arrive. Trying to get me to believe in God because it’s a ticket to an afterlife is a bit of a timewaster for those who try!

Eight

I’m influenced strongly by Buddhism, but I would fall far short of a true follower’s dedication.

Nine

My username warmandsexy52 was based on how I felt at the time I had to figure out what I was going to call myself on AF-F.

Ten

I can play classical guitar, although I am rusty from lack of practice. I am a moderately competent cartoonist and am working on a novel, which I will publish through Amazon. I’m as intrigued by what it takes for a minor author to get their work to go viral as I am by the process of creating the story in the first place. I promised I would not blog this ..... Oops!

Eleven

When I took up paragliding I had no idea what a paraglider was. I originally wanted a tandem ride on a hang-glider to start my bucket list ten years ago. I was persuaded to learn how to paraglide, probably because I’d part with more money! I have had a number of awesome experiences, including flying with birds of prey, looking down on mountain peaks and surfing clouds. There is a beauty to free-flying that has caught my heart and soul. Sometimes I feel I have taken fire from the gods and the eternal addiction to fly is the price they wish me to pay. I do not consider myself to be a thrillseeker, but someone deeply passionate about his relationship with invisible and elemental sky. My attitude towards sex is similar, except the relationship is with another passionate soul. I guess I’m just a romantic.

Twelve

Twelve is my lucky number! And anyway I'm feeling just a little rebellious!


So many other bloggers have already been tagged. I feel as though I've come in a fair way down the pyramid! Sheesh! The things that go on when you're away for a few days! If you haven't been feel free to consider yourself well and truly tagged and start making that list!.



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Halloween Special: Lady Cadaver
Posted:Oct 30, 2012 3:18 pm
Last Updated:Oct 29, 2013 7:10 pm
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Lady Cadaver
Rode into the square,
Her sickly pale skin
Concealed by long hair,
The clippity-clop
Of hooves filled the air,
“Frankie!” she called out
“Frank - are you there?”

“I'm here!” growled the monster.
“You can end your ride.
Lie down on the ground,
With your legs open wide.
My second-hand dick
Will soon be inside!”
“I'm yours, dearest man-thing,”
The lady replied.

While sardonic wide grins
Of spectating ghouls,
Who cackled and laughed,
Not to mention the drools
From hideous mouths
That dripped into pools.
It was sick and wrong,
It broke all the rules!

Out from the churchyard
Curious ghosts peered.
From shadowy places
Foul creatures leered,
Some real nasty ones
Looked and they sneered.
So I did a runner -
It was just too weird!


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An Invitation to Costume Flirt!
Posted:Oct 26, 2012 1:28 am
Last Updated:Nov 3, 2012 2:45 am
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What would you wear for a sexy fancy dress party?

And what should I wear?

Sorry it's such a short post ...... just about to head away for a long weekend. Really looking forward to naughty and creative comments when I get back.

Have a great weekend. Hope it's special!


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Sex With Vampires - Some Friendly Advice
Posted:Oct 24, 2012 6:12 pm
Last Updated:Oct 29, 2013 7:21 pm
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It is said
The undead
Are sooo good
In bed.
But
Stay the night,
They might
FRIGHT
With a bite!

Some advice ....
Done it
TWICE!
Very nice!
But a bit
Like
Rolling
The
Dice!

Ladies
And whores
Get down
On all fours.
They’ll complain,
“FECK!”
And, “Heck!”
‘Cos they can’t reach
Your neck!

And men......
She’ll ask to
Suck.
DON’T!
Just fuck!
Two holes
In your cock
And you’ve run
Out of luck!

If they ask nicely,
DO
Let them run,
Before
Rays from the sun
Spoil
All the fun.
And a vampire’s ash
Gives
Such a bad rash!


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When I Think of You
Posted:Oct 23, 2012 2:51 am
Last Updated:Oct 24, 2012 5:55 pm
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My heart beats fast when thinking of your touch,
Upon my skin your softness and your heat.
My senses reel, I want to say how much
I seek your being making mine complete.
Your lips pressed soft, sweet, firm upon my own,
Your body shaped to mine in full embrace.
Such passion from our souls so deeply shown,
In journey to a shared and precious place.
With every feeling, stirring, sense and urge,
Desire, arousal, holding you so near,
Intimate, entwined, both selves do merge,
Allowing sensual love now to appear.
Such dreams, imaginings always renew,
Whenever thoughts are taken up by you.


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Remembering Sylvia Kristel and Emmanuelle
Posted:Oct 19, 2012 12:39 pm
Last Updated:Oct 23, 2012 1:44 pm
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Dutch actress Sylvia Kristel died, aged 60, on Wednesday night after battling throat, oesophageal, liver and lung cancers. In July she was admitted to Hospital in Amsterdam following a stroke. So sad. Not a pleasant way to leave this mortal coil.

She made 50 movies, but she will always be remembered for her iconic role in Emmanuelle, the sexual adventures of a diplomat's wife in Thailand.

What people often forget now was how revolutionary this film was when it first came out in 1974. At first it was banned in Paris, but went on to run for eleven years at the Arc de Triomphe cinema in the Champs Elysee. 350 million people are estimated to have seen it.

It is possible to project innocence and sensuality at the same time. It's a beautiful and erotic quality that not everyone has. Sylvia managed to achieve precisely that. The film's director, Just Jaeckin said of her, "a wonderful woman, very pure, very innocent."

It was that, along with an exotic location, soft focus and tender love scenes (with a little mild kinkiness here and there) that created soft movie porn in the mainstream. Sylvia's enthusiasm and engagement, along with her genuine belief that she was acting in a "liberated film" that really made the movie what it was.

Unfortunately, type-casting, contractual obligations and a hard-nosed world exacted its toll on her, resulting in drug addiction, alcoholism and heavy smoking, which encumbered her for 20 years and almost certainly led to the tragic, untimely death of a genuine pioneer in softening social attitudes about our sexual selves.

The jungle was simply too hard and unforgiving a place for such a beautiful, fragile butterfly.

Farewell Sylvia. Remembering the part you've played in shifting our culture and contributing to people being just a little more at ease with their sexuality.{=}


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Good Sex, Bad Sex And How it is Written
Posted:Oct 17, 2012 4:53 am
Last Updated:Nov 1, 2012 2:56 pm
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Literary Review gives out a Bad Sex in Fiction Award annually. Its movie equivalent I guess would be the Razzies. We might believe that sex sells, but bad sex can be little more than the kiss of death and the story is well and truly fucked, puns intended.

It’s actually really hard to write good prose about sex, particularly if it is a sex scene within a wider story which does not set out to be erotic. If it is simply done to be gratuitous it can come over as so crass and gauche, and if you've wanted your work to be a class act so much else is lost.

It’s also very easy for a writer to get carried away, so there’s more of a process of self-gratification than there is of really considering the audience. It's understandable, having developed characters in the theatre of the mind, but totally unforgivable. In some cases the audience seem to be secondary to the writer’s sense of indulgence.

Writers themselves seem to have very different ideas about what constitutes good and bad sex within a story, and how explicit that should be. There is no consensus, and there are no real experts. Some writers appear to have the magic touch. Others just make you wince.

There’s also the appropriateness of context. What might work on this site might be disastrous in a novel or short story. One size does not fit all. Pun unintended this time!

Both here and in literature in general women appear to be better at writing about the act of sex than men. The contrast is so stark that it must be to do with how each gender perceives sex. I’m intrigued by the polls that bustybettyboop has set up that when it comes to sexiest and most erotic blogs it’s the girls who overwhelmingly dominate centre stage, despite Blogland kicking against the pattern elsewhere on this site of being roughly gender-balanced.

It seems that on the whole men come from a descriptive perspective, women an emotional one. It doesn’t matter how exactly you describe a sex act, that in itself won’t float many boats. It’s the emotional content that raises the heart rate, catches the breath and arouses all those sensual drivers within us.

So maybe, in the middle of that novel you’ve always wanted to write, the plot won’t let you escape from writing hot, steamy passion. Do you:

Describe in full, revealing to the world that you’re a grown up now and are not going to pull any punches? Or is saying less saying more?

Indulge your fantasy to the full? After all you are the author, and if you can’t write it nobody else will! Or do you, in the best traditions of storytelling, do your best to empathise with your audience, as well as you understand this invisible mass to be?

Flirt with your readers, leading them on, and then in a coquettish manner, having aroused and stirred their juices and imaginings, leave the fantasy of the act to them?


Most of you will have read a fair amount of sexual content. Some of you have shown you are well up to writing it.

So what are your thoughts?

Reader? Writer? Conoisseur? Or just someone who's stumbled over this post? Your comments will be both welcomed and appreciated.

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Kinda Kinky, But I Like It.....
Posted:Oct 16, 2012 12:32 am
Last Updated:Oct 22, 2012 4:27 am
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Now I'm quite prepared for all my bloggie friends to raise a collective eyebrow and say, "Well he seemed like such a decent fellow, but he's just as kinky as the rest of us!"

But I've got to fess up to the fact that I really like this image. It's erotic, organic, womb-like, even alien. And as you have probably figured out in Party Trick I have a bit of a fantasy about naughtiness involving harnesses and the like.

The artist is Bart Hess, who is a stylist for Lady Gaga.It's called "Liquified," inspired by that digital processing function which allows users to "liquify" images.

So what are your thoughts? Is mild-mannered Warm normal for having such impure imaginings?

And Now that I've ordered one, how am I going to safely attach it to the ceiling?



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Would you Wear This?
Posted:Oct 14, 2012 4:22 am
Last Updated:Oct 22, 2012 4:28 am
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Cuttlefish are cute, intelligent, emotional little creatures. What fascinates me about them is how they communicate, because it represents a totally alien kind of social intelligence. Within their skin are millions of tiny little pigment cells called chromatophores that get bigger and smaller, appearing and disappearing as they do so. Because of this they can create patterns on their skin that are useful for camouflage but also for communicating with each other.

Each chromatophore is connected to a nerve ending, which directly connects to the brain. This means what the cuttlefish is thinking and feeling projects immediately onto the surface of its body. The wonderful fleeting patterns across its body are not just what it’s saying, it’s what it’s thinking, feeling. How it is.

And I never cease to be amazed. I’ve often thought, “Wow! What if we could do that? Oh my!”

Compare this with ourselves. We codify, we transform our thoughts into words. We do have body language, but it’s pretty basic compared to the remarkable little cuttlefish. Primarily we shape sounds and create text to tell others how we feel and think. And there are drawbacks to this. It’s easy to misrepresent both accidentally and with some people intentionally, as we all know.

But imagine if we could portray our mood. Our feelings in a much more direct way. A major way is through clothing, but it's like comparing a photo with a movie - once you’ve dressed up for that party that’s the way you’re going to stay all evening. At least until you take them off!

But in Holland, fashion designers Studio Roosegarde have come up with something that is revolutionary to clothing, creating the Intimacy 2.0 dress. The dress responds to skin temperature and heartbeat, using smart e-foil technology. As the wearer becomes more aroused, so the dress becomes more transparent, but what I find really exciting about this fabric is that it pulses with every heartbeat. The effect is stunning.

Two dresses have been designed so far, one white, by Maartje Dijkstra, the other black, by Anouk Wipprecht. I think the black dress is the sexier of the two, because the contrast is so much greater.

So far the dresses lie very much within the domain of haute couture, but it’s only a matter of time before the technology moves on and I can see all sorts of possibilities, especially in lingerie. I’m surprised the sex industry hasn’t produced anything to date. It might be costly, but wouldn’t it be fun?

Would you wear it?

Would you like your nearest and dearest, partner, FWB, or Auntie Flo, for that matter, bring it out of an Ann Summers bag as a birthday surprise?

What in the future? Clothing that’s wirelessly linked to your brain? The rudiments of the technology to make that so are already here. It's simply a matter of connecting and developing them.

Just a parting thought. I’m a great believer that both sexes have a bounden duty to themselves to maintain their sexuality and attractiveness as long as they can. I can imagine many women to whom an Intimacy-inspired menswear might be attractive.....

Which brings to mind .....

“Hmmmmm! Have you just bought a large sausage from the delicatessen, or are you pleased to see me?”

And a heartbeat or two later....

“Why can’t you use a shopping bag, like everyone else!”
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Scarlet Upon Flesh
Posted:Oct 12, 2012 6:30 am
Last Updated:Oct 19, 2012 11:14 am
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I see her there,
Scarlet-wrapped
Upon a white tiled floor,
Ripe and sensual,
Luscious,
A vision to adore.

I stroke her breasts,
Full and soft,
My lips embrace each teat.
My tongue playing,
Feeling
Each harden, as souls meet.

I kiss her lips,
Thighs apart,
Aroused by sweet perfume
Of womanhood.
Sharing,
As pleasure comes to bloom.


This poem was inspired by the photos and sensual words of Stranger_inSpain, which gives its context. It's a joy to share the creativity and sensuality of a lovely woman new to Blogland. Click on the following links and I'm sure you will see what I mean - the sexiest of all introductions on this site, but with a real sense of class and style.

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I just love that natural, sensual and erotic quality that Stranger_inSpain projects. Aren't they just wonderful?


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Warm's Advice for Hen Nights (Essex Edition)
Posted:Oct 11, 2012 6:52 am
Last Updated:Oct 15, 2012 10:00 am
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I must confess to quite liking being a stereotypical English gentleman abroad. I like good manners, a sense of refinement and people realising that I'm articulate, cultured and reasonably intelligent. So when in the states I'm told, "Wow! I love your English accent!" I feel a deep sense of compliment and have got to work really hard not to go overboard and do the full David Niven.

For a while I despaired of the hordes of more vulgar Brits presenting our national underbelly of crass behaviour, usually fuelled by enough alcohol to KO a bull elephant. But in another way I've come to realise that seeing what all of us Brits were like is not all bad. I think the image of being absurdly polite, overly restrained and sexually repressed is being challenged and that is part of the zeitgeist of the UK today.

We needed to vulgarise. We needed a society where people could feel they could let their hair down, whether it's down the local pub or Prince Harry in the nip in a Las Vegas hotel.

And Essex appears to be the hub of vulgarity in the nation's eye at the moment. I think what's happened is that as people become affluent they head out of the city. The traditional posh go to Surrey. The new money middle class - those who cannot claim private schooling and so on, head out east. From a London perspective - that's Essex, Land of the Orange People/Oompah Loompahs, due to the tribal smearing of artificial tan lotion from head to foot.

So good for Essex. For its crassness, tackiness, blinginess, WAGs and reality stars it has challenged English stuffiness.

I just happened to stumble across a magazine called "An Essex Wedding," which intrigued me enough to thumb through. Large spreads about wedding dresses, venues, honeymoons and so on. There was a small featurette about the most popular hen nights in the county - possibly a bit of journalistic licence here, but hey.

I saw a spot of blogging potential, so I listed them on a parking receipt - the only scrap of paper in my wallet. I usually have a folded sheet of paper in my pocket for thoughts and ideas, but not that day. All I could fit on the receipt was the titles. I've ad-libbed a bit on the explanations.

Here goes:


Hen Night Number 1: Little Devils:

warm advises: don’t be surprised if things get really horny!

Hen Night Number 2: Angels:

warm advises: are you being serious? Expect to fall from grace!

Hen Night Number 3: Emergency Services:

warm advises: oh decisions, decisions! What kind of dominatrix are you? Handcuffs or rubber gloves and lube? Or maybe start with the fire service and, woohoo!, let's have a foam party!

Hen Night Number 4: Rock Chicks:

warm's advice: there's every excuse here for brazen BDSM - studded collars and lots of black leather. Easily lose control amongst all that rock 'n roll! Hey that rhymes ...... might note for a future post!

Hen Night Number 5: Cowgirls and Indians:

warm's advice: I'm all for equal opportunities, and remember girls that Brokeback is not just for boys! Be prepared for the ride, and if considering plaits, do not wear a wig!

Hen Night Number 6: Hawaii:

warm's advice: choose a seaside resort like Southend or Clacton for the “Here to Eternity” beach scene with abducted male stripper. For only the hardiest of young ladies - even in summer the sea off Britain is todger-shrinkingly cold! Hot tip - find a swimming pool with a fake beach and wave-making machine.

Hen Night Number 7: School Disco:

warm's advice: in Essex a school disco is different, and much tackier than a prom. School discos happen at schools that aren't up to organising proms. Can be chaotic, like a bad episode of Waterloo Road (are there any good ones?). Also very un-PC at the moment!

Hen Night Number 8: Disco Divas:

warm's advice: there's a fitness, age and weight limit to dirty dancing, because the dance moves involve throwing girl(s) through the air. I write from experience here, and the less said about that the better! If you want to go ahead check that the male strippers are the same hunks on the advert and not puny Bert from the local pub who's been unemployed for three months.


Well that's what research tells me about Essex, but surely there are other choices for a naughty girls' night out. Any suggestions girls?

And what about you guys ..... what stag theme would you choose, other than simply going on the razzle and ending up where young ladies need a pole to stop them from falling over when dancing, or something like that.

And would you be as well-behaved as you can imagine me being on a wicked night out?

Oh, and btw, the best fake tan was deemed to come from that shop for the body set up by Anita Roddick.

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