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Posted:Aug 18, 2012 9:38 am
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For Standard Members who cannot read my profile here it is. Feel free to leave a message for me. It is private so no one else can see it since I realize you cannot initiate email contact. I do update my main profile regularly so it may not reflect here totally accurate and the same at times so you know. If you are rude or pushy or think you can say anything and it not matter, I will ignore you. If you are sincerely interested in talking and getting to know me, and we have some things in common or you can impress me; I look forward to talking to you. You can also find me in the chat rooms and occasionally on imc.
Introduction
I'm a single, big beautiful woman. I'm interested in chatting and getting to know people. I'm looking for friendship and connection to begin with. I enjoy that stimulation from people you click with and want to know more about. Ultimately, I'm looking for someone to share more with. (Looking for strictly just friends right now and that doesn't mean bennies on the side.) I want someone I can talk to; someone patient, kind, understanding, mature, who knows what they want. I'm not interested in anything casual or hooking up for just sex. I want more. I am always open to getting to know people and making some good friends along the way. It's about the journey and not just the destination.
I'm intuitive, open minded, passionate, sensitive, sexual, sensual, caring, and smart. I seek intelligent, friendly conversation, and good connection on many levels. I love to talk and share and spend time together. I enjoy being naughty and playful with the right people. I enjoy watching porn when I need it for stimulation or just fun. I seek to explore the world of sexuality, sensuality, and spirituality. I would love to find others who are interested in metaphysics and spiritual growth.
I love the outdoors; enjoying and exploring nature. I love to read and always have a book close by. I enjoy country drives, going to out of the way places, nature walks, sitting by a fire, water, music, mystery movies and drama, gardening, and rummage sales.
I feel spending time doing things together should be fun, relaxing, and invigorating. I am seeking people I can connect with and communicate with on many levels. I want people who are in control of their life, who know what they want, and can enjoy the simple things in life. I seek those open, fun, smart, & caring people who can make me laugh & smile. I need people who love to touch as much as I do, who are stimulating and interesting.
I'm not into head games or game playing. Honesty is a must and also be disease and drug free. I am allergic to smoke, so non-smokers are preferred.
***WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice to this or you may copy and paste this one.***
My Ideal Person: See Above. Maturity. I'm not into head games or game playing. Honesty is a must and also be disease and drug free. I am allergic to smoke, so non-smokers preferred. Looking to chat at this time and really get to know people. It takes alot for me to meet someone in person. I am open to it once I know someone and there is foundation of friendship. I'm not looking for casual hook ups or just sex. I want real freindships and real connections. Ultimately I'm seeking someone to share more with and build a relationship with. (Looking for strictly just friends right now.) Good friends are always welcome in my life though so just cause we are not seeking the same ultimate thing does not mean it would rule out a friendship connection for me.
What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Spanking, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Massage, open minded, I have not tried everything but would like to explore, open to try new things with the right person
Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.
Information
• 53 female
• Just A Thought Away, Wisconsin
Sexual Orientation:
Straight
Looking For: Men or Women for 1-on-1 sex, Bondage & Discipline, Misc. Fetishes, Exhibitionism/Voyeurism or Other "Alternative" Activities
Relocate?: Maybe/Yes
Marital Status: Divorced
Height: 5 ft 8 in / 172-175 cm
Body Type: BBW
Smoking: I'm a non-smoker
Drinking: I'm a light/social drinker
drugs: I don't use drugs
Education: Some college
Occupation: tell you later
Race: Caucasian
Religion: Spiritual
Have : Prefer not to say
Want : Happy with what I have
Bra Size: 46+ / 105+ DD (E, if no DD)
Speaks: English
Hair Color: Blonde
Hair Length: Short
Eye Color: Blue
Glasses or Contacts: Glasses
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Hmm " Inner Peace "
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Posted:May 31, 2015 11:01 pm
Last Updated:Oct 19, 2015 11:58 am
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Can you remain centered and peaceful in various circumstances? I know I am the one responsible for how I handle things and myself, but it sure is not always easy.[
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" Mantra Meditation "
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Posted:Jan 31, 2015 5:42 am
Last Updated:May 12, 2015 5:57 pm
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" BREATHE " - Do you meditate? I try to but I don't always do it regularly. I know it helps me and I feel better afterwards but it just seems like work at times to really do it and get into it. I am learning though even a few moments of taking a few deep breaths or saying a short mantra can help me relax and focus and be more in the now. What's your opinion or what do you do for meditation?
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5 Myths About Men's Sexuality
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Posted:Dec 20, 2014 9:19 am
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2014 2:56 am
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Hmmm.... What do you think?
I found this article and thought it was interesting so wanted to share it.
5 Myths About Men's Sexuality
What women wish men knew about men's sexuality
Published on July 9, 2014 by Deborah Anapol, Ph.D. in Love Without Limits
1. Men are not naturally monogamous, but women are.
I’ve always figured that this one is simply wishful thinking on the part of the male scientists influenced by their culture who persistently reached this conclusion until new data made it an untenable position. DNA testing has established that in most animal species, neither males nor females are sexually monogamous although many are socially monogamous at least for a season. Humans are no exception. Women are heavily socialized to restrict their sexual attraction to one guy at a time. They have been severely punished for transgressions, but women's biology and personality are both well suited to multiple partners — more so than men's. The masculine often has a deep desire for simplicity, and monogamy is generally much more simple than non-monogamy.
Women have been shown to be better at multi-tasking, and to have better communication skills, two important factors in multi-partner relating. Because women generally take more time than men to become sexually aroused and to reach orgasm and are less likely to be “finished” after one orgasm, more than one partner, even in close proximity, is not only easily manageable biologically but may be advantageous. The psychological factors, especially the impacts of jealousy and competition for both men and women, are a bit more complex, but it’s safe to say that women are no better suited to monogamy than men are.
2. Men are more interested in sex than women
Fortunately for us, all this is not true. Nature wants all of us enrolled in reproducing the species! Women can become disinterested in sex as a result of childhood abuse, r - word , social conditioning including body image challenges, unaddressed relationship issues, unskilled lovemaking or demands of juggling and work, but these all represent deviations from her inherent nature. Women are socialized to channel their erotic yearnings into romantic fantasy rather than genital imagery, but when freed of sex-negative conditioning and social judgments, women desire erotic connection.
When women are initiated into the pleasures of sex with a lover who is sensitive, considerate, skilled, and receptive to guidance, their sexual potential is awakened, and their interest in sex equals or exceeds the interest of most men.
It may appear that men are more interested in sex because their sex organs are less mysterious and hidden than women’s and because they are taught that sex is about their own pleasure, not the woman’s. Both men and women can benefit from learning more about their own bodies, freeing themselves from sex negative conditioning, and seeking instruction in how to give and receive pleasure.
3. Men must ejaculate to be satisfied or to experience sexual pleasure.
This is a very common belief but ask any man who has learned to separate orgasm from ejaculation and he will tell you there are many benefits to non-ejaculatory orgasm. For many men orgasm without ejaculation enables a man to be multi-orgasmic, to maintain consistent sexual energy, desire, and confidence, and to magnetically attract interested partners. Once men learn to orgasm without ejaculation they rarely want to go back to ejaculating every time.
Most women have been orgasming without ejaculating for a long time because they've been shamed out of allowing ejaculation, or because their partners didn't know how to arouse them sufficiently to cause an ejaculatory release. So women know that orgasm and ejaculation are not the same thing. That said, the idea is not to shame men out of their ejaculation but to recognize that they have choices.
4. A man must have an erection to enjoy sexual play.
This is another false assumption. Why? For one thing most women like "foreplay" even without intercourse. In fact, some women prefer "foreplay" to intercourse and generally enjoy it more when it's not experienced as a strategy to get somewhere else as quickly as possible. Men tend to equate sex and intercourse, but the reality is that exciting sexual play encompasses much more than penis and vagina. Foreplay does not require an erection, and the process of arousing the woman and feeling her turn on can be very pleasurable in itself, and might even stimulate an erection, if the mind is not preoccupied with performance concerns.
Furthermore, a semi-erect penis can be more sensitive to subtle sensations, and less driven to seek release. This allows a man to increase his capacity to experience and enjoy erotic sensations throughout his body and to contain more erotic energy which can eventually be shared with a partner, with or without penetration
5. The bigger the penis, the better.
Compatibility of size is the real barometer. A big penis and a small vagina are not a happy combination, especially after menopause. Further, knowing how to use the penis skillfully is far more important than size. This can be learned. A smaller penis is often easier to maneuver inside the vagina, and may motivate the man to explore a variety of ways to please his lover.
The main problem with a smaller penis is the man’s belief that he’s inadequate or not good enough. Many men have this concern even when their penis is larger than average and refuse to believe it’s not an issue for the woman. A man who believes his penis is too small also becomes an easy target for an angry woman who knows just how to push his insecurity and shame buttons. Don’t fall for it, guys!
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Laugh Today
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Posted:Oct 18, 2014 8:07 am
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2014 7:20 pm
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A family is at the dinner table. The asks the father, “Dad, how many kinds of boobs are there?” The father, surprised, answers, “Well, , a woman goes through three phases. In her 20s, a woman’s breasts are like melons, round and firm. In her 30s and 40s, they are like pears, still nice, hanging a bit. After 50, they are like onions.” “Onions?” the asks. “Yes. You see them and they make you cry.” This infuriated his wife and . The asks, “Mom, how many different kinds of willies are there?” The mother smiles and says, “Well, dear, a man goes through three phases also. In his 20s, his willy is like an oak tree, mighty and hard. In his 30s and 40s, it’s like a birch, flexible but reliable. After his 50s, it’s like a Christmas tree.” “A Christmas tree?” the asks. “Yes, dead from the root up and the balls are just for decoration.”
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Interesting... BDSM Practitioners Healthier Than 'Vanilla' People
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Posted:Oct 16, 2014 10:46 pm
Last Updated:Oct 20, 2014 6:03 am
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Oh Really Now? That Makes Me Think...Hmmm, " What's Your Opinion? "
Bondage Benefits: BDSM Practitioners Healthier Than 'Vanilla' People
Stephanie Pappas, LiveScience Senior Writer | May 29, 2013
Despite the fact that their sexual preferences are listed in the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders as potentially problematic, people who play with whips and chains in the bedroom may actually be more psychologically healthy than those who don't.
A new study finds that practitioners of bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism, or BDSM, score better on a variety of personality and psychological measures than "vanilla" people who don't engage in unusual sex acts. BDSM is a sexual practice that revolves around those four fetishes.
BDSM is listed in the DSM-5, the newest edition of the definitive psychiatrist's manual, as a paraphilia, or unusual sexual fixation — a label that has caused controversy between kinky communities and psychiatrists, who themselves are mixed on whether sexual predilections belong in the catalog of mental disorders. As written, the DSM-5 does not label BDSM a disorder unless it causes harm to the practitioner or to others.
Kinky controversy
Nevertheless, some psychiatrists see the inclusion of BDSM and other kinks in the manual as stigmatizing, particularly because studies have failed to show evidence that enjoying sex with a side of pain is linked to psychological problems. The new study, published May 16 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, finds that, in fact, BDSM practitioners may be better off psychologically than the general public.
BDSM practitioners "either did not differ from the general population and if they differed, they always differed in the more favorable direction," said study researcher Andreas Wismeijer, a psychologist at Nyenrode Business University in the Netherlands who conducted the research while at Tilburg University.
Wismeijer did not set out to study the psychological health of BDSM aficionados. His research typically focuses on the psychology of secrets and secrecy. A chance meeting with the founder of the Netherlands' largest BDSM Web forum convinced him the group might make an interesting study population to look at how secrets are kept and who keeps them.
Wismeijer and his colleagues put out a request on the forum for people in the BDSM "scene" to take a variety of psychological questionnaires online. They also sought participants who didn't do BDSM via a women's magazine website, a personal secret website and a university website.
Healthy fixation?
None of the participants knew what the surveys were about, other than they were on "human behavior." All told, 902 BDSM practitioners and 434 vanilla (non-BDSM) participants filled out questionnaires on personality, sensitivity to rejection, style of attachment in relationships and well-being.
The researchers chose these baseline measures because previous research on those in the BDSM community has focused on dire outcomes — whether they're more likely to have mental disorders or report abuse compared with the general public. (They aren't, studies have found.)
The new results reveal that on a basic level, BDSM practitioners don't appear to be more troubled than the general population. They were more extroverted, more open to new experiences and more conscientious than vanilla participants; they were also less neurotic, a personality trait marked by anxiety. BDSM aficionados also scored lower than the general public on rejection sensitivity, a measure of how paranoid people are about others disliking them.
People in the BDSM scene reported higher levels of well-being in the past two weeks than people outside it, and they reported more secure feelings of attachment in their relationships, the researchers found.
Of the BDSM practitioners, 33 percent of the men reported being submissive, 48 percent dominant and 18 percent "switch," or willing to switch between submissive and dominant roles in bed. About 75 percent of the female BDSM respondents were submissive, 8 percent dominant and 16 percent switch.
These roles showed some links to psychological health, such that dominants tended to score highest in all quarters, submissives lowest and switches in the middle. However, submissives never scored lower than vanilla participants on mental health, and frequently scored higher, Wismeijer told LiveScience.
"Within the BDSM community, [submissives] were always perceived as the most vulnerable, but still, there was not one finding in which the submissives scored less favorable than the controls," he said.
Sexual health
The study is somewhat limited by a self-selecting response pool and by the fact that BDSM practitioners could have been answering in ways to make themselves look better and avoid stigma, Wismeijer said — though the fact that the participants didn't know the reasons for the study ameliorates that concern somewhat. The findings are reason for mental health professionals to take an accepting approach to BDSM practitioners, Wismeijer said.
"We did not have any findings suggesting that people who practice BDSM have a damaged psychological profile or have some sort of psychopathology or personality disorder," he said.
Wismeijer isn't exactly sure why BDSM practitioners might be psychologically healthier than the general public. They tend to be more aware of their sexual needs and desires than vanilla people, he said, which could translate to less frustration in bed and in relationships. Coming to terms with their unusual sexual predilections and choosing to live the BDSM lifestyle may also take hard psychological work that translates to positive mental health, he said.
One study alone shouldn't determine whether a condition is placed in the DSM or not, Wismeijer said, but added that combined with other research, the new findings suggest BDSM is better seen as a lifestyle choice, if a slightly strange one.
"I'm not so convinced that BDSM should be placed within the DSM-5," he said.
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Laugh for today " Perception "
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Posted:Oct 14, 2014 3:56 pm
Last Updated:Oct 25, 2014 7:21 pm
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This made me laugh and I wanted to share it. How true is this? lolol
I did have a picture here, but it disappeared. lol hmm I must have done something bad. lol ok, people help me out... pretty please lolol
Let's see if I can get this to work so bare with me please...
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