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The Playdate Update - March Edition
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The Playdate Update - March Edition www.playdateprofiles. WTF IS WITH GHOSTING? Ghosters can EAD I’m going to have a little rant here guys... Ghosting is common in the magical world of online dating, especially in the casual scene. However, there is a particular style of ghosting that takes it to a whole new level. When the ghoster make plans for the first date, knowing they won't be turning up or sending a message to cancel, meaning you sit alone waiting.... Dates cancel all the time which is annoying, but we all do it at some stage for a variety of reasons eg too tired, too much effort required for a first date, worried they won’t like you…..the list goes on. However, most people have the courtesy to send a message canceling or postponing the date. What I find hard to comprehend, are the people who do this purely for kicks. These people have no moral compass, to knowingly let you go to the effort of looking nice, traveling to the agreed meeting place, only to sit there alone, it's incredibly cruel. For the person being ghosted it’s a humiliating experience, wondering if everybody can tell you are being stood up, which of course they can. The worst part is when your texts are ignored & there is a deafening silence from the ghoster, leaving you feeling confused & questioning how anyone could be so mean. Both men and women are guilty of this behavior & it has happened to me a few times. Each time the same key things have happened: We have chatted online regularly for a few weeks Great connection & conversation A date is made & we continue chatting until a few hours prior to the date Then complete silence I know some people honestly suffer from intense anxiety and can’t bring themselves to turn up on the day, which also makes them too embarrassed to send a message canceling the date. Generally speaking, these people eventually send a text apologising. I wouldn't wish this on anybody & encourage anyone that does to check our Dating Advice services, we help people every day to handle social interactions with more confidence. Some Ghosters are in a relationship that is lacking any excitement or passion, so they enjoy connecting with someone new & the pre-date chatting. For others, its the power of knowing someone is sitting there waiting for them that turns them on. Neither can be an excuse for the cruelty they are inflicting on another human being. Have you experienced this kind of ghosting? We would love to hear from anyone that has, or anything similar. Please contact us with your stories DATING DISASTERS Speaking of bad dates....we have received a great response this month to our for Dating Disaster stories. Each month, the best story will feature in this blog, with the winner receiving a copy of our Essential Guide To Being A Playmate Master FREE! I am a strong believer that we need to laugh about these experiences instead of cry. It’s not about putting anyone down, it’s about turning a negative experience into something more positive by sharing. So if you have a great Dating Disaster story, submit it through our blog page, we love reading them! THIS MONTHS WINNER IS ANNA FROM HAMPTON, VICTORIA. CONGRATULATIONS ANNA! Anna's Dating Disaster: A few years ago a new but happily single me decided to test my intuition by dating different stereotypes. This particular stereotype was the tall, solid & covered in tattoos type. Not my usual pick for a date but he had an interesting personality & the conversation was fun & flowed easily. So we decided to have a drink on Friday night at my house, Mr Playdate turned up on time & enjoyed a few drinks, everything was going smoothly. Then the kissing began & things were starting to heat up a little.....until Mr Playdate excused himself for the bathroom. Mr playdate stayed in that bathroom for 90 minutes, only coming when I asked him too. I knew that whatever the problem was, he was now too embarrassed to come so I went up to the door and asked him to come , which he did straight away, apologising. It would appear that Mr Playdate had severe<b> performance </font></b>anxiety and whilst it wasn’t nice to sit there for 90 minutes, I cannot imagine the anguish he would have been going through.... but it gets worse. The night became really awkward when Mr Playdate tried to kiss me again & I kindly said to him that I think we should it a night & leave it that. Whilst I felt for him, I knew that nothing further was going to happen because my sex maniac libido would destroy him. Mr Playdate disagreed & kept trying to kiss , insisting that everything would be fine. Eventually, I had to firmly say ‘NO’ & ask him to leave, which he eventually did. Not surprisingly, I didn’t hear from him again but I do wish him all the best and sincerely hope that he can learn to overcome such intense anxiety. Send us your disaster story! DO YOU HAVE A PLAN B? On occasion, I have a Plan B date set up just in case Plan A falls through.....naughty I know but theres roughly a 30% chance your date is going to postpone or cancel, and having a Plan B has come in very handy on a few occasions. However, Karma has also kicked my ass too,by both dates cancelling on me. You also run the risk of Plan B figuring he was Plan B & consequently.... never being a plan again. How do you handle it when you have to cancel on Plan B though? Are you honest with Plan B and tell them that their Plan B? I have regular playmates that don't mind being plan b, but in general I always like to run with honesty is the best policy, but sometimes it’s not always the most practical. The key is giving as much notice as possible, you definitely don’t want both of them turning up at the same time, actually....that could be a lot of fun  Has anyone else had similar experience that went horribly wrong ? Id love to hear about it On that note, happy playing folks  Lady Playdate www.playdateprofiles. Happy Playing Players {=} Lady Smyk |
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