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Fan List
Posted:Jul 9, 2014 6:31 pm
Last Updated:Jul 11, 2016 9:43 pm
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Is the top fan list a good idea?
Yes, I love it and I'm participating
It's ok but I'm not doing it
Oh come on! Ir's a way for the site to get more money out of you!
Are you kidding me?!? It's dumb.
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Control 3
Posted:May 31, 2014 11:58 pm
Last Updated:Jul 9, 2014 6:13 pm
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Friday! She couldn’t believe how long the week took to end. If one more request came across her desk she would have lost her mind. All that was behind her now, she was meeting a friend at a local club and she was going to forget the week and have some fun. She didn’t want to go home so she had brought a change of clothes, changing in the bathroom at work had been done before so she changed quickly for the night and was out the door. She liked the skirt, it was one that was easy to cram into a bag and she liked the way it brushed against her legs when she walked or danced. It had been payday so she knew she had a little extra cash tonight so a couple drinks and some dancing would be good. The sandals she wore screamed summer but she liked them more for the little bit of height they gave her, she had her bag over her shoulder and was ready to walk the few blocks to the train.

Sitting on the train she watched the people around her with half her attention, the ear buds in her ears kept her content listening to some music instead of all the chatter. She liked to people watch, trying to figure out what each person was thinking was a game she liked to play. All these people, where did they come from and where were they going. The older lady with her stiff bulky purse, always ready to pull out a tissue or a piece of gum to give to the young that was with her. He was maybe four, gripping the string of the animal cracker box. Every time he pulled out a new one he would proudly tell the woman what it was and make the sound the animal made. She would give him praise and them he would eat the poor creature head first, of course if you thought about it that was the most humane way to do it. The teenagers on their phones either talking or texting, were they connecting with each other or someone that couldn’t make it. Suddenly her own phone vibrated in her pocket, it was her friend letting her know she was running late. She would meet her at the bar in the front, that was fine it would give the woman a little extra time to chat with the bartender. He was a flirt and could always find something to talk about more than likely because it brought in better tips.

She walked into the club and ordered her drink, standing a little on her toes she chatted with the guy that promised to make her a drink that would be better than anything she had ever had. Suddenly she had a feeling, something to her right was pulling at her to look that way. She turned and standing a short distance away was a man, with the slightest grin on his face but his eyes were bright and added to the look. He was dressed as casual as she but you could tell he spent his work day in meetings discussing things that the onlooker wouldn’t care about even if they knew what was being discussed. His arms were resting on the bar and he was leaning toward it so she knew he had to be tall and the legs in the soft looking jeans said he kept in shape doing something more physical that just running on a treadmill a few days a week. He said hi and she was ready to turn the other way thinking he was talking to someone else, but his eyes were focused on her and suddenly she felt like she was sucked in. The space became a little smaller, the air more heated, she liked the way he looked and his voice was one that she could listen to for quite a while. That’s what they did, they sat at a table and talked. What they talked about wasn’t really important, it was fun, new, a little exciting and it brought on ideas that this could turn out to be something more. “So what are you looking for?” he asked her, she laughed again because she never really knew how to answer that question. Just that second she had an idea but what she wanted for her future she didn’t know and preferred that it unfold without any forceful plan from her. So instead of being direct with the one answer and vague with the other she gave an answer to something in between. “To be in a place at the right time, not of my choosing and have no control over what happens but to feel safe with the person that makes that decision.”. Still smiling he acknowledged the answer with a tilt of his head that reminded her of the men in a western when they touched the brim of their hats in respect to a women.

The evening went on, her friend never showed but it didn’t matter because she was enthralled with this guy. It was if he knew something about her and was able to use that information to his advantage. It was getting late and even though she had no urge to leave she had to catch the last train, getting stuck in the city all night wasn’t an option. She had to say goodbye and she hoped it wouldn’t be the last time she saw him. She took a deep breath to catch his smell, part cologne but most of it him. It was a scent, something that she was so attracted to that in a room full of other people she would be able to find him blindfolded. The next hurdle would be when it was time to leave would he ask to exchange numbers so she could see him again?

They walked out of the club together, the farewell not happening yet. The result of her saying she had to leave to catch the train didn’t result in the exchange in numbers but an offer to take her home or at least to the train station so she wouldn’t have to walk the distance in the dark. So they made their way to his car talking less but that was alright. They made it to his car, an SUV and when he went to open the door to let her in something changed, that wasn’t what happened, what did take place she would never forget…
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Control 2
Posted:May 31, 2014 11:56 pm
Last Updated:May 10, 2024 4:36 am
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His life had become a pattern of the same thing over and over, as if there had been a video taken of a minute of his life and played on a constant loop. Each day he would get up and go through the same routine to the point that if someone were to want to seek him out they could at any second of the day. He knew he should really break free from it but why really, to be caught up in another loop or a case of someone else’s drama? So he stayed where he was at least comfortable with the thoughts in his head. Suddenly things changed for him, without warning there was a shift and everything changed. He didn’t know which one of his senses alerted him first but it was immediate, as if he had suddenly learned to breath immersed in a lake with the surface feet above his head. He had been at his usual spot for lunch, sitting with the same friends from work and having the same set of conversations. That’s when he paused, looked out the window and in that instant a second in time was missed and he was off track. He had skipped a moment in his loop and could feel the world slip slightly off it’s axes. A smart man would simply lean a little the other way and it would right itself again, but who ever said it wasn’t smart to close your eyes and take the leap, what’s the worst that could happen…

It was in that second that he noticed her, standing in the parking lot texting on her phone. She looked so serious, concentrating on what she was reading as if she would need to solve the problems of the world with just the few words she would type in next. Then a smile crept onto her face, starting with her eyes, sliding down to her mouth and capturing her entire face. That look is what caught him and made him leave the restaurant and walk out the front door toward something new.

He leaned against the corner of the building, hands in his pockets and a pair of sunglasses covering his eyes so the world didn’t know he was really watching her intently, ready to move if she did to at least see where she went. She turns and walks toward the sidewalk and he follows still at a safe distance but close enough that he can catch the stride of her walk and the shake of her butt without anyone obstructing his view. She wasn’t very tall, maybe just above 5 feet but she moved fast and he was glad for his height and long legged stride. His heartbeat was picking up speed, not because he was exerting himself but because of her. When she stops at the corner he catches up to her and is so close he could reach out and touch her, invade her space, alert her to his presence and settle himself into her mind like she had done to him. For now he decides just to watch her, to get to know her without being known. He watches her during the entire walk to her office building, through the doors into the cool interior of the building so different from the heat outside. They move into the elevator, again so close he was just a breath away but holds it in case she could hear him and then turn and break this feeling of mystery that enthralled him bordering on insanity so close to the loss of all reason in a place a man cannot return from. She gets off the elevator and he moves close to the front not getting off but making it impossible for the doors to close. Other passengers get off giving him a smile of thanks as if he was doing them a favor. But what he was really doing was delaying the moment he would travel down to the street and back into his loop where it was boring but at least safe. He sees her step into an office, she stops, leans over the counter towards the receptionist sharing a moment of free conversation with what looks like a friend. Standing on her tiptoes so she can rest her arms on the top of the shiny black surface she suddenly laughs and it hits him, he doubts he will go back to that loop ever again.

He followed her quite a bit that first week, learning her routines as if they were his. He knew she loved sushi, would bite her lip when she was in the store choosing the right things to buy. She loved music, wearing her headphones to listen to her iPod, sometimes humming or whispering the words. When someone world turn and look at her with a smile she would blush slightly a burst of air leaving her lungs then turn and start humming again. She loved going to the bookstore, hunting to find the right book, opening it up to read the back cover and sneaking a peak at the last few pages. She would bring the book up close and smell the new pagers as if it was something she needed to do to live. He followed her instead of meeting up with his friends. He had even missed an appointment one day, of course it was the dentist and quite honestly who wouldn’t? He never really thought about it but it was as if she was exerting control over him. Even if he had to he wouldn’t break free from this feeling, it was just too good to resist.

Then suddenly it happens again, a moment he couldn’t give up. She had dressed for fun on a Friday night, stepping into a local club that was popular with the college students to the professionals shedding themselves of their work outfits and the responsibilities for the night. As she walks up to the bar, starts a conversation with the bartender and orders a drink he decides to step into her world and make himself known, to see where this thing that changed his life will go. He’s decided it’s time to quit staying back and just watching, close his eyes and jump into the leap. Whether it was his will or hers he didn’t know or care, he could feel the control she had over him with just her presence, he knew he could end up giving up all his control with her eyes focused on him but it was worth it. He could give all his control over to her, he knew it would be worth it in the end…
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Control
Posted:May 31, 2014 11:30 pm
Last Updated:Jul 9, 2014 6:14 pm
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He walked up to the women, in a second he appeared when before he hadn’t been seen. She’s standing at the bar chatting with the bartender as if they had known each other for years. It’s a chance meeting, he saw her and thought, this was the time to say hello. He liked her enthusiasm, the sound of excitement in her voice and on her face when she was given the answer to a question. He could see that if she could discover the solution to a problem the excitement would light up her face and carry over to those around her. She loved his smile, it was fun, his eyes would light up and she was just dying to ask what he was thinking because that smile had to have more to do with what was in his head than the happenings around him. As they strike up a conversation he laughs at something she says and it illicits a smile, the sound of his voice and laughter draws her farther in. The girl thinks to herself that this is a guy she would love to get to know and after some more chatting maybe there could be something much more. His laugh makes her warm and her skin feels tight. There’s a light sheen of sweat on her skin, just his appearance does things to her mind and even from this distance she can inhale deeply and swear that his scent is something she will crave if she’s never around it again. She thinks it must have been luck, for her to be standing right here when he walked in. Little does she know but the man that’s talking to her knows quite a bit about her, he’s been watching her for quite some time…
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Celebrate!!!
Posted:Jun 5, 2008 12:27 am
Last Updated:Jun 5, 2008 3:28 pm
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O.k., this is just a fun post but.....I love hockey!!!! I can get into the world series but the rest of the season, ehh. Hockey is my sport. In 1999, I lived in the Flint area and it was one of my "things to do before I die" to go to a Detroit Red Wings Game. I was able to go to a regular season game that year and it was beyond incredible. I love everything about hockey. The fast pace, the strategy, the booing at the bad calls, even the 80's music that is played a majority of the time,(of course I was a in the 80's so it is my decade), and then...the fights. Those 3 twenty minute periods are some of the best times I have ever had. Well clothed anyway. So where is this all leading too? What do you think?

DETROIT WINS DETROIT WINS DETROIT WINS

Yes, the Stanley Cup is retuning to Hockey Town! It was a sad night on Monday when the Wings fell in the 3rd overtime but the team came back and won on Wednesday. For those of you that were in the opposing corner, your team played a good series and for a young group of guys they did quite a job, (my hats of to your goalie). But my heart belongs to the NHL hockey team that resides in Michigan. (there is a team in Kalamazoo and Grand Rapids from other leagues as well as the hockey played at WMU.) In the coming days I get to celebrate and watch the little bits and pieces of the teams return and celebration that takes place in Detroit on the news as well as bask in the glow of another wonderful season of Hockey. Then comes the long wait for a new season to begin. For Tonight though....

DETROIT WINS!! DETROIT WINS!! DETROIT WINS!!
Welcome back to Michigan Stanley, you know there are many that love you here.
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Allowed To Do
Posted:Apr 26, 2008 1:08 am
Last Updated:May 31, 2014 11:58 pm
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As a gold member, I am able to wander around this site and have just about every perk there is. So I was wondering....what can standard members do? There are quite a few interesting members in my area that are listed as standard members. So how do they let others know that they are interested in starting at least a conversation with other members? Do these members just have to sit and wait to be noticed? Can they look at others profiles to see if there is anyone out there that might be a good connection? Are they allowed to get a hello or at least a wink to others to let them know they like what they see?
It can be a bit hard for a paying customer on this site to even get info to a standard member. I have found that even getting all of the information on my profile to a standard member in an email does not happen. They must be satisfied with simply the first section. I took the time to fill out everything including the additional questions because I want people to know as much about my wants that I can and then it seems that only a select few can read this information. I have been told by network friends that they are unable to see the photos in my albums and I get answers to mail I send more than a month later because it took that long for a standard member to get it!!!!
Does anyone else get tired of how tightly controlled this site is? I have checked out other sites and there are quite a few that give you a few more perks without paying and a few months ago I saw a show on a cable station about people who have made it big dealing with sex. The CEO of this site was, if I remember correctly, number two on the list. So a big hmmm goes out to paying and non paying members. Do you wish there were more ways to communicate with others? Or am I one of the few who feel for those who do not pay for perks? Is it just that I happen to notice those that are here but not really serious or are there some really great people with some true interest in connecting that are standard? What do other paying customers seeing as a bother and a bit ridiculous? I would love to know!!!

P.S.
The private number perk I talked about last month....it was a bust!!! Don't go there it is a total waste of money and I am now pretty sure that there is no way of knowing that someone has this service or has invited you to call them. I hope I was able to save some people a few bucks that I unfortunately lost.
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Did I make a good decision?
Posted:Mar 22, 2008 3:38 pm
Last Updated:Jun 1, 2014 12:01 am
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Just recently, I signed up for the private calls option. It seemed like a good idea and it was not THAT expensive but after only one day I am a little concerned. When you go to the phone section there is not a lot of information about this benefit. When you sign up you need to enter your phone number and then you have five minutes to verify by calling the number they give you. BE WARNED it is not a toll free number!!!! Once you verify your number you can start inviting members to call you or wait for someone to invite you to call them. Of course at no time are you asked things like "when would it be a good time to call". I did invite some people to call me but I am starting to wonder if they too will have to sign up and pay for the service to call me? If this is so it is definitely a waste of money!! I am going to give it a couple of days but I am wondering and have many questions about this service. Does anyone know more about this deal? If you are thinking about adding this service you might want to find out more about it before you press the "BUY" button. I think I should have checked some posts before I signed up but better late than never and if it ends up being a waste of money I will be sure to let people know!!
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A New Fetish? No, it's not dirty.
Posted:Nov 20, 2007 4:48 pm
Last Updated:Oct 21, 2008 2:18 pm
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I admit, I have a new fetish. No, I'm not embarrassed, not surprised, I do admit I have a few, but this one is a bit different. I LOVE to collect bling!! I love those little squares of creativity, the funny ones, the sexy ones, the dirty ones and the beautiful ones. If it tickles my fancy and I do not have it, I snatch it up fast! I have made a couple of my own but I have yet to reach the caliber of many of the Affairlook art crew. I would love to know how they do it, when the ideas come to mind and the mechanics involved. Is the tiny size part of the allure? There are times I wish I could pocket them all, stick them in my pocket and pull them out whenever I am having a ho hum day. If it was the only bonus to paying for a gold membership I would probably still pay. I have yet to find a really expensive bling spot that I just have to do with out but I have paid before. I have to applaud the people that give them away for free. You guys are so sweet and I take a bow to the artistic spirit that you have when all you get from others is a simple thanks from the takers and are more than happy that we enjoy your labors. So here I am admitting, I have a thing for bling! Here's to those that continue to feed my fetish, may you never quit!!!
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Do you like the line....
Posted:Aug 12, 2007 4:26 am
Last Updated:Nov 20, 2007 4:31 pm
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After reading my share of profiles, I have noticed that some lines repeat themselves over and over. The one that I notice the most is "I'm not changing my life I'm just.....". After reading that line in likely more than 100 profiles I would have to say that it drives me crazy and turns me off. I would have to guess that the line came from suggestion section on Affairlook on some good things to write in a profile. I would not know for certain because I never looked for it when I wrote my bio!!! Whatever happened to originality and creativeness? Is it that hard to come up with something to write? Does anyone stop and think about who they are and what they are looking for? I know there are people out there that are not very good at expressing themselves but have we stopped trying? Members of Affairlook, take a moment and express yourself, do not just fill in the blanks, and for crying out loud FILL OUT ALL YOUR PERSONAL INFO! You might even find some of the additional questions fun, break loose and give a few a try and it might help you find someone who really fits what you are looking for!

How many other lines have other bloggers found in the profiles? Do any of them make you say "Oh please, not again", and do not get me started on those who do not know where the spell check icon is. I'll save that for another rant!!!
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A Decadent Day
Posted:Jul 8, 2007 1:49 pm
Last Updated:Jul 11, 2007 2:53 pm
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I have found a street in Coloma Michigan that is absolutely decadent!!
First I stop at The Chocolate Garden where they make Chocolate Truffles,Dark, Milk or White, it does not matter, they are all wonderful I really did not care about the price, (4.99 for a 2fer). Next door is Grandpa's Cider Mill. This is a little store with a bakery and sooo many different dips and sauces. There were plenty out for you to try. I enjoyed the blueberry butter, Sun-dried tomato vegetable dip, Raspberry mustard, Pineapple Salsa, and the Cherry Donuts. Oh, they had a Dark Chocolate Michigan Melt that is going to go great with some coffee. The next stop was the Contessa Wine Cellars. You can taste up to six different wines with small biscuits. I picked up some Cherry Fruit Table Wine, I will need something to go with my truffles. On the way back to the highway there is a little fruit stand, summer in Michigan these farms with fruit stands are a dime a dozen but it rounded off the afternoon.

Needless to say it was one of the best finds in a long time. If you are in the area don't forget to check it out. It is exit 35 on I-94 on Friday Rd. You can check out The Chocolate Gardens Website to order these truffles as well or to just read about it and get directions. If you want a longer day St. Joe and some Lake Michigan Beaches are just a stones throw away.

Enjoy!!!
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What to do durring summer break
Posted:Jul 6, 2007 7:51 pm
Last Updated:Nov 20, 2007 4:32 pm
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It is now the end of week five of my twelve week summer break and I am bored. I know, there are many people out there who think I am crazy or have absolutely no pitty for me, but I need a change. Gas prices are too high to travel far, the piles of novels I did not get a chance to read are great but my eye sight will go blurry if I read ALL the time, and I just cannot get motivated enough to clean my office.

So what is there to do? Every summer I end up with this same dilemma. One year I took a part time job but please....I am not interested in working. Another year I did home improvement projects. So many in fact that there really is not enough around the house to re due. Of course there is always prepare for the coming school year but...no. What do people do that are lucky enough to have a great deal of leisure time on their hands do? You can only look at a computer screen a certain amount of time and then you start to have trouble keeping your eyes focused, in fact everything you could possibly do starts to loose its luster if you do it for too long, (please do not start with the sex jokes after that last comment).

Anyone have some out of the box fun adventurous or not so adventurous hobbies that would be interesting to try? Let me know, before I start repainting the trim on my windows.
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