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One of the questions I receive the most is "What is it you're looking for?"  

Patti_Kake 46F
605 posts
11/4/2016 1:13 pm
One of the questions I receive the most is "What is it you're looking for?"

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Patti, what is it you're looking for?


The answer to that question is relatively simple to say, but requires some honest thought and a lot of definition.

I'm hoping to find someone who I truly enjoy being with, and who truly enjoys being with me, no matter what we are doing together.

To refrain from turning this post into a discussion of moral philosophy, let me clarify it simply by saying that in order for that answer to be understood, one must accept that there can be no caveats or compromises to achieve it.

Now, let me ask you a question.


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"What is it you're looking for?"


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Come and visit me on my Blog, "Patti's (Blog) Page"Patti_Kake


mindworker1970 53M
328 posts
11/4/2016 1:17 pm

I'm looking for someone who enjoys being with me as much as I enjoy being with them. Someone who is comfortable with who they are and what they want out of life. Someone who can take a big chance, make a big change to make their life better.


Patti_Kake replies on 11/5/2016 6:20 am:
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What you are saying sounds contradictory to me.

If they are already comfortable with who they are and what they want out of life why take chances and make changes? Those "changes", to me, represent compromises.


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Patti_Kake 46F
681 posts
11/4/2016 1:20 pm

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Hopefully, this won't generate a lot of the second most-frequently-asked questions I receive!

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Come and visit me on my Blog, "Patti's (Blog) Page"Patti_Kake


sphxdiver 74M
21063 posts
11/4/2016 1:30 pm

I honestly think it's a very common question on here.

Myself, someone to spend quality time with, in and out of the bedroom.
You know, like common interests, etc.

Very good question, cause as you probably know, most profiles are not completely filled out and there's a lot of them up in the air as to what they're looking for.


Patti_Kake replies on 11/5/2016 6:25 am:
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More often than not, it appears as if those that have filled out elaborate profiles have indicated with negatives what they don't like; "I don't like this," and "I don't like that."

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s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
11/4/2016 1:43 pm

Leading a busy life it's difficult to meet people in a conducive
atmosphere where single people congregate.This place
piqued my curiosity.I 'm not looking for anything here.
The age discrimination here has me relying on a
much better source.I like the freedom of
speaking ones mind through the blogs.
Good to see you are still about and in seemingly good spirits!
Good luck to you!

Using more than all the road!


Patti_Kake replies on 11/5/2016 6:28 am:
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Thanks, s2ndegree!

What is your "much better source?"


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MyLadylips 72F
52 posts
11/4/2016 1:44 pm

Yes, this is one of the best, frequent questions I see and receive and ask. So much better than hearing the "we're all here for the same thing anyway" line.

Oh no, not at all......not the same at all.


Patti_Kake replies on 11/5/2016 6:36 am:
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So many of the guys on here appear to actually believe this is a "sex site", and all they have to do is send a flirt or an email to have us women ready and willing to jump in bed with them.

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forgotforgetting 57M
8134 posts
11/4/2016 2:08 pm

I'm looking for enlightenment...and a good martini.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde


Patti_Kake replies on 11/5/2016 6:40 am:
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Have you tried visiting Our Lady of Perpetual Farts Church Bar and Grille?

Sorry, I couldn't resist that one!


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MordecaiB 52M/52F
53 posts
11/4/2016 2:33 pm

I think it is so common because of all the fakes, poor profiles, bots and others that make many of us question this site. If I see a well written and lengthy profile I usually don't ask that question and tailor my questions to what was written.


Patti_Kake replies on 11/5/2016 6:44 am:
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You actually READ profiles?????

It appears to me that most of the men don't.


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Nola7011 68M
1021 posts
11/4/2016 4:06 pm

'The perfect wave."-Jeff Spicoli "The perfect tan."-George Hamiltin. 'Time enough at last."-Rodney Wordsworth. 'One more silver dollar."-Nola7011.

People are strange when you're a stranger."


Patti_Kake replies on 11/5/2016 6:54 am:
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I can only guess that your comment has some meaning to you alone.

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BrownEyedBBW 55F  
8831 posts
11/4/2016 4:51 pm

"What do *you* think I'm looking for?"

I find that a lot of men are hesitant to give a straight answer out of a concern that they won't get sex. If a man can give me a straight answer without trying to tap dance or bullshit, he's worth talking to further.

If he doesn't just answer the question, I start wrapping up the date.


Patti_Kake replies on 11/5/2016 7:01 am:
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In all of the conversations I have with guys from here, both through emails and in person, I never have to ask that question.

Most of those who email me, bluntly come right out with what they want from me, and those few who I have met and talked with usually get around to it on the first meeting with a bit more finesse.


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Leegs2012 51M
96137 posts
11/5/2016 8:35 am

I must say you are one gorgeous woman..pretty & very sexy!! I have been fortunate to have friends that are nice people and enjoy the swinging lifestyle like I do. We enjoy each others company, in and out of the bedroom.


Patti_Kake replies on 11/6/2016 5:50 am:
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Thanks.

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Timo53 50M

11/5/2016 2:30 pm

I'm looking for ..... All and nothing .... What comes .... A greeting, a mail, a simple meeting, a one night "meeting", a short or long relationship, a love ....... What comes ... At now, it didn't come much ...


Patti_Kake replies on 11/6/2016 5:52 am:
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Good luck!

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Nola7011 68M
1021 posts
11/5/2016 4:42 pm

    Quoting Nola7011:
    'The perfect wave."-Jeff Spicoli "The perfect tan."-George Hamiltin. 'Time enough at last."-Rodney Wordsworth. 'One more silver dollar."-Nola7011.
My hunch is, most people will get it.

People are strange when you're a stranger."


Patti_Kake replies on 11/6/2016 5:53 am:
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That's nice.

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forgotforgetting 57M
8134 posts
11/8/2016 10:32 am

No worries. I like a good sense of humor.

“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
― Oscar Wilde


Patti_Kake replies on 11/9/2016 5:31 am:
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Good for you!

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s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
11/17/2016 8:27 am

    Quoting s2ndegree:
    Leading a busy life it's difficult to meet people in a conducive
    atmosphere where single people congregate.This place
    piqued my curiosity.I 'm not looking for anything here.
    The age discrimination here has me relying on a
    much better source.I like the freedom of
    speaking ones mind through the blogs.
    Good to see you are still about and in seemingly good spirits!
    Good luck to you!
If I disclosed that it would end up like this place and one is way more than enough!

Using more than all the road!


Patti_Kake replies on 11/19/2016 9:27 am:
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Since you won't disclose it, I can only wish you good luck on it.

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coffeemate2015 66M  
7 posts
11/27/2016 8:55 am

Friendly, Honest, Open Friends, that leave Drama behind and just want to enjoy Friendship and Pleasure.


Patti_Kake replies on 11/27/2016 9:40 am:
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"Leaving drama behind" ... when you're married? To me, that defies logic unless you're uncaring, selfish, and only focused on your own sexual self-gratifications.

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oldpervct 65M

11/27/2016 10:45 am

To feel at home


Patti_Kake replies on 11/28/2016 7:01 am:
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Be it ever so humble ...

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sinsationalgent 60M
256 posts
11/29/2016 1:56 pm

At this point in my life I'm not really looking for anything until life settles down enough to make some hard decisions, but not against getting to know someone via emails or chatting in the meantime.


Patti_Kake replies on 11/30/2016 5:50 am:
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That's one way to 'stay in the game' without really playing.

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sinsationalgent 60M
256 posts
12/5/2016 8:14 am

Why yes it is!


Patti_Kake replies on 12/5/2016 1:49 pm:
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Whatever 'floats your boat'.

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funliguy69 64M
1 post
12/27/2016 9:43 am

Hmmm, What am I looking for?
Well at this point of my life I am looking for a partner. I need to have someone who enjoys what I enjoy, eats what I like to eat, go on adventures that I like to go on. Ultimately I want my best friend! Someone to lay next to, wake up with, make breakfast with, clean the house with, go fishing with, go on extended boating adventures with.

This may sound a little one sided here and excuse me if it does, but it's true to an extent. However if my partner and I both enjoy the same things then it's a win for both of us and it'll be perfect.


Patti_Kake replies on 12/27/2016 2:47 pm:
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Yes, it sounds very one-sided!

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