The Lost Art of the Seduction
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Posted:Nov 2, 2010 9:10 am
Last Updated:Jan 10, 2011 11:20 am
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When did “My, you seem very lovely, I would like to get to know you”, get replaced by “Wanna see my cock”? Is that what we have reduced ourselves to, defining ourselves as worthy partners based on our willingness to show our genitals? Is there no more mystery? Has the ability to broadcast yourself to whomever is willing to look doing various levels of sex acts either alone or with others the way to meet people? I would hate to think that because if it is, I will be a very lonely woman.
Seriously, guys, I realize that you do get overcome by raging hormones when the thought of someone looking at your erection enters you larger head, but most women would rather have you say something sweet, clever, and creative. It can be suggestive, but if so, subtle and witty. I for one can say without any second thoughts that if I like you as a person, you can have a baby carrot between your legs and I would make love to it and you like it was 10” long. Conversely, an ass hole with a large cock, a selfish lout with an enhanced sense of self worth, does nothing for me. I think it’s insulting to women to think that all we care about is your dick. We don’t, as long as you have one, we can make do with it. This is one step from cave men clubbing and dragging a woman back to his cave. Just not sure if its a step up or down, just that it is one step away.
Do all you care about is the size of our breasts? If so, am I in trouble.
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wow, a real date
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Posted:Oct 24, 2010 6:39 am
Last Updated:Nov 2, 2010 9:00 am
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It's been a while but I actually went on a real date. Not just going someplace with somebody like a movie or a club, but the whole thing. Dinner, conversation, a walk afterward, then coffee before we said goodnight. I felt human, like I haven't felt in a while and there was no sex. Just two people communicating with our minds, our selves, and not our bodies. There was sexual tension, i'm not sure he knew it but had he said the word, i would have been all over him, but he didn't. he's older, mid-20's, and lives with a roommate in brooklyn which to me is a world unto itself that I would never try to explore on my own. I met him in a bodega. I was making myself a salad from the salad bar, well, at least the parts that looked least sneezed upon. As i turned he was looking at me. He mentioned something like I seemed to be a picky eater. I told him I just was looking for stuff that wasn't going to make me ill. We chatted briefly, and then he went his way, I went mine. Two days later, I saw him again. This time we went to starbucks and I got to know him a bit. When he asked if he could call me, I said yes. He did, and voila, first date.
I can say it was my first "adult" date. He wanted to get to know me as a person, though I realize that its just a strategy to get to the fun stuff but that's cool, I mean, I want the same thing. I just feel good that he respected me enough not to think I was a sure thing just because he bought me dinner. It's been 7 hours since we kissed goodnight and the clock as to when/if he calls back will not start until at least 24 hours have passed.
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E-mail of the week II
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Posted:Oct 3, 2010 5:01 am
Last Updated:Oct 22, 2010 2:24 am
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This one speaks for itself, he is just so enlightened that I feel fortunate he took the time to tell me what he thinks of me. Silly me though, I'm just glad that by sending this, I was able to make him feel better.
seekupyou
27 year old Man
Cheektowaga, New York
Get over yourself.
Oct 2, 2010 11:07 PM EDT
I hate to do this but I feel I have to. You're like a super bitch. 1. You aren't that hot. 2. Nobody cares what you have to say. 3. Learn how to cook, clean and do laundry - you will need these skills sooner than later 4. Put a cock in your mouth and shut the fuck up. Glad I got that off my chest. The world needs less bitches like you.
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Dick for a Day
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Posted:Sep 29, 2010 9:05 am
Last Updated:Oct 6, 2010 6:33 am
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If I had a dick, would I feel like I owned the world and not just a person renting my space? Would the sky be bluer, the grass greener, or the sun warmer? I know I’d have to buy new clothes because nothing would fit properly. I mean, I assume I would have a rather large one, that’s the arrogance in me speaking. Besides, I like to wear skirts and that may not be a good look especially in public. Nevertheless, seriously, does the dick make the man? Does it drive his every thought and impulse? Is it not the dick at all but the ball sack where the testosterone is made? Why isn’t this stuff covered in high school biology, well, at least in the archaic catholic School I attended where the world was created in 6 days was taught it wasn’t covered. Maybe it was the week I had mono. Bad timing, I suppose. I need to understand the power of the dick as I go through life misunderstanding how men tick. Having two older brothers is not enough. My education from them is duck and cover. Avoid the punches, ignore the crude comments, and the endless hours in the bathroom doing to themselves what they want the girl they are envisioning to do to them.
If I had a dick for a day, I think I would then have all the necessary information to end my confusion. I don’t mean having access to one for utilitarian use; I mean have the whole package hanging down. I would know why they don’t call back when they say they will or roll off and be dialing the pizza place almost simultaneously with their orgasm. Having a dick would allow me to understand why cuddling after sex is wrong or what does emotions and feelings got to do with it. I would be able to do my thing to whomever I wanted and not feel like it was nothing more than a handshake. Well, perhaps a genital shake, but still, keep it casual, like two dogs in the park. That’s what I want, to get it. To understand why nature has created two genders who are wired to think and act so diametrically opposed to one another than expect us to get along.
With a vagina, I can miss the end of a movie to talk to my best friend and could care less about my fantasy team and would never check my phone to see how it’s doing while having sex. I can tell you how I feel, why what you may have done, or not done, has hurt me more than you will ever know, but also, with my equipment, I don’t realize that when I talk about that stuff, it’s white noise to your dick-fueled brain.
I think if I had a dick I would be able to get all that. I wouldn’t want to change you guys, not for a second. If I didn’t like men, I would have stayed in my former lesbian relationship. Just want to break the code so you get me, I get you, and we get each other. Is that too much to ask?
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e-mail of the week
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Posted:Sep 26, 2010 5:59 am
Last Updated:Dec 27, 2010 9:25 pm
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Here is an example of the kinds of e-mails I get. I left his member name because he needs to be cited for his exceptional ability to convey his inner most thoughts. Funny, says he wouldn't waste his time on someone like me, but then takes the time to send an e-mail. Then, in true cowardly fashion, he turns off his e-mail.
More mouth than ass? did he just coin a new phrase?
anyway, just got a laugh out of this guy's e-mail and wanted to share it with anyone who may "give a shit".
Sweetcox4u
55 year old Man
Springfield Gardens, New York
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Sep 26, 2010 7:36 AM EDT
you write all this shit about your personel IM ,who give a shit ,so you think you all that,if you were you would get a better member ship, another 20 year old trying to be a mature women, i have one rule i dont waste my time with some one that has more mouth then ass,
This member has opted to turn off receiving mail at this time. Most times, this means that the member is taking a break from Affairlook, only wishes to contact others, or visit people in the chatrooms
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the wildest place you had sex?
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Posted:Sep 20, 2010 8:43 am
Last Updated:Nov 17, 2010 6:29 am
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I am intrigued by this question and how people answer it. there is that famous blooper from a game show like 100 years ago when they asked the wife where was the strangest place she and her husband had sex and she said in the ass. Talk about misunderstanding a question! That's not what I want to know, i'm pretty sure everyone one this site has had anal sex at least 14 dozen times just this month! I mean location and circumstance. doesn't have to be intercourse, it could be oral sex, hand jobs, anything that brought an orgasm to you and or your partner. No, jerking off in the last pew in church does not count, has to be with another person. I think there should be some risk of getting caught involved, perhaps a bit of a taboo feature associated with it as well.
As for me, the wildest place I ever had sex was, well, in my ass!!!! lol 
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cumming on cam......for me....really?
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Posted:Sep 10, 2010 9:28 am
Last Updated:Aug 1, 2018 4:53 pm
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A lot of you guys page me and ask me to watch yourself cum for me. I guess I understand the sentiment but really, are you really cumming for me? Seems if i'm not there inducing and enjoying it exactly how is it in any way shape or form for me? Be serious, you page like dozens of women with the same line hoping one accepts. Boy, doesn't that thought make me feel special....
Honestly, watching you guys stroking is not really a turn on for me. Now, if we were in a relationship, then watching one another masturbate can be a very sexy thing to do, but like this, has no affect on me whatsoever.
Hate to burst the bubble, but my guess is that most of the ones that do let you cum on cam for them are probably not really women, but I'm just guessing....have no proof, lol.
take care, see you all soon in the blogosphere
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Unravelling the Mystery
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Posted:Sep 4, 2010 5:54 am
Last Updated:Sep 10, 2010 4:23 am
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many people recognize and ask me about the head line on my profile as the opening to Bob Dylan's "Visions of Johanna". They assume I am a Dylan fan and while I do enjoy much of his music, I would not categorize myself as a big fan. I respect what he has written and also have a sense of his importance to the music scene but I leave it at that. So why the line?
I grew up in a house with a father that still thinks Bob Dylan is the greatest songwriter we have ever seen so Dylan music was played, and still is, in the house, the car, wherever. Perhaps coincidentally, my name is Joanna, not exactly the name in the song title, but close enough to make me wonder if i was conceived while the song was playing in the background. Not that its a bad name, i mean I could have been named Hurricane, right?
Anyway, the reason for the line having significance to me is that i have always been fascinated by the night. Darkness, the complete absence of light, makes the world a different place. As a , I was frightened by the dark until I was told that there in nothing in the dark that isn't there in the light. I was told not to think of it being a state of no light, but to use what available light there was to see things in a different way. So the clothes tossed haphazardly on my dresser drawer began to resemble other things. A sleeping dog, a big bowl of ice cream, whatever my mind allowed it to be, it was. So the tricks the night played weren't necessarily bad ones, but they were enough to keep my overactive mind going as i tried to morph the shadowy images into as many things as i could, sort of like seeing a or duck in cloud formations. In may ways, those nighttime exercises have turned me into the art student I have now become. I do not look at thinks as they are, but I allow the available light to allow my eye to see it as it can be. I know, sounds like a bunch of nonsense and perhaps I am not explaining it properly, but that's the story of the Dylan line.
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don't be creepy
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Posted:Sep 1, 2010 8:12 am
Last Updated:Sep 27, 2010 4:32 am
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Its fun to chat with people about sex. i mean, i have revealed some of my deepest secrets to complete strangers, things that if i tell someone who actually knows me would walk away shaking their head. We all have those little fantasies, desires, yearnings that others may deem weird. Still, having said that, some people can still come off as creepy on here. They ask ridiculous questions, often times three or four in a row without the courtesy of allowing a person to respond. They seem normal, then all of a sudden, they get weird and scary. Just so you know, on a first chat, i am not telling you which school I attend nor where I live. You won't find out where i work, nor my schedule. Its not being rude, its just being careful. So please, be sexy if we chat, don't hold back, but when you feel you may have crossed a line, you probably have already. I'm polite, i will nicely deny your request for anything I am not comfortable sharing, take that as a hint to not push the subject. I am a nice person, but some people make it difficult to be that way.
Anyway, back at school, not much to do this week. Spent most of yesterday giving the on my floor the your of the area; markets, bodega's, cheap sushi places, non-starbucks coffee places, etc. Seems weird that just two years ago I was dropped off in NYC scared to death of being left alone. Now, I'm giving tours and assuring this that they too will be fine.
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I have a question
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Posted:Aug 25, 2010 8:38 am
Last Updated:Oct 5, 2010 4:03 am
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Lots of guys will page or e-mail and ask if I would like to meet right now or later that day for a quick hook up. The question is does that really work? has any guy actually e-mailed or paged a perfect stranger make that suggestion and the answer was yes? If it has, please tell me if it was good as what you thought. If it has never worked for anyone, is it just clinging to that fantasy that someday someone will say yes? I'm not judging, i just want to know because I can never envision myself doing that. Needs to be a bit of a process so i feel safe enough that I won't be sold into slavery in some breakaway republic of which no one has heard. Just wondering, that's all.
Headed back to NYC this weekend, probably Saturday. School starts after labor day, but I'm an RA this year. Not looking forward to the duties of being one, but do like the free housing.
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Summer colds
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Posted:Aug 19, 2010 11:32 am
Last Updated:Aug 23, 2010 10:23 am
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Is there anything worse than a summer cold? I mean, its hot out, the sun is shining, the birds are singing, and I'm curled up on the sofa wrapped in a blanket with a brown grocery bag filled with used tissues always at my side. How did I get this thing has been crossing my mind. Who would be so insensitive to give me their heinous germs. No one at home is sick.....yet, so even if i wanted to blame a family member, I couldn't. That's brings up another point, doesn't it suck when you can't find someone else to blame for what is going wrong in your life?
Always in a state of trying to harness a sneeze makes for some very unflattering facial contortions. The red nose, rubbed that way even though you have the aloe laced tissues, also doesn't help matters either. Just as an aside, never try to clean your glasses with a lotion infused tissue.
A cup of chicken noodle soup was left steaming on the table in front of me but I haven't the energy to get up, so it will soon be as unappetizing as it is unreachable. The crackers seem to require to much effort first to chew, then to deal with the ensuing mess of crumbs. I am being mocked by my lunch.
Daytime TV leaves much to be desired. I flip channels without even bothering to see what's on because everything seems boring. If its not an infomercial, its a judge type thing, or a movie with people who have been dead so long even their surviving ancestors have no idea who they are.
My eyes close sporadically, sometimes for a second, others for an amount of time that may be minutes, but has you feeling as if you've been asleep for hours. The lawnmowers next door prevent any real chance of sleep. So does my who feels it is her job to lick my face every time she walks into the room. Can a catch a human cold?
I need a nap. I've needed one as soon as I woke up feeling as crappy as I do. Seems like such a waste of a beautiful summer day. I mean, IF you need to be inside all day, there are other, more fun ways to do it than in my jammies with a snout full of gunk.
I'm done for now. Pass the Ny-Quil, i don't care what time it is!
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Found a subject that is off limits
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Posted:Aug 7, 2010 9:47 am
Last Updated:Oct 3, 2010 8:59 am
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My latest blog post, which was up briefly, was taken down due to subject matter. i understand that this site is owned by a major media corporation and their lawyers have set up parameters so that the nerdy guys in DC watching what is talked about here can't storm the offices with a warrant, but I can't figure out where the boundaries lie. I mean, if we're not supposed to cross them, wouldn't it help if we knew where they were?
I have been asked some things that even I find offensive even if they were said in jest. So as a test, I am going to list some things here as a means to push the envelope. Hopefully we will learn together what truly is offensive:
1-War
2-oil spills
3-same sex marriage bans
4-tax hikes with less services
5-political polarization
6-racism
7-sexism
8-homelessness
9-hunger
10-border fences
11-eminent domain
12-government controls
13-reality TV, esp jersey shore
14-vampires
15-$5 cups of coffee
still here? guess these aren't offensive
ok, let's turn up the throttle a bit:
1-anonymous sex with the first person you see wearing a red t-shirt
2-peeing on someones face
3-gang bangs
4- fantasies
5-
6-pornography
7-unprotected sex
8-anal sex in Macy's window on Thanksgiving morning
9-giving the finger to a nun
10-double dipping a chip
11-not having a nice day when someone tells you to do so
12-tearing the label off your mattress
13-wearing a Red Sox hat in Yankee Stadium
14-role playing as %%$%^& and **&^^))( doing &^%$# at the &&&^*( reunion while ((*^%^% watches and strokes **&^%%('s cock. (guess they got to this one)
15-sitting back and taking anything anyone in power is allowed to thrust on us just because THEY say so.
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changing parties
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Posted:Aug 5, 2010 1:25 pm
Last Updated:Nov 16, 2010 2:17 pm
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Ok, i have come full circle sexuality wise. I went from straight to bisexual to almost exclusively lesbian, now I am back to being straight. I mean, I still would enjoy a woman but only in a threesome thing like with a couple. While away I spent the time with my former lover, a much older man who is a painting teacher and who taught the class in France, and his new girlfriend. While I had my own accommodations, he would sneak into my room now and then so we could rekindle what we had years ago. Other nights, I would be invited to be with the two of them and that was brought me to new heights of sexual awareness. So, while I still will enjoy a woman now and then, I have rededicated myself to the quest for cock... I have a lot of time for which I need to atone.
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