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FWB What it means to me...and what it should mean to you too. First of all, let me say, most people have the wrong idea of what that actually means and throw it around thinking this is how the will get laid. I believe the term most are looking for to describe what they are actually looking for on most sites would be NSA fun (No String Attached fun). That being said,it's all in the name, Friends With Benefits. A couple questions: how many close friends do you actually have? What is a friend to you? For me the answers to those questions are: there are really only a select group of people that I consider to be my true friends, this is because I believe in quality over quantity; and a friend is someone whom I can hang out with or talk with every day or once a year or hardly at all and still always be on that level of understanding that only a friend can have, it is also someone whom I know I can turn to (no matter how stupid I may have been) and they will be there to support me and/or give me tough love when needed. I have some really good FWB and they are people I have known a very long time, trust with my body and my feelings, and it is not always just about sex. Which, a good FWB, you should be able to just hang out with like you would with any of your other friends. Also, these are people that can see and date other people, and sometimes that means that your FWB relationship may actually end up being just friends, depending on new relationships that may come up. At this point, you would be happy for and show support for said new relationships. So, next time you think about telling someone that you are looking for a FWB, think about what that means and what that actually entails. In my mind, this entails actually getting to know a person before you start having sex. Finding common interests and going out and doing said common interests. Making new friends does take time and effort, especially if they are going to be lasting friendships. If you can't do that with this person you are wanting to be FWB with, then it stands to reason, that they would not be a good match for a FWB type situation. I am looking for like minded friends and if some of those common interests happen to involve sex and other fetish play, great. Otherwise, I may have an awesome new friend. |
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1 post 5/28/2018 4:42 pm |
PREACH
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5/28/2018 4:54 pm |
Nice
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Ur correct
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Making new friends does take time I agree it does take time - perhaps years. You and your potential FWB will be willing to wait possibly years before the benefits kick in? When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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The conventional wisdom around here is benefits come before friend which is often absent from an individuals' definition. If you can't connect, its just sex and there's no real benefit without sharing the passion of it. In that case, they might as well do it themselves 
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Yes. I agree with your definition.
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5/28/2018 7:06 pm |
Spot on...
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In theory they sound like what an unfettered life one could live but for one crucial element that will always hinder its success and that's the Human Element. I 'm certain there are probably a few people of a particular brain trust who have successfully converted people they meet into automated beings "like a good FWB". Until one day they tire of rescheduling or that Human element of emotion wreaks havoc and they're given the get out dating free card and told we're just friends.You know, FWB .Friends, with backup.Plenty of backs ups. Now they're just Forgotten While Burning bridges! It works flawlessly for all the other living things on this planet for which we are their worst enemies.A trait we often share amongst ourselves.SADLY Using more than all the road!
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FwB - many interpret it as Friends with monies bemefit. For me, simply great friends with occasional sexual benefits (comfort)
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hi
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I believe the term most are looking for to describe what they are actually looking for on most sites would be NSA fun (No String Attached fun). .... Maybe, but some people actually think they may have friends with whom they would have sex, sometimes. This is very likely. ....Now are they going to find a Fwb on Affairlook?.... Not very likely. But telling a woman, "I want a fwb", is more likely to get her to put out.......... but of course what happens is, he never shows up again, and she gets all upset about putting out to really a one-stand, no-strings-attached, situation. and a friend is someone whom I can hang out with or talk with every day or once a year or hardly at all and still always be on that level of understanding that only a friend can have, it is also someone whom I know I can turn to (no matter how stupid I may have been) and they will be there to support me and/or give me tough love when needed. ..... So really one of these close friends could also give you sex, when you need sex. Yes, I'm right. and it is not always just about sex. ... Well ya, because they've already been established as "Friends". Which, a good FWB, you should be able to just hang out with like you would with any of your other friends. .... That's right. But if you're hanging out with a woman, all the time, and there is no sex with her ever [or any more after the first time] but you'd like to tap that pussy , and she won't let you, then you are "Friendzoned". Also, these are people that can see and date other people, ... That's right. Your friends , with whom you have sex, are dating people, some even establish committed relationships, in which case the Fwb portion of the ride, comes to an end. Hence the benefit of having more than one fwb. [ -and- or some fuck-buddies, or some hookers, or some booty call gals]. In my mind, this entails actually getting to know a person before you start having sex. ..... That's right. However the downside to this is, IF you try to be a woman's friend first because you want to have sex with her...... she can decide you and she should not have sex, because that will ruin the friendship. ...... So when that happens [she rejects the offer of sexual benefits] , that's when you should walk away from the whole deal. .....If you stay? Then she has managed to "Friendzone" you , and keep you around to give her attention, but no sex. You've become one of her gay friends. Making new friends does take time and effort, .... Yes it does. And as I said, she can say , "No" to sex, after you've put in that time and effort. I am looking for like minded friends and if some of those common interests happen to involve sex and other fetish play, great. .... Okay, but upfront, when you approach her to be friends, you make it crystal clear you are doing this to have sex later on....... Make her tell you if she's interested in that or not. Most every woman knows if she is interested in having sex with you , ever, in about 10 seconds of meeting you. But really, she's going to be thinking, "You just want to have sex with me"....and she will try to just "Friendzone" you, and never have sex with you, and you end up being her token gay buddy giving her attention, and not getting any sex. So you can see why telling her up front, you do want to have sex with her. Now she knows why you're hanging around, and she can tell you , yes, or no, to the concept. .......or of course she may agree to having sex with you sometime, but time passes, weeks turn into months, ......now you need to make the decision to walk away, because she's "Friendzoning" you. Otherwise, I may have an awesome new friend. .... No... if you want to have sex with her, at some future time, and she doesn't want to, ever have sex with you, then you need to walk away immediately.
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When a man approaches you to be friends, he needs to tell you he also wants to have sex with you, because once he says, "Can we be friends", then you [the woman] only sees him as a "Friendzoned" token gay guy. So you need to tell him , "Yes, that can happen", or "No way". You might even tell him, "Let's fuck and see what happens".
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5/29/2018 4:39 am |
FWB is a situational relationship that requires the strength of the friendship is powerful enough to allow sex without wanting to evolve into something more. Not many can do this. Jimmy B. My blog JimmyB7474 is called Into The Woods (erotica) entertaining stories about a guy named Jimmy. Enjoy.
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"Making new friends does take time and effort, .... Yes it does. And as I said, she can say , "No" to sex, after you've put in that time and effort." So that is why you don't want to put "Time and effort" into making friends if your first intention is to have sex with "Her". You, a woman, you don't need to to put time and effort into being his friend, either....... just have sex with him..... otherwise, if you just keep mentioning being his friend, and hanging out with him, but no sex, if he's smart, he will figure you are just looking for token gay guys for your friendzone, and dismiss you.
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