I'm pretty sure it's the bacon...
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Posted:May 21, 2015 6:37 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2015 12:42 pm
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I don't know, but lately I have been feeling like something is missing. With life's craziness and the way things are going...I have my career and job lined up. I get to actually come home on time, I like what I do, and it pays the same as the last horrifying job. I know I am truly blessed. My is broke (he hurt his back over the weekend and can't walk on his own-after vet bills and tons of medication) yet, he and I are doing the best we can with the circumstances-lots of cuddles as I carry him around. I got paid today, and my biggest problem is finding time to go to the grocery store...Maybe after all just a craving for bacon.
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Women want sex more than men...Attempt 2
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Posted:May 19, 2015 7:33 pm
Last Updated:May 23, 2015 12:43 pm
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When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men
And how the stereotype flipped.
By Alyssa Goldstein / AlterNet March 19, 2013
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In the 1600s, a man named James Mattock was expelled from the First Church of Boston. His crime? It wasn’t using lewd language or smiling on the sabbath or anything else that we might think the Puritans had disapproved of. Rather, James Mattock had refused to have sex with his wife for two years. Though Mattock’s community clearly saw his self-deprivation as improper, it is quite possible that they had his wife’s suffering in mind when they decided to shun him. The Puritans believed that sexual desire was a normal and natural part of human life for both men and women (as long as it was heterosexual and confined to marriage), but that women wanted and needed sex more than men. A man could choose to give up sex with relatively little trouble, but for a woman to be so deprived would be much more difficult for her.
Yet today, the idea that men are more interested in sex than women is so pervasive that it seems almost unremarkable. Whether it’s because of hormone levels or “human nature,” men just need to have sex, masturbate, and look at porn in a way that simply isn’t necessary for women, according to popular assumptions (and if a women does find it so necessary, there’s probably something wrong with her). Women must be convinced, persuaded, even forced into “giving it up,” because the prospect of sex just isn’t that appealing on its own, say popular stereotypes. Sex for women is usually a somewhat distasteful but necessary act that must be performed to win approval, financial support, or to maintain a stable relationship. And since women are not slaves to their desires like men, they are responsible for ensuring that they aren’t “taken advantage of.”
The idea that men are naturally more interested in sex than women is ubiquitous that it’s difficult to imagine that people ever believed differently. And yet for most of Western history, from ancient Greece to beginning of the nineteenth century, women were assumed to be the sex-crazed porn fiends of their day. In one ancient Greek myth, Zeus and Hera argue about whether men or women enjoy sex more. They ask the prophet Tiresias, whom Hera had once transformed into a woman, to settle the debate. He answers, “if sexual pleasure were divided into ten parts, only one part would go to the man, and and nine parts to the woman.” Later, women were considered to be temptresses who inherited their treachery from Eve. Their sexual passion was seen as a sign of their inferior morality, reason and intellect, and justified tight control by husbands and fathers. Men, who were not so consumed with lust and who had superior abilities of self-control, were the gender more naturally suited to holding positions of power and influence.
Early twentieth-century physician and psychologist Havelock Ellis may have been the first to document the ideological change that had recently taken place. In his 1903 work Studies in the Psychology of Sex, he cites a laundry list of ancient and modern historical sources ranging from Europe to Greece, the Middle East to China, all of nearly the same mind about women’s greater sexual desire. In the 1600s, for instance, Francisco Plazzonus deduced that childbirth would hardly be worthwhile for women if the pleasure they derived from sex was not far greater than that of men’s. Montaigne, Ellis notes, considered women to be “incomparably more apt and more ardent in love than men are, and that in this matter they always know far more than men can teach them, for ‘it is a discipline that is born in their veins.’” The idea of women’s passionlessness had not yet fully taken hold in Ellis’ own time, either. Ellis’ contemporary, the Austrian gynecologist Enoch Heinrich Kisch, went so far as to state that “The sexual impulse is so powerful in women that at certain periods of life its primitive force dominates her whole nature.”
Yet the times were clearly changing. In 1891, H. Fehling tried to debunk the common wisdom: “It is an altogether false idea that a young woman has just as strong an impulse to the opposite sex as a young man.... The appearance of the sexual side in the love of a young girl is pathological." In 1896, Bernhard Windscheid postulated, “In the normal woman, especially of the higher social classes, the sexual instinct is acquired, not inborn; when it is inborn, or awakes by itself, there is abnormality. Since women do not know this instinct before marriage, they do not miss it when they have no occasion in life to learn it."
So what happened?
Of course, ideas about gender and sexuality are not the same everywhere, and within every place and era there are always debates and differing views. The story of how this stereotype became reversed is not a simple one to trace, nor did it happen evenly and all at once. Historian Nancy Cott points to the rise of evangelical Protestantism as the catalyst of this change, at least in New England. Protestant ministers whose congregations were increasingly made up mainly of middle-class white women probably saw the wisdom in portraying their congregants as moral beings who were especially suited to answering the call of religion, rather than as besmirched seductresses whose fate was sealed in Eden. Women both welcomed this portrayal and helped to construct it. It was their avenue to a certain level of equality with men, and even superiority. Through the gospel, Christian women were “exalted above human nature, raised to that of angels,” as the 1809 book The Female Friend, or The Duties of Christian Virgins put it. The emphasis on sexual purity in the book’s title is telling. If women were to be the new symbols of Protestant religious devotion, they would have to sacrifice the acknowledgement of their sexual desires. Though even the Puritans had believed that it was perfectly acceptable for both men and women to desire sexual pleasure within the confines of marriage, women could now admit to desiring sex in order to bond with their husbands or fulfill their “maternal urges.” As Cott put it, “Passionlessness was on the other side of the coin which paid, so to speak, for women’s admission to moral equality.”
By positioning themselves as naturally chaste and virtuous, Protestant women could make the case for themselves as worthy moral and intellectual equals. They could carve out a space for themselves to participate in political life as social reformers advocating for moral causes like charity for the poor and prohibition. And in an era when men could legally take their wives (an era which did not end in the US until 1993), womens’ supposed passionlessness provided at least some limited grounds for them to abstain from unwanted sex with their husbands. Yet these benefits were available for only a certain subset of women. As John D’Emilio and Estelle Freedman point out, “The idea of innate female virtue, or of sexual passionlessness, applied primarily to native-born, middle class women; working-class, immigrant, and black women continued to be seen as sexually passionate, and thus sexually available.” (Think back to Windscheid’s claim that women, but especially affluent women, were naturally born without sex drives.) Middle-class white women could emphasize their similarities with men of their race and class, and thus access some of their privilege, by embracing an ideology that posited fundamental sexual differences between themselves and those other women.
Yet if women could raise themselves up to the level of angels by being passionless, then they had so much further to fall if they did give in to their desires. As D’Emilio and Freedman explain, “In the past, as long as she repented, the woman who once sinned--like the male transgressor--could be reintegrated into the community. Now, however, because women allegedly occupied a higher moral plane than man, her fall was so great that it tainted her for life.” These “fallen women” were barred from their families and communities, and often had to work as prostitutes to support themselves.
Womens’ supposed greater sex drive was an argument for their inferiority, but once the assumption became reversed, no one argued that mens’ lustfulness was a sign of a fundamental irrationality that should preclude them from business and politics. Rather than a handicap, a large sexual appetite was positive once it came to be seen as a characteristic of men. Women, being passionless, supposedly lacked the drive and ambition to succeed. Much like sex, the public realm of work was dirty and distasteful, hardly suitable to womens’ delicate sensibilities. Since their instincts were maternal rather than sexual, they were best suited to staying virtuously at home with the . Black women and poor women, on the other hand, were firmly shut out from the dainty flower role. They were still seen as suitable for both work and for satisfying white mens’ sexual urges that were no longer appropriate for their wives.
But perhaps the longest-lasting consequence of the rise of the passionless woman was the ushering in of a sneakier type of sexism--whose evidence we see in any number of fast-food and beer commercials that portray men as a bunch of dim-witted five-year-olds in the bodies of adults. Women are smarter, more responsible, more caring and upstanding; not like men, whose instincts are base and appetites carnal. Since men are utterly unfit for helping to raise their own (as they are little more than themselves), that job must fall to women. Since men are too incompetent to do housework, their stolid, levelheaded wives must do it. Since men are unable to restrain themselves, women must keep their skirts long, stay away from alcohol, refrain from flirting. “The purity of women is the everlasting barrier against which the tides of man’s sensual nature surge,” as one nineteenth-century reformer put it, and this attitude still persists today.
Even when gender roles change, sexism has a remarkable ability to adapt--and historical amnesia enables this ability. The association of men with lust is as much an artifact of recent times as the association of girls with pink and boys with blue (less than 100 years ago, this system of gendered color-coding was also reversed). Yet even with all this switching-around, some things have stayed suspiciously the same. When women were sexual, their proper place was in the home as caregivers and mothers. When women became passionless, their proper place was still in the home as caregivers and mothers. Isn’t it funny how that works? Gender roles gain their power from the fact that they appear natural and eternal. By looking to the past, we can draw aside this veil and see these categories for what they are--made by people, and able to be changed by people.
After reading this article, it made me wonder, "Why do women have to pretend not to like sex?". "Why do we have to lie about the number of sexual partners and experiences?"
I think most men like to be with a woman that has experience and knowledge, yet at the same time, they want a virgin or someone with limited partners. A forty year old who has never been married should only have 2 partners ever? I'm not talking about those that want to go out and have sex with just anyone, and I'm not talking about those with sexual addictions. At times, I have felt like I "should" not enjoy sex as much as I do or I should not have fun because it will increase my "number".
I guess after reading this article I liked the idea of the power of those women in Greek mythology...I am not one that gets off on power by any means, but to be able to have that kind of confidence and accepted behavior would be so satisfying. There are a lot more men on this site because it's socially acceptable for men to go looking for on the fly sexual encounters. Adultery has been around forever, so in a way that is acceptable too. For a woman of forty to enjoy meeting new men, having a good time, etc. there really is a double standard. Is that going to stop me from having sex anytime soon?
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A few of my favorite things...
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Posted:May 14, 2015 6:19 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2015 9:39 am
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This is the part of my blog where I sing...just kidding, no one and I mean no one, wants to hear that!
Samantha on Sex in the City made the Hitachi Wand popular, and now I can't imagine life without it!
When I am alone, and feeling kinda "randy" I want my wand and my nook. My nook that is filled with all kinds of erotic stories or porn I should say...some pretty messed up. If I want to take care of the itch, I can TCB in about 15 minutes with some time to spare before Conan comes on. LOL. If you haven't tried out the "Wand", you are missing out. 
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True Satisfaction
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Posted:May 11, 2015 6:49 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2015 9:11 pm
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Nothing like amazing sex to make me purr like a kitten. This is truly the "Lioness Uninhibited". After a nice rough tumble, I like to stretch out and enjoy the feeling of complete "yummyness". The best exhausted feeling ever.
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How can you pick just one?
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Posted:May 9, 2015 7:50 pm
Last Updated:Jun 2, 2015 8:37 pm
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Everyone likes to ask, "What's your favorite position?". I have several that are all pretty great. But if I have to pick just one..it would be very difficult. My favorite position depends on many different things. Not just what mood I am in, but what I'm doing at the moment and who I'm doing. Location, location, location. LOL What props are available, how many margaritas I've consumed, and how many others are involved. If I'm in the mood to have it hard and fast, I want my face down, ass up. MMmmmm. Bonus points if I get my hair pulled. If I am about to get my ass taken, I want to be bent over the bed. If I am getting eaten out I want to be propped up so I can watch. If I get to suck cock, it makes me drip uncontrollably if I'm on my knees with my hands tied behind my back and have my hair pulled. While these are my favorites, I am always open for new ideas. 
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My fuck it list...
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Posted:May 5, 2015 7:37 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2015 7:15 pm
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I found this sex bucket list and thought I would share and also share how many I have achieved! what's your number? mine is at the bottom!
1) Kiss - all sexes
2) Have anal
3) Have a threesome
4) Engage in group sex
5) Masturbate
6) Have phone sex)
7) Use a vibrator
 Use a sex toy on someone else
9) Be tied up
10) Tie someone up
11) Have sex in a public space
12) Be a voyeur and watch others having sex (live, porn does not count)
13) Sex in a car
14) Sex at a drive-in
15) Mile-high club
16) Sex with a stranger
17) One-night stand
1 Married sex )
19) Sex on a boat
20) Sex in a body of water
21) Light spanking
22) Read erotica
23) Play strip poker/Monopoly/card game
24) Sex in the shower
25) Sex standing up against a wall
26) Sex with no kissing
27) Sex in the pitch black
2 Sex in the broad daylight
29) Making out with no sex long after you're no longer a virgin
30) Sex in a tent in the wilderness
31) Watch porn together
32) Watch porn alone
33) Learn to give yourself multiple orgasms
34) Sex on the beach
35) Blindfolds
36) Using ice sexually
37) Sexual role play
3 Whipped cream
39) La Perla lingerie sex
40) Frederick's of Hollywood lingerie sex
41) Sex with someone much older
42) Sex with someone younger (legal!)
43) Sex in a foreign country, possibly with a foreigner
44) A quickie in a with your clothes on
45) A longie in the rain
46) Sex in the ocean while people swim all around you
47) Feather ticklers
4 Sex while "altered" whether by alcohol or something else
49) Learn to orgasm in less than five minutes from intercourse alone
50) Silent sex in a full house
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Morning Sex
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Posted:May 4, 2015 8:30 pm
Last Updated:May 17, 2015 5:40 pm
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OOOOOhhh how I love morning sex. Let me count the ways...lol.
Waking up early on a Saturday morning, rain hitting the window, I rolled over and he was laying there beside me. I moved over to spoon, with hopes to fork...The professor with the perfect penis did not disappoint 
I am not a morning person, so I wonder what it is about staying over and waking up to an early romp in the sheets?
I feel so content to wake up and snuggle, especially when I don't have to jump out of bed and take off in a mad fury to get showered, dressed and out the door without being too late for work.
Sex at night is just as good, I like to get all fixed up and I love to wear fun lingerie. The professor is a leg man, so stockings really get him going. But there is something about morning sex. You both are too groggy for self-consciousness. Yeah, you could get up and brush your teeth, but it feels so good to just stay where you are. That boyish smile, his hair all a mess and I'm laying in his arms, the opportunity is there, why not take it? Can it be any better when he has this almost whisper, low, slow "Mornin" for me?
I did a little research on the preferences of men wanting sex in the morning, and females preferring to get freaky at night. After reading several different perspectives, I figured out what it was that makes morning sex so hot.
Waking up, naked, skin on skin, still half a sleep, rubbing his back, smiling about the night before. A little spontaneous nookie is hot, the lighting in the morning, starting off the day on such a positive note. Apparently, orgasms get the blood flowing to your brain awakening all the different parts of your brain. Speaking of orgasms, morning sex not only relaxes you for the day ahead, it gives you a fun, free spirited little bounce in your step, knowing you had such a fun little surprise this morning that no one else knows about but the two of you.
A text from the Professor later in the week..."I had a wet dream about you"...hope to get another chance at morning sex soon with the Professor...
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It's gonna cost ya...
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Posted:May 4, 2015 4:12 pm
Last Updated:May 5, 2015 2:13 pm
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http://Affairlook.com
So I read this article on my local news page. It featured a couple from Florida, who had sex on the beach, a grandma filmed it, and the couple were arrested. They now are on trial, could get up to 20 years in prison, and up to a $10,000 fine.
molesters and don't even get that kind of time.
Those of you that know me, know that I am pretty much an outdoorsy kinda gal. I love to fuck outside, the feel of a gentle breeze, the sun on my skin, or light rain. I love it all. I understand that you would not want you to see it. But as I thought of the circumstances. Here is a grandma that is bitching about a couple having sex on the beach. What is she doing? Is she packing up and taking her 4 year old grandkid away from such horrid behavior? No. She is standing on the beach filming it all for over 25 minutes!
So, I will continue my outdoor sexcapades. Some advice for those of you who like the feel of sand in your crack...Watch out for those little old ladies, otherwise it's gonna cost ya.
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Another one bites the dust....
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Posted:Apr 30, 2015 4:22 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2015 6:05 am
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Frankly, I am at a loss. No matter how many times and how big of font I use, I still get a bunch of shit. I know why married guys lie about being single. If some of us knew they were married, they know we wouldn't come within a million miles of them. I am not looking for marriage like a desperate lady. I haven't been married ever, so I am good with that. I love , but don't have any, so I am not looking for a way to stop by biological clock. I would just like a like minded fwb who has a cute smile, and an intelligent and imaginative mind. Oh, and can he be single?
Look MARRIED MEN...LOOK ELSEWHERE. There are a million reasons why fucking a married man can go so wrong. You think your wife is going to ask me out to lunch when she finds out? Nope. She is going to go for blood. In a small town, everyone knows each other. You could lose your job, she could vandalize your car, turn friends against you, talk about you at church (yes this all really happened). While you have no idea that the lying bast*rd even has a wife and four .
Then there are the issues such as I don't want to be apart of being the "Other" woman. Yea, I know I am fantastic. I'm smart, witty, and so much fun in bed...But you sir, are never going to leave your wife no matter how unhappy you are. But thanks for putting me into that unwilling situation.
I am an honest person, probably too naive, but I have had it. If you are married, leave me the fuck alone. And this separated bullsh8t is even worse, because you are delusional and in denial. Or you had a tiff with your wife, so you are separated for the weekend.
I realize that married men are only looking to satisfy their needs that their wives can't give them. How about all married liars women and men fuck each other? Sorry for the rant, but here I am again sitting here at a loss.
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Social Media's Impact
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Posted:Apr 29, 2015 8:06 pm
Last Updated:May 1, 2015 7:34 pm
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Social Media’s Impact on Relationships By Shelley Galasso Bonanno, MA
~ 2 min read
Social Media Computer Couple Human beings yearn for connection and belonging. Numerous studies have linked social support to positive mental health. Additional studies have cited the negative emotional impact of loneliness. Research has further revealed people with fewer social relationships die earlier on average than those with more social relationships. Yet with the rise of social media, there are concerns many people appear to be substituting virtual, online connections for real-life, social relationships.
There is no question the Internet is an enormously popular, convenient and immediately gratifying way to connect with others. Social media sites such as Facebook cite nearly one billion users worldwide. It certainly offers us an instant audience and attention. It allows us the luxury of easily keeping in touch. It can help combat feelings of loneliness. It allows us to keep tangible markers of times and places, archived for us, and available for all to see.
There is no question the Internet has offered many a convenient way to locate, reconnect and rekindle relationships that otherwise may have been lost. But what precisely does “friending” individuals on sites such as Facebook offer in the form of emotional connection? Many question the superficiality of such “friendships,” which often leave one frustrated, lonely and struggling to connect on a deeper, more emotionally meaningful level. And there is concern that individuals might forego their real-life interactions in order to maintain online communication.
Many of those we “friend” on Facebook are also real-life friends. Should we be concerned about a trend toward developing online network connections instead of nurturing face-to-face relationships? How influential are our online “friends” able to be if we do not maintain a real-life relationship with them? As with anything, balance seems to be the key. Real-life relationships are unmatched for emotional and physical closeness.
Studies and personal experience reveal people tend to put their best foot forward while interacting on social media. Displays of emotional weakness, insecurity, or conflicts generally tend to be concealed or minimized on social networking sites. It is often difficult, if not impossible, on social media to reveal the qualities that define deep, intimate relationships. While our social media friends offer us a great deal, it is not a true substitute or even supplement for real-life interactions with others.
Social support can be a strong predictor of positive mental health. Emotional support has been shown to protect us from a wide array of both psychiatric and physical ailments. But unlike online friendships, real-life relationships take time and effort. They help us learn about others and ultimately ourselves.
Online friendships, while certainly valuable in many ways, lack the ability to provide us with opportunities for deep and lasting emotional closeness. So accept and seek out your online friends, rekindle lost connections and revisit childhood friendships, as long as it is not at the expense of nurturing and deepening your real-life relationships.
References
Cacioppo, J.T., & Patrick, B. (200. Loneliness: Human nature and the need for social connection. New York, NY: Norton.
Cacioppo, S., Capitanio, J.P., & Cacioppo J.T. (2014, September 15) Toward a Neurology of Loneliness. Psychological Bulletin. Advanced online publication.
Cohen, S. (2004). Social Relationships and Health. American Psychologist, 674-84.
Geller, J. (2000). Loneliness: An overlooked and costly health risk factor. Minnesota Medicine, April 2000, vol. 83.
Holt-Lunstad, J., Smith, T.B., & Layton, J.B. (2010). Social relationships and mortality risk: A meta-analytic review. PloS Medicine, doi: 10.1371/journal.pmed.1000316
Holt-Lunstad, et al., Loneliness and social isolation as risk factors for mortality. Perspect Psychol Sci, doi: 10.1177/1745691614568352, published online 11 March 2015.
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Rogue Emoticons
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Posted:Apr 28, 2015 6:32 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2015 7:22 pm
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OK, so when I put no exceptions in my profile, a smiley face appears in the word "exceptions". When I am talking about seriously NO exceptions, I do not want a smiley face in there. I noticed that the site has done this in other's profiles as well.
NO MARRIED MEN-NO EXCEPTNS. NO SMOKERS. NO DRUGS. NO DISEASES.
I don't mind the little smileys, and I use them myself, but at my own discretion.
So I get these wonderful messages that say..."I'm married but..." really.
Does anyone else experience these rogue emoticons?
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Intelligence is hot
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Posted:Apr 25, 2015 9:38 am
Last Updated:Jul 8, 2015 7:57 pm
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Challenge my mind, and I'll be your slut. Mmmmm.
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Mississippi Gulf Coasters-New Group
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Posted:Apr 25, 2015 7:08 am
Last Updated:Apr 25, 2015 8:00 am
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I started a new group to link the Mississippi Gulf Coast to others with similar interests. Please visit and share ideas, hook-ups, places for fun, advice, and more. I'm just seeing if there is any interest out there for a group.
To link to this group (Mississippi Gulf Coasters) use Mississippi Gulf Coasters
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To link to this blog (rm_fun2play6709) use [blog rm_fun2play6709] in your messages.
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