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shoud i or shouldn't i????
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shoud i or shouldn't i???? would sex on the first date make you judge that person negatively or would you look at it as a spontaneous reaction to a great connection between two people? |
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If the chemistry is right you better react. That first date rule thing is for kids..lol
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i agree
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I think this is definitely one of those questions to ask a woman before meeting so everyone is on the same page. Personally, I don't do sex on first meets and I makes that clear beforehand so a guy can back out if that's a deal breaker for him. I wouldn't see any guy who pushed the issue a second time. Why? I'm not frigid or a prude (and I can get testimonials attesting to that, j/k) but I look at that first meeting as a job interview. Am I who you thought I would be, are you who I thought you would be? I need to suss you out to see if my gut tells me you are someone I can trust. I want to be sure that what you've told me before we met, matches with the person sitting in front of me.* Also, I don't want to get crazy and spontaneous with a stranger only to end up with buyer's remorse. We both might be inclined to in that moment but I need to be sure. If I meet you and three days later I'm still, "I'd hit that like the fist of an angry god", it might go if he feels the same. I would expect him to be doing the same with me. Otherwise, I'm going to leave with the impression that he might stick it in any hole that will hold still long enough. And yes, sometimes it takes more than one meeting. I need to be comfortable that I won't end up on the side of a milk carton or getting weird phone calls at all hours (which happened to me in my early days on this site). *My favorite example is the guy who confirmed that he was separated as he had indicated on his profile. When we met he mentioned that he still lived at home (in my home state real estate prices are such that those types of arrangements aren't unusual). So when I said, "oh, you live in the basement" his response was, "no I live in the house. When I asked him where he slept it came out that he was still sleeping with his wife and that he wasn't separated but separating. What does that mean? It means that he and hs wife had talked about breaking up but she didn't know that he really wanted to break up. this guy was totally my type and if I didn't have the "no sex on a first meet" rule I could have ended up riding a pony that was not mine to ride.
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