Dominant: Do You Have The Right Stuff?
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Posted:Jan 18, 2009 7:34 pm
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When the average person thinks of the terms, Dominance and submission - D&s, Ds or D/s, images such as a Dominant/Master punishing his submissive/slave may come to mind. However, D/s is not about brutal or cruel actions. Instead, it is about a consensual power exchange between the two partners and is based upon trust and communication between the two. It is based on mutual respect in which exploration of the emotions is brought up by power exchange in a safe, sane and consensual manner.
There are some minimum attributes which any dominant needs in order to make a real power-exchange relationship work. These are qualities which every submissive person must look for in the dominant when they meet.
Self-Control
If a person can't control him or herself (vices, emotions, tendency to act out), he or she will not be able to control another person. He or she will be too weak and self-indulgent to control another. Realistically, all submissives, even the best, resist control at times. Dealing with that resistance in a way that encourages good behavior and helps to train her to be a better submissive and a happier person means realizing from the start that your submissive's actions, however much you may dislike them, are not about you. They are, rather, about her problem with submitting. Learning not to respond with anger, personal affront, hurt, or defensiveness when she behaves in a resisting or manipulative way, is part of self-control. Instead of overreacting, a self-controlled dominant will rationally and over time will devise workable strategies based on his intimate knowledge of his submissive that discourage the behavior and attitudes he dislikes.
Stubbornness and Emotional Resilience
When faced with the difficulties of training a submissive such as overcoming her confusion or resistance ‒ a situation which requires a great amount self-control and maturity on the dominant’s part, someone who thinks that they are dominant may wonder what it is that the dominant gets out of the relationship besides hard work and grief. An actual dominant never seriously questions this. He knows what he wants to get out of a power-exchange relationship, and he makes sure, despite the difficulties, that he gets it. A dominants must actually be dominant (have a strong enough will) to get his needs met and to get what he wants out of the relationship. In addition, to someone who is genuinely dominant, overcoming the submissive's resistance in a way that enhances the relationship is something that, despite his dislike of the actual resistance, he relishes, as in the long run it enhances his control.
Responsibility
“Owning” someone is a very serious matter. When you control another person and can do anything that you want to her, you have a great responsibility toward her. Some people shallowly liken a dominant's responsibility to that of owning a pet, but it's much more than that. In terms of the seriousness, it's more like having a . You control this person absolutely, and, assuming that your love your sub, you must make sure that the things that you do--or don't do--are not harmful or damaging to your charge. You have to think first, and carefully, before you speak out in anger. You have to consider how each action you take or decision you make will affect your submissive as well as yourself. You need to be able anticipate how your sub will react to certain things before you commit to them. You're the one in charge. If you truly realize that, then you also know that when things screw up and don't work out, it is not the fault of the person who is helpless before you and who must follow your orders ‒ it is your responsibility and yours alone.
Maturity
A dominant must be mature enough to accept responsibility, even when things go wrong. A , on the other hand, blames others. Nothing is ever his fault. A mature person has patience and a willingness to wait for things to work out. Some things in power exchange take a time to achieve, and a dominant, especially, has to have the determination and fortitude to wait for these things without giving up or losing heart. A mature person is able to keep perspective ‒ he doesn't see every little blow up or emotional difficulty from his submissive as a sign that the relationship isn't working or as some symptom of the fact that his submissive doesn't love him. A mature dominant also knows how to walk the very fine line between not letting his submissive’s emotional difficulties rule him and becoming emotionally distant from the submissive. A mature person tends to have calm, even personality that isn't rocked by every little incident that life throws at him. A mature dominant can be looked up to by his submissive partner, leaned on, seen as a pillar of strength and support--at all times, not just when he finds it fun or easy to play that role. A mature dominant has a good understanding of human nature from having encountered its many forms and knows, in general, what works and what doesn't work when dealing with a submissive. He doesn't have to learn all of this by experimenting on you.
Trustworthiness
This is the most important quality that a dominant must have. Someone who is completely dependent upon and who exists only to please that person has to know that her dominant is reliable and consistent ‒and especially that he is capable of keeping his word. A dominant isn't trustworthy just because he says he is. He's trustworthy when he proves to you, with consistent actions over a long period of time, that he does what he says he is going to do and when he says he will do it, that he tells you the truth and doesn't deceive you, that you can come to him with your problems, whatever those problems may be, and rely on him to lend a sympathetic, loving ear and not to reject you just because those problems make him feel insecure, confused, or upset.
A safe word is usually given to the submissive partner to prevent the dominant from overstepping physical and emotional boundaries. The safe word is especially important when engaging in verbal humiliation or playing 'mind-games' because the submissive may not be aware of an emotional boundary until it is crossed. If an emotional boundary is breached and the safe word called, the dominant should cease all play immediately and discuss the emotional breach with the submissive in a tender and understanding manner. Negotiating limits in advance and respecting those limits is essential.
Experience and Knowledge
A true dominant does not wake up one morning and decide that he is now a dominant. The learning curve is VERY steep! Learning how to control someone, how to overcome her resistance (every submissive who experiences real, permanent dominance resists) and how to handle each new situation that comes up takes a great deal of knowledge and/or experience.
For most people, this is not a natural state. It is imperative that a dominant knows what he is doing‒which activities are safe and which could put a submissive in danger (physically or psychologically), understands how to get to know his submissive--to delve deeply into her personality so that he can better control her and knows how to keep her happily and enthusiastically serving him. It takes both learning (research, observation, etc.) and experience (own, others) ‒ both of which some refuse to partake in.
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Saturday Night Special: Biggest Full Moon of 2009
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Posted:Jan 10, 2009 8:14 am
Last Updated:Jan 13, 2009 3:15 am
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Many of you know that I'm a moon freak! I ADORE ADORE ADORE the moon. I was so excited to read this story by Robert Roy Britt, Editorial Director at SPACE.com, that I just did a "cut & paste."
Enjoy!
If skies are clear Saturday, go out at sunset and look for the giant moon rising in the east. It will be the biggest and brightest one of 2009, sure to wow even seasoned observers.
Earth, the moon and the sun are all bound together by gravity, which keeps us going around the sun and keeps the moon going around us as it goes through phases. The moon makes a trip around Earth every 29.5 days.
But the orbit is not a perfect circle. One portion is about 31,000 miles (50,000 km) closer to our planet than the farthest part, so the moon's apparent size in the sky changes. Saturday night (Jan. 10) the moon will be at perigee, the closest point to us on this orbit.
It will appear about 14 percent bigger in our sky and 30 percent brighter than some other full moons during 2009, according to NASA. (A similar setup occurred in December, making that month's full moon the largest of 2008.)
High tides
Tides will be higher, too. Earth's oceans are pulled by the gravity of the moon and the sun. So when the moon is closer, tides are pulled higher. Scientists call these perigean tides, because they occur when the moon is at or near perigee. (The farthest point on the lunar orbit is called apogee.)
This month's full moon is known as the Wolf Moon from Native American folklore. The full moon's of each month are named.January's is also known as the Old Moon and the Snow Moon.
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Types of Female Orgasms:)
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Posted:Jan 6, 2009 8:50 pm
Last Updated:Dec 18, 2009 7:02 pm
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When it comes males, the orgasm is pretty straightforward ‒ stimulation, arousal, and orgasm
Being the complex beings that we are, the female orgasm is a little more difficult to define. Women have a wide array of erogenous zones. And even Freud, as brilliant as he was, defined just two types of female orgasm - vaginal and clitoral. To me, that’s like saying the saying everything is black and white. Think about how many shades of gray there are!
Orgasms are like snowflakes ‒ no two are exactly alike. There may be similarities but each one is unique. As with snowflakes, it is important to keep in mind that one orgasm is not better or worse than another. They are simply different.
MICROGASMS
These are small, subtle orgasms that occur without any physical stimulation. They take various forms. If we focus on our erotic energy body, and visualize the orgasmic flow inside us, we can physically feel orgasmic waves pulse through our bodies and feel the tension and release on a subtle level. It’s similar to the idea that ‘enlightenment is within us’. If we focus, we can bring about spiritual feelings. Orgasm is within us. If we focus, we can bring about orgasmic feelings. When we get a “chill” and goose bumps, we can eroticize the feelings and turn them into “orgabumps”.
Microgasms can also occur while doing various activities ‒ walking on the beach, lying in the sun, singing on stage, etc. It is possible to simply lie down, do nothing but focus on erotic feelings in the body and begin to twitch and shake with “kriyas” (a yogic term) and go into orgasmic ecstasy.
INTER-VAGINAL ORGASMS
In this category are vaginal orgasms, g-spot orgasms and cervical orgasms--any and all orgasms that happen inside the vagina with inter-vaginal stimulation (with fingers, fists, dildos, penises, etc.) Each of these kinds of orgasm feels slightly different, and sometimes they occur together. Some inter-vaginal orgasms are totally subtle and some are overwhelming. Women have various inter-vaginal orgasms all the time, but don’t acknowledge them as such, because they are looking for them to feel like clitoral orgasms, and they don’t. Check this out for the best in g-spot (and related) [post 141936]
BREATH AND ENERGY ORGASMS
Breath and energy orgasms are wonderful, satisfying and can be mind-blowing. This kind of orgasm is thought of as an ‘energy generation model’ (as opposed to inter-vaginal orgasm which is a ‘tension release model’ . Unfortunately, they are not practiced in our mainstream culture.
Breath and energy orgasms can occur (or be created) from conscious, rhythmic, deep breathing, or other ways of generating energy in the body such as swimming, running, risk taking, listening to a piece of music, etc. Think of these as feargasms or adrenalingasms.
Basically a person learns how to build energy with thought, kegals, undulation, visualization, surrender, etc. Once the energy is built, it kicks into a release phase, which can be mild or extremely intense. Squeezing the PC muscles helps eroticize the energy and pump it the body for a more full-bodied effect.
In this category are angergasms, laughgasms and crygasms–where an intense emotional release is ‘orgasmicized’ (like eroticized). Physiologically these can compare to clitoral and vaginal orgasms, with increased breath rates, with the ‘sex flush’, increased heart rate, sweaty palms and feet, etc. They can be very physically intense and feel like you are plugged into an electrical socket. There can be enormous tingly sensation in hands, feet and lips, eyeballs roll back into the head, back arches, and orgasm sounds occur.
CLITORAL ORGASMS
Perhaps the only thing about female orgasm that is widely agreed on is that women can have clitoral orgasms. The clitoris is stimulated, muscular tension builds, and there are vaginal contractions and a release of the energy. These can occur localized just in the clitoris, or the feelings can spread up into the stomach and groin and over the whole body. They can be minute or enormous. Clitoral orgasms can be extended. Masters and Johnson found a term that they coined “status orgasmus”, orgasms which last 20 to more than 60 seconds. Masters and Johnson definitely didn’t measure orgasms of the masters. Some women have repeated clitoral orgasms lasting for many minutes in a row. A woman can have clitoral orgasms without a climax. But a clitoral climax always comes with an orgasm. There are multiple clitoral orgasms, and also possible are multiple clitoral climaxes. There are very deep clitoral orgasms, and surface clitoral orgasms.
COMBINATION-GASMS
Sometimes a female has one kind of orgasm in one part of the body. But often two or more kinds of orgasm are combined in succession or in tandem. These can be in absolutely any combination. If one is VERY lucky, one might experience all seven different kinds of orgasm during a single sex session.
MEGAGASMS
These are the ‘tsunami’ of all orgasms. A megagasm is an intense, full-body, deeply emotional and, for some, a deeply spiritual experience. It generally lasts an extended period ‒ from thirty seconds to, in some cases, up to an hour. Although not the norm, megagasms have been documented. Not many women are capable of letting go that deeply or handling that much pleasure and ecstasy and orgasmic energy.
Megagasms are usually brought about by very intense physical stimulation–with very hard fucking combined with a really strong vibrator on the clitoris, fist fucking, anal sex with vaginal and clitoral stimulation, etc. Sometimes pain can trigger one. The stimulation goes way beyond normal love making, into surrendering to intense physical force and massive genital manipulation.
Most people are fearful of, and uncomfortable with, the force of megagasms. The face of an individual having the orgasm can severely contort like one is having a baby. Megagasms can come with intense visual imagery like with psychedelics. It can feel as if there is a lifetime of pent up energy and emotion bursting free. They are very primal. There can be a sensation of being ‘breathed by the universe’, like you are a channel for orgasmic energy, like you are open for the life force to pass through you. Often people will have empathetic orgasms when they are in the presence of someone having megagasm.
DREAM-GASMS
The Kinsey Report found that by the age of forty-five, 37% of American women have experienced a dream which led to orgasm ‒ an orgasm where there was absolutely no genital stimulation. Ever dream about having orgasm and wake up having one? Like other types of orgasms, dream-gasms can produce strong vaginal and anal contractions. They may feel like a clitoral orgasm, or an energy orgasm. The bottom line is that like all orgasms they are extremely pleasurable.
So there you have it!
Happy orgasms!
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Lack of Courage...
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Posted:Jan 3, 2009 8:33 pm
Last Updated:Feb 6, 2009 8:49 pm
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I lost a good friend on December 31, 2008. He didn’t die. Instead, he did something that I cannot ever forgive ‒ He withheld the truth for an extended period of time (he knew I’d go ballistic…lol) and then he decided to fill me in with what’s been going on with him for the last month or so. He’s getting married…
He move home earlier in the year and we both eventually know that we would both move on with our lives. I guess I unrealistically thought he would have enough courage to share with me that part of his life. Sheesh ‒ he shared everything else with me. (I should send him a bill for job and mental health counseling and legal advice.) This is someone who I helped rebuild himself - he went through a divorce, a loss of a job (through an acquisition) and accepting a job that was hellish. He wasn’t going anywhere with his job search when I met him and was very down. I felt he just needed some encourage and positive reinforcement. So I rewrote his resume. That, along with some TLC, helped to restore his confidence. His job search landed him 5 job offers. While all this was going on, I realized that I was in love with him.
Shortly, before he left Indianapolis, he came to the same conclusion. We have been in frequent contact and I have been there for him ‒ to listen to him, give him input, coach him, etc. Hell, I even did his Christmas shopping for his family.
I visited him twice after he left and enjoyed each visit. I even got to meet his family ‒ Mom (who he adores), Dad (who he seems to have a love/hate relationship with) and even his bi-polar ‒ all the people who I had heard so much about.
For all I can recall, everything was fine between us before I left for vacation (November 15 - 29). He even told me that he wanted me to come visit again when his wasn't living with him. I did his Christmas shopping for him when I was in St. Maarten on vacation. Was he dating this person when I asked me to do his shopping for him? If so, he’s got some gall…
Having rewritten his resume, I know the real reason that he left his jobs. At the time I rewrote his resume, I agreed to serve as his “employer” if contacted and to serve to substantiate his employment dates - sometimes love distort one’s perception of right and wrong. He blurred them quite a bit - ex. Company X, 2007 ‒ 2008; actually dates ‒ 9/2007 to 1/2008. With his last job, he lasted only 6 weeks and the employment dates on his resume are stated as 2008 - 2008. When he filled out the job application for his current position, it asked for month/year to month/year employment dates. He did not list the actual time frames.
I’ve heard that revenge can really feel good. He had been having issues with his current employer ‒ not making his sales numbers, not bringing in business, etc. He shared that he feared that he would be fired. Since most job applications have a statement on them something to the effect that falsification of any information will result in termination, in my mind, it feels SO good to contact his employer and inform them of his fraud. Not so sure if it would feel so good if I actually did it, so I haven’t…lol.
I am SO hurt by his treatment. He broke my heart...
Thanks for listening and for the shoulder! I’m feeling better already
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From the Vault: MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A KISS
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Posted:Dec 23, 2008 7:10 pm
Last Updated:Dec 24, 2008 10:03 pm
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'Twas the night before Christmas and all through the house not a creature was stirring except for aka...
It is late but I am still up making sure that when you arrive everything would be purrrrfect The house is all dressed in Christmas cheer and a fire roars in the fireplace. I looked at the clock - still 2 hours until you arrive  Hmmmm, what can I do to entertain myself??? I looked in the mirror to check my Christmas outfit - a red fishnet teddy with fur trim around the neck, red thigh highs and a Santa cap. I am the perfect elf - hehehe, the kind of helper that Santa really wishes he had when Mrs. Claus wasn't looking). I can't wait for you to get me out of the teddy and to shove your hard cock into my aching pussy. The thought of you fucking me has me sooooo hot - I reach down to finger my clit to find my juices running down my thighs... Oooooooooooooooo so wet and juicy!!!
I begin to think of how you will take me when you arrive. I grab my paddle and sit down on the couch. As I lay back, I imagine you spreading my legs wide open. I then envision you kneeling down in front of me and asking me if Pussy has been naughty or nice this year. When I giggle at your cuteness, your hand smacks my pussy. I let out a soft moan as my back arches up. Your "smacks" continue coming one after another after another. The stinging sensation that I'm feeling is really exciting me. You warn me not to cum or I will be put permanently on Santa's naughty list, but it's too late... My body begins to tremble as an intense orgasm rips though my body my back arching and my hips thrusting. As the sensation subsides, I imagine you feeding me my cum...I greedily lick "your" fingers sucking up my own sweet juices...
Suddenly I am startled by a noise outside. I run to the window to see man dressed in a red suit (you really look adorable...lol). At that point, I realize that you have been watching me the whole time. As I let you in, you laughingly ask me what I was smiling about the whole time. I tell you about my fantasy. You smile and begin to grope my tits. I whisper to you that what I have in store will put us both the Santa's naughty list for life. You look at me confused but continue pinching and twisting my hard nipples...
A few moments later, a lady walks in dressed in an elf costume just like mine and with the hat on looks a lot like me. We could pass for twins. She says "Merry Christmas" and tells you that since you've been such a good boy this year (according to me anyway) that you will receive a special present You look at me really confused but amused. We both walk over to you and begin to undress you. At first, you try to fight us but I tell you to just relax and enjoy. You lay back and let us go to work on you...
When you are completely naked, I pull your body so that you are sitting and facing me. I raise my legs and wrap them around your waist. I begin to kiss you . . . long and deep. As we kiss, you feel the hot breath of my "twin" blowing into your ear. Then, her tongue slides along your earlobe. You feel her mouth move down to the base of your neck. I can feel your heart beating wildly as we both kiss and feel you. We stand you up and kiss and lick our way down your body...
As I arrive at your cock, she arrives at your ass. I wrap my mouth around your swollen head licking and flicking your slit. She slips a well-lubed finger into your tight ass and begins to suck your swollen balls. As I slide my mouth up and down on your pulsing cock, she works your ass and licks and sucks your balls. We heard you murmuring that your cock is pulsing soooo hard that you feel like you're going to pass out. We slide a chair over to you for support and continue sucking you to the point that your cock is fully shoved down my throat and she is twirling your balls around in her mouth. We both can feel you pulsing - the sensation in my mouth is incredible. I greedily suck your cock deeper and deeper into my throat. I feel it hitting the back of it. Suddenly, we both feel you tense up. You moan that you're going to cum! We move our heads in front of your cock and open our mouths WIDE. Your load liquid spurts over our mouths and faces. You cum what seems like forever...
When you are finally through cumming, my "twin" and I wipe your cum off each others face and lick each others fingers clean. As you lay back on the couch, she smiles, puts on a coat and leaves...
I sit down next to you. You have a look of ecstasy on your face. I smile and hand you a DVD and whisper to you that I'll also captured this special event. You grab me and throw me over your knee and begin to spank me with the paddle that I left out earlier... (We’ll leave that story for New Years' eve...lol).
SEASONS GREETINGS!
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A Tribute to My Equine Friend, Gomer
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Posted:Dec 14, 2008 8:25 pm
Last Updated:Dec 20, 2008 6:20 pm
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Today I lost a good friend. He died suddenly after an illness of only 1 day. His name was Prophet Tenskwatawa (aka Gomer) and he was my . Unless you are a pet lover, you probably won’t understand my grief. But that’s okay
Gomer was born 17 years ago on day of the 75th running of the Indianapolis 500. He was the cutest little guy ‒ chestnut with a grand white blaze. Looking at his eyes, something wasn’t right. They were cloudy. The vet, Dr. H, arrived within an hour. When he examined Gomes, he informed me that the little fellow had cataracts and his sight was, at best, 10%. Dr. H then asked if I wanted to put him down. I was devastated!
Quickly asking a lot of questions, I found out that there was an excellent equine ophthalmologist at Purdue University. Equine cataract surgery was a fairly new procedure and the findings had been promising, but it wasn’t cheap! Hearing that bit of information, I knew that I had to give Gomer a chance.
So, at the age of 3 months off Gomer and his mother headed off to Purdue. On the day of the surgery, I was “on pins and needles.” Seven hours after the surgery began, I received the called I had been waiting for ‒ the surgery was completed and appeared to be a success. They were able to remove the cataracts, but wouldn’t know how well it went for another 4 weeks.
Let me tell you, it was a LONG month! The staff that worked with him would provide daily updates on his condition. When they reported that he was watching things (ex. birds), I almost cheered.
After he returned home, Gomer had to have ointment put in his eyes 3 times a day. One person had to hold him and the other person had to lift his eye lid and apply a thin line of ointment on the inside. Guess what job I got…lol. This went on until he was almost 1 year old. Because of all the handling Gomer received during his first year, he was very calm and docile. He was like a VERY big dog ‒ gentle, came when you called him, fetched sticks, etc. Lol.
Gomer lived his entire life where he was born (except for his visit to Purdue - which based on cost of that endeavor, I have been able to ascertain that he obtained a Masters degree) and never left again until today
Yesterday, Gomer didn’t look right. He was moving slowly and rolling around on the ground. I called Dr. H (yes, Dr. H is still his veterinarian) and reported his symptoms. Dr. H suggested a remedy and instructed me to call him back in an hour if it did not work. Within 2 hours of my initial call, Dr. H was out to examine Gomes. He advised me that if the treatment he administered and meds didn’t work, the next step would be to take Gomes to his clinic for more extensive treatment. And if that treatment didn’t work, the next step would be to either put him down or to send him to Purdue for surgery (cost estimation - $6,000).
After a long night of hoping to see some improvement, I called Dr. H to let him know that I would be bringing Gomer in A.S.A.P. Dr. H started treatment about 10:30 a.m. The treatment would take about 10 hours. At 7:45 p.m., I received a call that Gomer didn’t make it...He died of colic.
Losing Gomer hurts in the same way that losing a human friend to a sudden accident hurts. For me, there was no lingering illness to help me prepare for the inevitable. It was unexpected, sudden, and heartbreaking - my friend was in pain, he was sedated and then died. Full stop. End of story.
The relationship between me and Gomer was a simple one – free of the complications that people experience in dealing with each other and full of unconditional love. Try getting that from any human Gomer was always happy to see me and didn’t ask for much ‒ hay, grain, water, carrots, and apples. I will miss him!
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Biggest Full Moon of the Year:)
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Posted:Dec 12, 2008 7:30 pm
Last Updated:Dec 13, 2008 2:20 pm
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As many of you know, I adore the full moon! The Harvest moon The Harvest Moon Intrigues Me Updated Post from September 2007 and Hunter’s moon area my favorites Tonight’s full moon will be the biggest one of the year as Earth's natural satellite reaches its closest point to our planet.
The moon, that luminous orb that dominates the night sky, has long held an air of mystery. For me, the full moon, especially the Harvest and Hunter’s moon, is associated with romance and outlandish behavior. The moon seems to bring new “lust” interests, as well as resurrects a few from the past I tend to feel strong amorous feelings under its glowing fullness
From a scientific perspective, gravity keeps the Earth, moon and sun in place. It’s gravity that keeps us going around the sun and keeps the moon going around us as it goes through phases. The moon makes a trip around Earth every 29.5 days. But the orbit is not a perfect circle.
The moon's average distance from us is about 239,000 miles. Today it will be closer ‒ a mere 221,560 miles away appearing 14% larger and 30% brighter than other full moons.
For water lovers, the tides will be higher tonight. Earth's oceans are pulled by the gravity of the moon and the sun. So when the moon is closer, tides are pulled higher resulting in what is called perigean tides (the moon's closest point to Earth is called perigee). The farthest point on the lunar orbit is called apogee.
Because of the celestial mechanics that produce a full moon, no matter where you are, the moon will rise around sunset. The moon and the sun are on opposite sides of the Earth, so that sunlight hits the full face of the moon and bounces back to our eyes.
At moonrise, the moon will appear even larger than it will later in the night when it's higher in the sky. This is an illusion that scientists can't fully explain. Some think it has to do with our perception of things on the horizon vs. stuff overhead.
Happy viewing!
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Psychology of Color - Now I know why I like the color RED
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Posted:Nov 4, 2008 10:10 pm
Last Updated:Nov 6, 2008 8:34 pm
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I came across the following story: Lady in red drives the men crazy, study finds. Hmmm, so someone was actually paid to conduct a study to validate the obvious…Where do I sign up…lol.
Anyway, the article set me on a search to find out more the meaning of color. Like death and taxes, there is no escaping color. It is everywhere. But what does it all mean? Here’s what I found…
Red
The most emotionally intense color, red, is obviously the color of love. Red stimulates heartbeat and breathing. Red clothing gets noticed and makes the wearer look larger than life. (Mental note to self: avoid red clothing when engaged in negotiations or confrontations.)
The most romantic color, pink, is more tranquilizing. So their opponents lose energy, sports teams paint the locker rooms used by opposing teams bright pink.
Black
Black signifies authority and power. As a fashion statement, it is popular because it makes people appear thinner. Black also implies submission. Priests wear black to signify submission to God. Some fashion experts say a woman wearing black implies submission to men. Black outfits can also be overpowering, or make the wearer seem aloof or evil. Villains, such as Dracula, often wear black. So why do judges wear black robes?
White
White symbolizes innocence and purity (ex., wedding gown). White reflects light and is considered a summer color. Doctors and nurses wear white to imply sterility.
Blue
The color of the sky and the ocean, blue, is one of the most popular colors. It causes the opposite reaction as red. Peaceful, tranquil blue causes the body to produce calming chemicals, so it is often used in bedrooms. Blue can also be cold and depressing. Fashion consultants recommend wearing blue to job interviews because it symbolizes loyalty.
Green
Green symbolizes nature. It is the easiest color on the eye and can improve vision. It is a calming, refreshing color. People waiting to appear on TV sit in "green rooms" to relax. Hospitals often use green because it relaxes patients. Brides in the Middle Ages wore green to symbolize fertility. Dark green is masculine, conservative, and implies wealth.
Yellow
Cheerful sunny yellow is an attention getter. While it is considered an optimistic color, people lose their tempers more often in yellow rooms, and babies will cry more. It is the most difficult color for the eye to take in, so it can be overpowering if overused. Yellow enhances concentration, hence its use for legal pads. It also speeds metabolism.
Purple
The color of royalty, purple connotes luxury, wealth, and
sophistication. It is also feminine and romantic. However, because it is rare in nature, purple can appear artificial.
Brown
Solid, reliable brown is the color of earth and is abundant in nature. Light brown implies genuineness while dark brown is similar to wood or leather. Brown can also be sad and wistful. Men are more apt to say brown is one of their favorite colors.
Food for Thought
While blue is one of the most popular colors it is one of the least appetizing. Blue food is rare in nature. Food researchers say that when humans searched for food, they learned to avoid toxic or spoiled objects, which were often blue, black, or purple. When food dyed blue is served to study subjects, they lose appetite.
Green, brown, and red are the most popular food colors. Red is often used in restaurant decorating schemes because it is an appetite stimulant.
Have a resplendent day!
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Are You Kinky?
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Posted:Oct 5, 2008 9:24 pm
Last Updated:May 4, 2009 7:22 pm
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I was reading a fellow bloggers blog and he stated,
“I've come to the conclusion that there is just no way for me to enjoy just plain old, 'vanilla' sex anymore. I can't do it. I guess I've become so jaded or something, that just plain vanilla sex doesn't really do much for me. I've GOT to have something out of the ordinary going on. Some kind of kink or out of the normal or even weird incorporated in or else I'm just not satisfied.” Sexy is using a feather, kinky is using the whole duck
That got me thinking about KINK ‒ Yes, smoke was coming out of my ears as the wheels of my mind were set into motion…lol. Anyway, what exactly does kinky mean?
Well, according to the free encyclopedia, kink is a term used to refer to a broad range of sexual practices (sometimes referred to as "kinky") such as spanking, bondage, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism (BDSM). Kink sexual practices transgress what are considered "normal" sexual boundaries as a means of heightening the intimacy between sexual partners. Because of its relation to "normal" sexual boundaries, which themselves vary by time and place, the definition of what is and is not kink varies widely as well.
For that exactly that reason - the definition of what is and is not kink varies widely, when I am asked if I’m kinky, I never know quite how to respond. By my understanding of the word, I consider myself kinky and respond yes to the question. Of course, the next question is, “how kinky are you” or “tell me about your experiences.”
The following thought often crosses my mind ‒ Don’t you want to be surprised. Ok, when it comes to sex, most people like surprises but don’t want to too big of a surprise. For example, being submissive and finding out the other person is also submissive. Two dominants can have a good time but not 2 subs. Wanting to avoid such a mismatch, though I feel like I’m on an interview, I truthfully answer the questions. I prefer to talk in general terms about my sexual habits and preferences.
Looking at the BDSM category (only a snapshot of sexual practices), on a scale of 1 ‒ 5, I rate as follows: 1) spanking ‒ 3.5; 2) bondage ‒ 5; 3) dominance and submission ‒ 5; and 4) sadomasochism ‒ 3.
Spanking ‒ I show the “doubting Tom” a picture which usually provides the response, Damn that looks like it hurt. Lolol. There is a point where pain is pleasure and pleasure is pain. Not everyone understands that sensation.
Bondage ‒ I produce more pictures. (Thanks to my voyeur friends with digital cameras…lol).
Dominance and submission ‒ By this point, I feel like asking, Shall I give the names and telephone numbers of some of the previous Dominants in my life…ROFL!
Sadomasochism ‒ If the person is still asking questions, I just shake my head.
The Fetish Checklist on alt.com listed over 80 activities (see below) - So many practices and so little time…lol.
24/7 (Total Power Exchange)
Age Play
Anal Sex
Asphyxiaphilia (Breath Play)
Ass Play
Biting
Blindfolds
Blood
Body Hair
Bondage
Branding
Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc.
Bukkake
Candle Wax
Chains
Chastity Devices
Chinese Balls/Ben Wa Balls/Anal Beads
Cling Film
Clown
Cock and Ball Torture, Clamps, etc.
Collar and Lead/Leash
Confinement/Caging
Coprophilia (Shit Play)/Scat
Cross Dressing
Cuckold
Cupping (Suction of the Skin)
Dacryphilia (Arousal from Tears)
Defilement, seeing a partner dirty or wet
Denim
Depilation/Shaving
Dildos (Handheld & Strap-ons)
Discipline
Doctor/Nurse Fetish
Domination
Ears
ElectroTorture (EMS TENS units)
Exhibitionism/Sex In Public
Feathers
Fire Play
Fisting
Food Play
Gangbangs
Hair Pulling
Handcuffs/Shackles
High Heels
Humiliation
Infantilism/Diapers
Klismaphilia (Douching/Enema)
Knife/Needle Play
Lace/Lingerie
Lactation
Latex
Leather
Making Home "Movies"
Masks
Masochism
Massage
Master/Slave
Masturbation
Mutual Masturbation
Nipples
Oral Fixation
Oral Sex
Pain
Pantyhose/Stockings
Participating in Erotic Photography
Piercings
Pinching
Play Piercing
Podophilia (Foot Fetish)
Pony Play
Power Exchange
The Rack/Medieval Devices
Religious (Nunplay, Priestplay)
Retifism (Shoes or Boots)
Rimming
Role Playing
Rubber
Sadism
Scent
Sensory Deprivation
Sex During Menstruation
Spanking/Paddling
Talking Dirty
Tickling
Tongue Fetish
Toys
Transvestism
Urolagnia (Water Sports/Urine)
Vibrators
Voyeurism
Whips
My question is, WHICH ONE(S) ARE YOUR FAVORITE(S)?
Have a kinky day!
AKA{=}
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The Harvest Moon Intrigues Me - Updated Post from September 2007
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Posted:Sep 13, 2008 8:00 pm
Last Updated:Dec 12, 2008 6:33 pm
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I took a walk a bit earlier this evening and was greeted by the beautiful Harvest Moon rising. For some unknown reason, I become mesmerized by September's full moon.
Many think that the Harvest Moon remains in the night sky longer than any of the other full moons we see during the year, but that is not so. What sets Wednesday's full moon apart from the others is that farmers ‒ at the climax of the current harvest season ‒ can work late into the night by the moon's light. It rises about the time the sun sets, but more importantly, at this time of year, instead of rising its normal average 50 minutes later each day, the moon seems to rise at nearly the same time each night.
Native American tribes of a few hundred years ago kept track of the seasons by giving distinctive names to each recurring full Moon. Their names were applied to the entire month in which each occurred. Traditionally, chief Indian staples of corn, pumpkins, squash, beans, and wild rice are now ready for gathering.
Well, I think I'll go gathering
"Reach for the moon, and even if you miss it, you will land among the stars."
Have an awesome day and evening For Neil Young fans, enjoy (below)!
AKA
Artist: Neil Young
Song: Harvest Moon
come a little bit closer
hear what i have to say
just like sleepin'
we could dream this night away.
but there's a full moon risin'
let's go dancin' in the light
we know where the music's playin'
let's go out and feel the night.
because i'm still in love with you
i want to see you dance again
because i'm still in love with you
on this harvest moon.
when we were strangers
i watched you from afar
when we were lovers
i loved you with all my heart.
but now it's gettin' late
and the moon is climbin' high
i want to celebrate
see it shinin' in your eye.
because i'm still in love with you
i want to see you dance again
because i'm still in love with you
on this harvest moon.
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The End to a "Perfect" Day...lol
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Posted:Jun 13, 2008 9:33 pm
Last Updated:Jul 15, 2008 9:09 pm
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As some of you know, I have been on a quest to obtain employment that I find exciting, challenging and rewarding. My present job bores me to tears (primarily because my boss is a micro-manager). If I try something different or "outside the box," I get my hands "slapped" (which might be ok if my boss was a dominant male). Lol.
Since the job of submissive doesn't pay very well (and I wouldn't want it as a full time position), I have been working diligently to find a new job.
I had been interviewing with a local company and it was down to the final 2 candidates. A 30ish female with the same education credential and half my experience. Guess who didn't get the job
To cheer myself up, I plan on having 2 margaritas with my Friday night Margarita Club. We meet at our local Margarita haunt. As we are being seated, the manager runs over to our table and begins to apologize profusely. It takes a minute for what he is saying to sink in - the Margarita machine is broken  Damn!
Tomorrow is another day
Take care,
AKA{=}
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Sonnet 43: How Do I Love Thee
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Posted:Jun 13, 2008 8:52 pm
Last Updated:Feb 6, 2009 9:03 pm
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How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. (1)
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height (2)
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight (3)
For the ends of Being an Ideal Grace. (4)
I love thee to the level of everyday's (5)
Most quiet need, by sun and candle-light. (6)
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right; (7)
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise. (8
I love thee with the passion put to use (9)
In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith. (10)
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose (11)
With my lost saints,--I love thee with the breath, (12)
Smiles, tears, of all my life!--and, if God choose, (13)
I shall but love thee better after death. (14)
-Elizabeth Barrett Browning
Once upon a time in a far away land - Ok, a few weeks (or months or years) ago in Indianapolis, I was asked how much I loved someone and I began to recite this poem. I came across the sonnet a few days back and started thinking, "What did I really mean when I gave this as a response."
I did some research (a.k.a. web surfing), and below I've provided a detailed analysis (a.k.a. long analysis). And for those of you that prefer the "bottom line," skip to the bottom
Take care,
AKA{=}
LONG ANALYSIS:
(1)How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
She loves a number of ways. She would need to count them.
(2) I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
Her love is three dimensional and therefore real, in the sense that all real physical things in the universe are three dimensional. Breadth is width, a measurement of how far across her love is. Height and depth represent how far down (deep) and how far up (high) her love is, in relation to her position in the universe.
(3) My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
These measurements, though physical are also spiritual, as they pertain to her soul, which is body and spirit infused.
(4) For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
This physical and spiritual measurement is of her soul and the very essence of her being to the ends of her existence.. Ideal Grace is capitalized and probably refers to God, and His most perfect gift--Salvation, and the opportunity to experience eternal love and bliss in His presence. She likens her love for her husband to that love of God.
(5) I love thee to the level of every day's
(6) Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
Her love is on the same level as our most basic needs--air, water, food, shelter,kinship and love--that need our attention day and night.
(7) I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
She loves him of her own free will, and not out of obligation. This is the kind of love that is freely given without any coercion by guilt or force or the threat of force. Men strive for Right freely, for it is necessary to their happiness.
(8 ) I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
Modesty turns from praise because it needs it not. She loves him for the sake of love itself, and not to receive any praise.
(9) I love with a passion put to use
(10) In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith.
Passion put to use in her old griefs, is passion that hurts, that reminds one through pain that she is still alive. The same passion exists in the faith of a , who believes without doubt because of a lack of life experience that would go contrary to it.
(11) I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
(12) With my lost saints,
She loves him with the intensity one feels love during their innocence of youth, which she lost with her innocence, and feels it again for him.
(13) I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life!
She loves him with the breath of her life, with the happiness and sadness of her life.
(14) and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death.
Her love for him will not end at the grave, but, God willing, will continue on eternally.
SHORT ANALYSIS (doesn't meet traditional sonnet standards):
I love you!
Let me count the ways -
I love you with the breath, smiles, tears, of all my life!
And if there is such a thing as a soul mate, we shall go through eternity together
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Tonight's Entertainment
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Posted:Jun 8, 2008 9:06 pm
Last Updated:Jul 20, 2008 11:02 am
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Hi all,
I wrote this a while back. All names have been changed to protect the guilty...lol As there are no names...
AKA{=}
You pick me up at my house at 8 p.m. I am wearing a button down blouse, a skirt with a slit all the way to my pussy, a garter belt with silk stockings, and no panties. You decide that we will go out for a drink. We go to a local haunt and sit at a table. I am a bit conscious and move to adjust my skirt, but the look I get from you says "don’t touch it". I move closer to you and spread my legs as I know I should for your pleasure. You reach over and slide my skirt all the way open. I'm thankful for the dim lighting as I'm sure that my face is turning a bright red. Gasping softly, I feel your fingers slide up my thigh and tease my clit making my juices flow. After about a half hour of squirming around in my seat, I look at the hunger in your eyes. You lean over and whisper for me to go outside in the alley and wait for you. I get up and with shoulders straight, head high, slowly walk out of the back door of the bar and wait for you, apprehensive in the secluded but well-lite alley.
I hear the door open and you come out and I smile. You tell me to stand with my legs spread apart, bend at the waist and place both hands on the wall. You lift my skirt and I feel the cool air caress my naked flesh. I hear the zipper of your pants and feel the full force of your cock as you shove it deep into my cunt. You lean forward and your hands grasp my hips for balance as you thrust harder and harder. Within moments, you let out a grunt and I feel the sensation of your hot seed as it fills my cunt. You withdraw from me and I stand there for a moment enjoying the feeling of your warm cum dripping from my cunt. As I straighten up, I turn and see more than one man standing watching. I turn my head back quickly and lower my eyes not sure how to act.
"It would appear that you’re having a bit of fun out here". Out of the corner of my eye, I can see a man looking at me with lust in his eyes. "Perhaps you will allow her to be tonight's entertainment". The thought of this has my knees weak. I quickly look at you and can see you considering this. I hear you answer the man, "I'm sure she would be happy to please me" and I look at you quickly but then lower my eyes again. Feeling you grab my arm, you position me in front of the group.
I look around and see just a few men, but all eyes are upon me and I wonder if I can do this. I hear the music playing from the bar and then you say "strip for us". I begin to unbutton my blouse swaying to the music and let my blouse fall to the ground. I turn around slowly, letting them all see me as I unhook my bra and let it fall to the ground. Slipping my thumbs in my skirt, I slowly push it down as my hips swayed. "Turn so that everyone can see you", you say. I put my hands behind my head, feet apart and turn around so that everyone can see me.
Feeling your hands slide down my body makes me moan and then I feel your fingers grab my nipples and pinch them hard! Sucking breath in through my teeth, I stand perfectly still as your hands roam over every inch of what is yours. You looked at the men standing, watching and say, "She will service you all any way you choose, but you will not cum inside of her. I want to see my slut covered with your cum". They agree and I shiver thinking about this. A chair has been brought from inside and you order me sit down. I obey and you grab both arms, pulling them back behind me and tie them to the chair. Next you spread my legs wide and tie my ankles to the chair and then my thighs.
By this time, I am drenched just thinking about what these men are going to do. "You are not allowed to cum until all of these men have cum on you. You will cum for me and me alone. Do you understand bitch?" "Yes Sir, I understand", I responded lowering my eyes.
"Who wants to be first?" I hear you ask.
A tall man appears and drops his pants in front of me, grabbing my hair and forcing my head up to look at him. "Suck my cock slut", he says as he grabs his cock and shoves it in my mouth. I started sucking and take as much as I can. He forces his cock farther and I feel myself gagging, but I continued to suck as he fucks my face hard and fast. "God, you suck cock well ." Faster and harder he thrusts and quickly pulls out as I feel the warm goo covering my face and tits.
And so it goes with the next man and the next. On the last guy, as I am sucking his very cock, another guy comes over and starts sucking and licking my cunt. I start moaning and then my moans turned into whimpers remembering what you told me. Gritting my teeth, I concentrate on sucking his cock. I continue until every man has cum. I can feel it dripping down my neck and tits to my stomach. Finally, you walk over and grab my hair and force me to look at you. "Beg me for my cum, slut!"
"Please Sir! Let your cum slut taste your cum" feed me your hard cock and shoot it in my mouth!" I reply.
Grabbing my head, you force your cock deep into my mouth. Taking a deep breath, I take all of you feeling your cock hit the back of my throat and farther, moaning as I suck you hard, inhaling the smell of your balls as they hit my nose. Hard and fast you fuck my face until you are ready to cum. "Take a deep breath slut" I hear you say and I do knowing that you're ready to shoot your load deep. You shove your cock all the way in and out and in and out and then I feel your hot cum shooting down my throat and I swallow as fast as I can while you pull out and I feel the rest dribbling down my cheek. You lean down and kiss me and whisper, "You're pleasing me well little one. We can leave soon".
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