One more post about coffee meets . . . .
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Posted:Jan 16, 2015 3:01 pm
Last Updated:Jan 21, 2015 11:00 pm
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Greetings . . . I am not big into blogging but I felt the need to say something after a repeat chat today with a guy who has a legitimate complaint but is not willing to compromise and wonders why no one will meet with him.
Twice now, he has attempted to convince me to meet him for coffee so that he can check me out, not so much my fem appearance but rather my demeanour, my honesty. He says he wants to be absolutely sure about bringing someone into his home.
And there is nothing wrong that.
However, he and a few others that have approached me, are not willing to accept my opinion on coffee meets as a prerequisite to play time . . . . I simply no longer do them.
I used to agree to coffee meets, until the number of no-shows, awkwardness and outright inconvenience convinced me to stop. For example, the very last coffee meet I agreed to attend was at a restaurant in a downtown hotel and the guy said he would be wearing certain colored cowboy hat and have his briefcase on the table. So I arrived at the appointed time and walked through the restaurant looking for the cowboy hat and briefcase but didn't see him. I checked again every 15 minutes for the next hour, still no guy with a cowboy hat and briefcase on the table so I left.
That evening he emails me asking why I didn't show up. I replied back that I did show up but didn't see the cowboy hat or briefcase on the table. He replies back . . . and get this . . . "he thought it might look rude to keep his hat on and have his briefcase on the table so he took them off" . . . . duh !!!!
So, my point of view now is that I feel no need to prove myself to anyone and my free time is limited, so I want to spend it playing and not doing coffee meets. If a guy wants to play with me, I have photos and video of me taken during past play adventures which prove the things I enjoy. If a guy doesn't believe it is me in the photos and video, well that is his problem. I've had lots of great kinky fun because I have been willing to accept there is some degree of risk involved in kink exploration.
And when these guys get into this debate about coffee meets, they ALWAYS claim to be such a great judge of character and that they would know without a doubt if I was a bad person and a risk to be bringing into their home.
They refuse to acknowledge the fact that if I was in fact a bad person with nefarious intentions, I could easily hide it until such time that I have the guys address and / or get inside his place and then place a phone call to my band crooks to come and rob his place.
They also refuse to acknowledge the fact that I face a much larger risk than they do, after all, I am offering to meet at their place so that they can tie me up and do various things to me. But even that argument carries no weight with them.
Sometime ago, there was a guy on one of the sites I frequent who tried a number of ways to convince me to meet him prior to play, we had been exchanging messages both on the website and by private email. I refused each time he attempted to hook me and finally told him not to bother me anymore. About three months later he emailed on the website again and asked if I was ready to play, and I replied back asking if he was ready to give me his address. . . . and, of course, he got into the same old argument. So I finally said to him that I was not interested in him, not to contact me again and if he did contact me again I would report him as a stalker.
And the silly ass kept at it. To be fair, I warned him one last time but to no avail so I copied all of his emails and provided them to the website admin and to the admin of his internet provider. I never heard from him again.
So, to all those out there who feel the need to complain that people don't want to meet you for coffee before play, you need to respect the fact that some people just don't do things that way.
We respect the fact that coffee meets are important to you and we wish you success in finding people who will go along with the way you want to do things.
Please, don't keep pestering us when we say we don't do pre-play meetings.
- Anastasia
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Single / Couple . . . . . make up your mind !!!
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Posted:Apr 2, 2015 2:58 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 12:7 am
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What is with the people on this site (and most other sites) who create a profile as a "Single" or as a "Couple" and when you look at the details within the profile you discover they are NOT what they claim to be.
Now, you can sort of forgive the "Single" who right up front openly states that he or she is in fact attached but is seeking some fun outside of the attachment either with permission or on the sly.
What irks me is all the females who create a profile as a "Single" but write the profile up as a couple. What's that all about ? It makes the writer look dishonest and / or stupid.
The same goes for the people (mostly guys) who write up profiles as a "Couple" but once the email exchanges or chats get underway all of a sudden the Other Half isn't included in the equation. Again, has the appearance of being dishonest / stupid.
Of course, that will never change, there will always be those kinds of people.
- Anastasia
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WoW !!!
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Posted:Mar 13, 2014 10:58 pm
Last Updated:Mar 13, 2014 11:17 pm
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Gee . . . I am amazed and quite flattered at the amount of attention my video has drawn in just a few days time.... over 2600 views !!
And my "Viewed Me" counter has just ticked over 3800 hits, also very flattering to say the least.
I am happy that fellow pervs have enjoyed watching my video, I will post a couple more in the near future.
As a kinkster who has enjoyed BDSM role play for many years, I encourage anyone who is seeking new contacts, whether kinky or not, to consider taking advantage of actually purchasing a membership at least one time, and put it to work for you.
I've been very fortunate to have made some good contacts resulting in some great adventures over the years, and must say that while I have pursued contacts using various internet sites, it is this site that has provided the most traffic and the most arrangements to play.
So, good luck to all in what you seek, persistence AND patience will pay off for you in the long run !!
- Anastasia
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Takes All Kinds
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Posted:Mar 7, 2014 10:32 am
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 12:7 am
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I've always said that People are People and there are all kinds out there with different ideas, demeanor and desires.
I always remind myself of that when rolling my eyes and shaking my head after many of the emails and Instant Messenger conversations I have here and elsewhere.
The past couple of days and this morning already, I have added a few wankers to my BANNED LIST so that they won't be able to reach me again and waste my time. Before I began to actually ban contacts, I found they would either forget they had contacted me OR they thought that I would forget they had contacted me. I take notes !!!
Some guy this morning said he wanted to meet me, tie me up and fuck me and our conversation was going well until he invited himself over to my place at which point I told him that I am not able to host. And then, without any consideration for options... such as a motel.... he goes all paranoid and says he had better decline because he's afraid of having another CD type get all clingy and start stalking him and that he would have to call the police again.
And I had no sooner blocked that guy when a message rolls in from some young guy.... "want to suck my cock?".... seriously.... that's his opening line ?
Gawd.... where do these guys come from ? !!!!!
I suppose I will have add some more to my preliminary rant in my profile for those who are able to read it (paid members).
Of course, there will still be lots on non-paid members who can't read my full profile meaning I just have to Deal With It.
On the positive side of things, this morning I had a pleasant conversation with a gent in North Carolina which was nice to have in the midst of dealing with the wankers.
- Anastasia
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OMG . . . I'm not ready for that !!!
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Posted:Feb 26, 2014 10:10 pm
Last Updated:Feb 26, 2014 10:12 pm
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Are you kidding me..... really ??
Gawd . . . even basic standard members can read my profile tag line:
Older sub TV . . . Tie me, Fuck me, Suck me . . .
I would assume that anyone with some level of intelligence who reads that tag line can understand that I am submissive (NOT a Dominant) and that I like to get tied to a bed and get fucked. And yet, there appears to be a non-ending supply of guys who who at first say, "ya, I can get into the bondage thing" but then freak out at seeing one of my photos showing something as simple and easy to do like tying my wrists and ankles to the corners of a bed.
Time wasters and idiots, who make it into my Blocked Members list.
On a more positive note today, I had a good chat with a Scarf Bondage enthusiast today who would no doubt be somebody very interesting to meet and play with. BUT, he lives in Vancouver. Distance is frequently an obstacle.
That's all for today.
- Anastasia
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Busy day !!
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Posted:Feb 20, 2014 3:04 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 12:7 am
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It has been an interesting and busy day so far, at one point this morning I found myself flitting back and forth to no less than 7 IM chat windows at the same time..... it seems the boys really liked the photo I had up on my profle, it showed just my legs from knees down in black stockings, black high heels and steel shackles around my ankles.
I like changing out my profile pic a few times when I am online, guys like different things, sometimes very specific things so I like to show that I enjoy a variety.
I think I made a couple of good connections today that will result in some hot play time in the near future !!
- Anastasia
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Peek-a-boo . . . . I see you
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Posted:Feb 17, 2014 9:37 am
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 12:7 am
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It's interesting . . . guys that keep coming back to look at my profile, over and over and over. When I can, I send a short email as an "ice breaker", just in case they are shy and perhaps really do want to hook up for some play time.
And now and then one will actually respond, saying he does want to play. And, now and then, an adventure actually gets arranged and takes place.
But, most are just "Tire Kickers", or just wankers looking for strokin' material.
And of course, it always makes me chuckle just a little when I see a guy has looked at my profile for the umpteenth time yet his profile says he's "straight". Uh huh !!!
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Interesting responses....
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Posted:Feb 12, 2014 11:33 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 12:7 am
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The past couple of days have been interesting with a few responses to the Flirts and emails that I sent out.
A couple just might turn out to be worth pursuing.
It remains bewildering, however, why guys IM me and spend time chatting with what appears to be genuine interest and then . . . just disappear.
I know that some of these "Tire Kickers" are very likely just jerking off but now and then a guy comes across as being genuinely interested in meeting with me and tying me to his bed but then . . . poof... he's gone.
Sometimes it's in IM, sometimes it's system email... just no further response.
I don't worry about it too much, I've had a decent number of really kinky adventures and these kind of guys haven't and probably never will. If they are satisfied with just spanking the monkey they will never know the real excitement of kinky interaction with another person.
So, at the end of this day, I sit with a few potential contacts and my list of "Tire Kickers" has grown by a few.
- Anastasia
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Talk about coincidental timing.....
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Posted:Feb 9, 2014 10:19 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 12:7 am
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So just as I am trying to be understanding with a guy in IM, the guy mentioned in my first blog, a second guy IM's me with whom I had previously chatted and fully explained my position on coffee meets and the difficulties and risks of meeting at a residence where room mates need to be considered.
I've said that there is a guy in another IM window who really expects me to drive to some street corner and let him into my car, and this second guy says "oh, that's kind of creepy, not giving you his address".
And then this second guy continues on to say, "well, maybe he just wants a coffee meet", and then he says that I really should relax my position on coffee meets.
Gawd.... well, I will give a guy a second chance but that's it. Last night, this guy tells me he's living with and caring for his grandmother and tonight he says that he has room mates and that after he and I meet for coffee we can get a motel room.......G A W D ! ! !
Another idiot added to my Blocked List.
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Are you kidding me ????
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Posted:Feb 9, 2014 10:04 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2024 12:7 am
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Gawd . . . what is it with people who say they want to play but just don't get the concept of accepting the fact that there is at least some degree of risk AND that, in order to make things happen, you have to demonstrate a little trust with, of course, the expectancy of being reciprocated.
Tonight, some guy IM's me and wants to invite me to a party but refuses to give me his address, says he wants me to meet him on some street corner and pick him up.
Now, while he may just be being cautious, or maybe he wants to check me out in person to make sure he likes what he sees, BUT he could also be some bad dude with nefarious intentions who could easily pull a knife or a gun on me and have no intention of taking me back to his residence.
I really don't think that would have been the case BUT such things do happen. Regardless, I simply don't do coffee meets anymore PERIOD, in most cases they just turned out to be a waste of time anyway.
So, if a guy hesitates to give me his address when I ask for it, he goes straight onto my BLOCKED list and I have no qualms about providing the guys account name to others if requested.
- Anastasia
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