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Sexually harassing and being sexually harassed  

jkazzUL8819 35M
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12/8/2019 2:42 am
Sexually harassing and being sexually harassed

Sexual harassment... not a good thing.

I’m my case I have been both a victim and perp.

First, the perp part:

While dancing at a club, with no girl looking to dance with me on that night, and in a moment of impulsiveness and lack of judgement, I grabbed a women’s butt. so, justifiably she confronted me about it, telling me off. So in my path of personal redemption, which can only be witnessed by me and God, I made it my personal purpose to try and apologize to her. So While I would not it an obsticle, a friend of her also went of his way to confront me, to which I tried to express my apologies to, which he seemed to accept. My mission though, which was to give this woman as much closure as I can give, was not complete. Her closure was the goal. So after the club finally started to shut down, I was able to tell her that I apologized for the whole incident before I left The club. Now, I have the habit of staying outside the bar to see other people leave as I prepare myself to go home. The woman, with her friends, approached me and voiced her appreciation of the apology and then told me off again, lectureing me about getting her consent. I made sure to let her know that I understood. In doing so, I was able to make sure this woman came on top of, and I on then bottom this whole situation, because honestly, I was the antagonist in the situation. If she was not able to find closure in this, then I don’t know what’ will.

Second, the victim part:

So being a man with both thickness and an athletic features, my physical anatomy has included an ass that sticks out more the the typical . And I remember dancing and suddenly I felt a squeeze on one of my cheeks. So i turn to see my perpetrator and I saw a and a female couple. Now the male insisted it was the female that had grabbed me. The female said nothing. So all I did was give them a glare and continued dancing the rest of the night. I did not confront them like that woman had confronted me. And looking back on it now I know that I was in my right to confront them about it.

Honestly, it was better that I learned his<b> lesson </font></b>sooner than later, because I have gotten consent to do things like grab a girls ass and bump and grind on girls at a club prior to this woman. So I should’ve known better. Especially since I have been in her situation of being sexually harassed.but I did t realize it until after.

Also, I feel it’s important to point out that nobody consents to being sexually harassed. Because if it’s consensual then it’s not harassment! Duuuuuhh!

So,<b> lesson </font></b>learned.

Closure found.

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