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I know the pieces fit cuz I watched them fall away
Mildewed and smoldering. Fundamental differing.
Pure intention juxtaposed will set two lovers souls in motion
Disintegrating as it goes testing our communication
The light that fueled our fire then has burned a hole between us so
We cannot see to reach an end crippling our communication.
I know the pieces fit cuz I watched them tumble down
No fault, none to blame it doesn't mean I don't desire to
Point the finger, blame the other, watch the temple topple over.
To bring the pieces back together, rediscover communication
The poetry that comes from the squaring off between,
And the circling is worth it.
Finding beauty in the dissonance.
I've done the math enough to know the dangers of our second guessing
Doomed to crumble unless we grow, and strengthen our communication.
Cold silence has a tendency to atrophy any
Sense of compassion
Between supposed lovers/brothers
Tool ~Schism~
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Watching a Train Wreck....
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Posted:Sep 13, 2008 5:46 pm
Last Updated:May 1, 2014 3:15 pm
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One of my good friends is entering into a relationship with an acquaintance of mine. This acquaintance has a history of being abusive in relationships. A man with excuses for his actions instead of heartfelt apologies.
I've tried warning her about him a couple of times to no avail. Her responses to me were flippant "I can handle myself just fine." Or overly optimistic "You know people do change everyday" Its frustrating to argue with someone who doesn't see the facts blaring right in front of themselves.
I just don't know how to best handle the situation. I'm caught between my belief in every persons right to make their own choices and the fact that history has a nasty habit of repeating itself. Add onto that the fact I think abusers just aren't really deserving of chances.
My options as I see it are, to continue to interfere possibly costing myself a friendship. To grudgingly accept it and hope/pray that I am proven wrong. Lastly I can just plain turn a blind eye avoiding the situation and the both of them...The old out of sight out of mind routine. What would you do?
Regardless of what I choose if anything is to happen my normally pacifistic nature will take a short vacation.
"I sense there's something in the wind
That feels like tragedy's at hand
And though I'd like to stand by her
Can't shake this feeling that I have
The worst is just around the bend..."
"What will become of my dear friend?
Where will her actions lead us then?
Although I'd like to join the crowd
In their enthusiastic cloud
Try as I may, it doesn't last..."
~Sally's Song~ The Nightmare Before Christmas
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A place to call home....
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Posted:Jul 26, 2008 4:02 pm
Last Updated:Aug 29, 2016 6:01 am
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Its been a long while since I've written anything at all. Not for a lack of things to talk about in honest my life the past year has been an interesting if not rough run. With really no place to truly call my home. Spending a bunch of time moving around and what not. Finally I've settled back in and have a place that I can call home....at least for now. 
Mostly I haven't written anything due to my circumstances and, partially because I feel that this is no longer a place I can call home. Sort of like cheers you know "Where everybody knows your name" and all that jazz. Communication isn't my strong point and at this point I don't really have the time/energy to reach out here and make new ones. Plus I kind of feel guilty about anyone I may have alienated by just up and dissapearing.
Have you ever left a place behind and wanted to come back to it a year/two/three later? Do you think people would be accepting and excited to see you....or just upset? If you were to return would it still be home?
RF
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Consequence or Circumstance??
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Posted:Jul 30, 2007 12:43 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2014 10:48 pm
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Karma is a very popular belief in western civilization. I understand why to its such a simple precept and very idealistic. A way for people to expect repayment from acts of kindness and retribution for wrongs done against them.
I just don't buy it I don't think things work quite that simply. Sure there definitely are consequences to every action. Those consequences however, can often have no or an inverse consequence upon the originator. Ie: Spreading a vicious rumor can make someone else look bad while making yourself look good. A poor example but you get the idea.
I'd say its hard to judge personal karma because most people including myself. Consider themselves to be basically good people. So I wont say I've been hit unfairly with karma. However, from observing the world and the people around me. That "fate" does not discriminate based on morals. I've seen great people fall upon the worst of circumstances through no fault of their own and the wicked have streaks of windfall and vice versa.
In an idealistic world I could believe in karma. Unfortunately the reality is bad people often get what they want and that being a good person does not always mean people or life will be good to you.
Do you believe in Karma? Have you seen it in action?
RF
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My Own Worst Enemy?
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Posted:Jul 26, 2007 12:37 am
Last Updated:May 5, 2014 7:44 pm
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First off I apologise to those who think I may have been ignoring them. Thats not the case I've just been overwhelmed with things lately. Lifes been messy lately and I'd rather not burden people themselves with concern for me. Its my fault alone for where I am so I should be responsible for that burden.
Now I have always considered myself a modest person....humble to a fault. I dont care for public recognition and if anything try to downplay my strengths and, avoid taking credit for positive things I do.
So that being said I'm being a bit hypocritical. As the one thing I can't let go of is simple pride. I probably make my life alot better for the moment. However that would take swallowing my pride and asking for help from people I'd much rather just not speak with. It wouldn't be a permanent solution at worst it would only buy some time....I guess thats part of it too I don't want to call in a favor I may not be able to repay, but moreso the problem is that I feel. By asking for help I'm giving up the last thing I'm proud of my independence.
I'm not going to ask what I should do because I know the obvious answer....and my response will be easier said than done. I will ask what value do you put on pride and at what point would you swallow it?
RF
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Straight from the land of......"Gidea"???
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Posted:Feb 5, 2007 9:11 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2014 9:41 pm
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A strange habit of mine whenever I step into a hotel room is to immediately go through the drawer to see if there is a Bible there. It's never failed no matter what country I was in or how off the beaten path the hotel was. They are always there and always say "Placed here by the Gideons."
My question is how do they get there and who exactly are these Gideons. Have you ever met one or even seen one for that matter. Yet their mark can be found all over the world. I even tried an experiment once where I took one and placed it in my bag before leaving the room for a day. When I came back there was another bible. How did they get in my room are they ninja's or is there some secret sect of "Housekeeping Gideons".
Who exactly decided that there should be a Bible in every hotel room? Where is there central base of operations is there a "Gidea"? How do they recruit...I mean if I wanted to become a Gideon could I apply or do they just choose people themselves.
Have you ever been to a hotel room without a Bible? Do you ever wonder just how things got there?
Oh as a side note this came up because of an argument. About whether taking a Bible from a hotel is stealing. I say no I think they want you to take them. I mean isn't that the point to spread the word. Anyway that argument from a person with Hilton bath towels just a little irony.
RF
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Definition please?
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Posted:Jan 22, 2007 11:13 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2014 9:40 pm
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I'm trying to figure out whether I should take the word Adorable as a compliment or not. A few women have used the word to describe me in recent past. I know I should probably take any compliment as just that. I have trouble with this one though just like many guys have a problem being called cute.
Going by my own outlook on the word its something I would say to a or maybe a kitten. I don't think I've ever called a woman adorable...check that I just don't use the word at all. However if I did it would be to describe something cute and childlike.
The dictionary gave me two different definitions.
1) Attractive worthy of adoration
2) Very charming usually in a naive way.
Naivete is not a character trait that I generally associate with myself. Do I come across as naive?
Women what do you mean when you describe a person as adorable? Men how would you take being called adorable?....or feel free to say shut up Flagg and learn to take a damn compliment.
RF
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Whats in a handshake?
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Posted:Jan 20, 2007 12:48 pm
Last Updated:Jun 4, 2014 7:57 pm
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I've been interviewing alot lately. Which hasn't been going to well. Basically because I just plain don't interview well. Selling myself just really isnt my thing. It makes me feel more like I'm being cocky instead of confident.
Anyway the first thing done is to give a handshake and introduce yourself. Shouldn't be a big deal. Right??? Wrong it seems I get all the worst handshakes ever.
There is the "Dead Fish" one which I can't understand. Why would you extend your hand and just leave it there. I find it insulting really its as though they don't want to shake my hand. I think the next time someone does this I should check their pulse.
Of course there is the opposite "The Ahnold". I don't know whether people do this, because they don't realize what they are doing or is it intentional. Either way I'd rather they didn't crush my hand well at least not my good one.
Then there is the "Ooey Gooey". I understand that some people have problems with sweating. However how much effort does it take to wipe your hand on a handkerchief or whatever before coming out to greet me. Its pretty hard to keep up a smile when my hand feels like I just dipped into a swamp.
Then there was one who I deemed "The Hokey Pokey". Because well basically he put his right hand in and shook it all about. Talk about over enthusiasm. I'm just glad he didn't dislocate my shoulder or something.
Lastly one person outright "Man Hugged" me. Now I don't mind that for someone you haven't seen in a while or to congratulate someone. It just seems a bit awkward for someone your looking to hire though. Maybe I was a bit touchy with this one though.
Is how someone handshakes important to you? Do you have any horror stories of them?
RF
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Gut Check?
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Posted:Jan 12, 2007 12:52 pm
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2014 3:42 pm
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Given incomplete information about a touchy situation which one should I listen to?
My Instinct
My Logic
My Heart
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Hey wanna trade?!?!?
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Posted:Jan 9, 2007 2:13 pm
Last Updated:Jun 4, 2014 7:57 pm
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I was flipping through the channels last night and I came across the show Wife Swap. Its a show I heard of but never thought I would end up watching. Simply because I found the very premise so outlandish.
The show takes two families and trades the wife/mother of the house. The wife gets to set any rules she likes and the family has to follow them.
This particular episode swapped a black devout christian mother who goes by the nickname "big mama". With a very liberal white atheist mother who was covered with both tattoos and piercings. She went by the nickname "Jinxi".
Big mama came into their house and was shellshocked. She exclaimed that she never saw a family who needed god more than them. She made the family attend church and go to a social. She also instituted the "Man Law" which deemed that men's only responsibility in the house was to provide. So she stuck all the housework on the sole of the family. While the boys and father were ordered to do nothing. Eventually the father rebelled against this rule. As punishment (why someone gets punished for helping out I wont understand) he had to preach out in public. Needless to say that didn't go over to well.
Jinxi immediately did away with the whole man rule in their house. Insisting that relationships were equal partnerships. The second thing she did was to get the out of the sheltered lives they led. She let the eldest go out on a date. Took the whole family to an art gallery. Gave the freer reign by allowing them to dress themselves and express their own personal style.
I don't think much was learned by either family to be honest as they pretty much returned to the way things were upon the wives return. The only things gleaned from it was that the Man Rule was archaic and foolish. On the other end Jinxi realized she let her job get in the way of spending time with her which she resolved to change. In all honesty the show benefits the audience most and I have no idea why people sign up for it.
Would you ever sign up for a show like this? Why?
If you found yourself in either of these houses what would you change?
RF
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The wonderful world of PITA or was it PETA I forget....
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Posted:Jan 7, 2007 5:48 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2014 9:37 pm
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Well we all know I am just a huge Pain In The Ass. Fortunately for me thats not what this post is about. Somehow I can see it degrading down that path though.
This post is about a recent culinary discovery I made. Pita bread its cheap lasts a bit longer than regular bread. Its bigger and has its own built in pouch.
Now it started with me using it simply for sandwiches. Soon I wondered what else I could use besides coldcuts. So I threw some eggs together to make an omelette de fromage a la pita. Next I made some chili which made for a pretty good bootleg greek burrito. Then I just took chopped meat and pasta sauce and made a sloppy pita.
I want to try making some chicken with alfredo sauce and throw it in there. Problem is although fettucine alfredo is one of my favorite foods I never quite make the sauce right. That makes me one sad panda  .
Anyway if you have any ideas or things I should try feel free to let me know. Otherwise feel free to complain about how I just wasted 5 minutes of your time talking about pita bread.
RF
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Free to debate.....or.....You know I hate people like you!! ....Which am I?
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Posted:Jan 5, 2007 11:36 am
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2014 9:37 pm
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I've always been the type to enjoy a "healthy" discussion or argument. Its how I learn things I can't accept just being told something is so. I need proof to validate that fact. It's a rush to have to come up with things quickly and having to stay on your toes. Also I feel that people come out in their true form in the heat of an argument. Whenever I hear the words "Sorry I didn't mean that" I automatically add the words "to say".
It has taught me to look at both sides of the coin. To try and understand why both sides feel the way they do. That part about me can be the most annoying because if I get caught undecided on where I stand. I often end up fighting the argument on both sides as I try to figure things out.
I think I first started arguing at the age of 13 about religion. I never lacked for someone to argue with. However I soon realized just how touchy a subject it is. On top of the futility of trying to argue a point which requires circular reasoning. A couple of years later I had two friends who would disagree on anything. So I would ask seemingly harmless questions "Who has better fries McDonalds or Burger King?" or " Who do you think is hoyest lovespell11 sexysensualsane velvetgrrrl or anoddgirl?" They would go on for hours until finally one day the smarter of the two of them caught on to what I was doing.
As I grew up I stopped my shit stirring for the most part. Although when an oppurtunity presents itself I'll join a scuffle. In fact I think thats what kept me on this site. All the great and well not so great minds on the advice lines. Though there questions of any real value there were and probably are few and far between. The constant flow of people and change of presentations. Led me to learn quite a few things from the most mundane of queries. I like to think that some people learned from me out there but thats probably wishful thinking  .
I love that this site has a large community of people who agree to disagree. Here in the blogs and out there in the badlands of the AL. It surely wouldn't be as much fun if everyone agreed with each other. Its just to bad there are a few people who cannot seperate this place from their real lives.
RF
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Attention Deer!! Hot new career path!!
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Posted:Dec 12, 2006 8:50 am
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2014 8:38 pm
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This was found by a good friend of mine we're both looking for work and she felt it would be perfect for me......
My name is Courtney "Doe" and I enjoy living my life as a deer. This entails:
--Dressing in full deer costume while at home (and occasionally in public)
--Fully decorating my apartment to look like a deer's natural habitat
--Emitting a soft, gentle cooing sound when most at peace.
--Walking around on all fours while wearing sturdy custom-made resin "hooves" on my hands and feet
--Occasionally relieving myself in the electronic cat litterbox I've set up amongst my large houseplants.
Deer natural habitat? So her apartment looks like a forest. Also, I wonder does the costume come with antlers?
As it's not easy being a deer in NYC, I'm looking to hire some back-up "staff"--mostly to provide moral support. I'm looking for people to provide several different roles. The ideal candidate would be able to perform all roles--however, I'm pretty open to hiring different people for different roles. As a matter of fact, I'm totally open to creating positions above and beyond what I've listed below! The following are a list of open positions.
--Deer-mate: As stated, I enjoy a truly transcendent deer environment from the moment I step in the door. I'm looking for a roommate who will be willing to play a deer role while at home. I'll provide the costume, the hooves, the edible plants, etc. In accordance with the nature-based, deer-like lifestyle, the roommate will not be into heavy drugs (weed is obviously fine) or heavy drinking. Yoga-lovers are a plus. ***DEER-MATE WILL RECEIVE FREE RENT IN EXCHANGE FOR PROVIDING BASIC DEER ENVIRONMENT***
Wow free rent and a new landlord sounds like a good deal to me. Too bad I'm just in a rut not in rutting season. Shes asking for a yoga lover I wonder if a certain Efyp would be interested?
--Part-time deer performer: If I can't find a roommate willing to roam the apartment as a deer, I'd be interested in paying someone for 10 hours a week of deer behavior. The ideal candidate will have an inherent interest in deer behavior; a peaceful demeanor, however, will suffice. The job is EXTREMELY easy: walk around on all fours, nibble on edible plants of your choice, occasionally coo, get paid.
Inherent interest in deer behavior.....what exactly do they do....I've always seen them dart off on first sight. Oh and how does one coo?
--Deer escort: I occasionally get some flack for walking around in public on all fours. I'd like to do it MORE, but feel a bit unsafe as I'm a somewhat petite female. I'm looking for a male to me and to provide a general sense of safety. This would be a perfect side job (5-6 hours per week?) for a bouncer or a cop.
Hmmmm Bambi seeks Baloo for protection.
--Deer peer: ***NOTE: THIS POSITION IS DIFFERENT FROM DEER escort*** I'm also looking for a person to engage in deer behavior WITH me: he or she will dress up as a deer, walk around on all fours, frolic in the park, and enjoy the occasional vegetarian meal out with me. Again, the ideal candidate will already exhibit deer-like behavior and attitudes, but I'm willing to train for the job as well. It's easy... and fun!
Hmmm I think there are already enough things to get shot over. I don't want to add being hunted to the equation.
--Deer party host(ess): I'll be hosting a Christmas party at my apartment in a few weeks. I'd like to hire a few people to act as deer during the party. You don't have to interact with people or anything (the deer is a shy animal!), but rather help impart a general deer aura over the environment. This is a one-time gig, but could turn into a semi-regular gig. (See above...)
In your ad, please tell me: 1) What interest you have in deer 2) Why you'd be a great candidate for the position 3) Which position you're applying for
Thanks for reading this ad.
Be at peace.... as the deer.
Courtney "Doe"
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Positions of authority
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Posted:Oct 24, 2006 9:49 am
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2007 11:23 am
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I read a couple of weeks ago about a teacher who might lose her job due to a very strange set of circumstances. She befriended a female student and helped her out socially. The student confided a crush they had upon a boy so the teacher basically asked the boy what she thought of her. Then set up a meeting with both at the same time in her classroom.
After that they started seeing each other. The boy had boasted that he had shot someone about a year ago. The girl was spooked because that was just about the same time her brother was wounded by gunshot. So she got a picture of the boy and showed it to him and he Id'ed him. The girl then went to the teacher and asked what she should do. Her response was "Deal with the situation but leave me out of it."
For the teacher it seemed that life took a strange path to come around full circle. The girl reports it to the police and the boy fesses up to it. He will be in juvenile hall for five years. Somehow the teachers involvement was leaked the article didnt say if the source was the boy or girl. The teacher is now in administrative duties while the Dep of Education decides what to do with her.
What do you think they should do. Should she get fired? Was it wrong of the teacher to step into a student's personal life? Her intentions seem well...I also know what they say about good intentions though. Would you consider her actions an abuse of power?
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