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Is an exchange of money so bad?  

SweetorSharp 53F
83 posts
6/12/2016 6:04 am
Is an exchange of money so bad?


Never ever thought I would consider an option recently offered but I find to my shame I am. A man I met some time and liked has recently contacted me. We did not part on good terms as he was a twat but he apologised and has offered me a considerable sum to meet him again.

Now I am finding myself considering. I know him, he is good company and an attentive lover.

Moral dilemma!!!!

Ringlos 57M
456 posts
6/12/2016 6:13 am

It much depends on what is tied to the money.
You write he offered money to meet again but I guess he rather offered money for sex. If that is the case, the fact that you did not state it that way tells that you do not feel comfortable about it.
First argument against it.
The second argument against it is his bad behavior before. Money would put him in a Position in which he considers his bad behavior to be compensate and might make him even worse for assuming that he is in power and after all paid for you...


lookin4funinBC9 63M
1386 posts
6/12/2016 6:34 am

Really he must be really something if he has to pay for it??? Sorry don't get it? You could better than him! But it's your choice, if a woman offered me a money I would take it I know this make no sense. .


HldnTght 68M
3 posts
6/12/2016 6:41 am

I may or may not know a young woman who has had sex for money. It is a business transaction. What you are suggesting is not a business transaction at all all, given the prior history. If you wouldn't do it without the money, I wouldn't do it with the money attached.

Now, if you would see him without the money but are coming from the point of view that it is there, you might as well take it, I could understand, and I don't really consider that to be a question of morality. Ask yourself this, however - what does this indicate as far as the way he views you? I have begged forgiveness before, but the thought of offering a former lover money to see me has never crossed my mind.


Seductive_Focus 38M
29 posts
6/12/2016 6:53 am

If it is just to fuck him then go for it. If the sex turns out to be good then you have a good time and get a payday out of it. Win win x


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
6/12/2016 6:54 am

Simply put DO NOT do it- you have no idea what's lurking in the offer and you need to keep yourself safe

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hrdallnght4u 67M

6/12/2016 6:59 am

If He is not worth meeting for free..Why bother..If You need to bribe someone with money to met You..then It is because Your not worth meeting..

You can't expect to be Old & Wise..If You were never Young & Crazy!!!


moonfish 56M  
466 posts
6/12/2016 7:25 am

I would go for it. He apologized, he is a good lover. You don't have much to lose and plenty to gain. Shame that sort of thing never happens to me!


BrownEyedBBW 55F  
8831 posts
6/12/2016 7:51 am

If he was an ass when you parted, it's not going to get better. In fact, it might even be worse because if he's paying you he'll own you, sort of like a slave. If something goes terribly wrong, would you feel comfortable going to the police?

Did you ever ask yourself *why* came back to you if you didn't part on good terms? Did you ever ask why he felt the need to offer you money? If he just wanted to have sex with you again, why not just have sex with you again?

Generally, I don't have a problem with sex work (except for the fact that its illegal in most areas). However, I do think it's squick-worthy when a former lover offers money for sex. You've got to wonder if they always saw you as a pr**situte and how much respect they have for you to even ask.

Whatever you choose to do, good luck.


SweetorSharp 53F
34 posts
6/12/2016 10:43 am

Need to clarify he was a bit of an ass only. He did not hurt or upset me just pissed me off a bit!!!!!


northshoretake2 50M  
1626 posts
6/12/2016 10:54 am

Seductive_Focus wrote:

If it is just to fuck him then go for it. If the sex turns out to be good then you have a good time and get a payday out of it. Win win x

^^^ This

Keep in mind, that that's a very big IF. But as long as you are comfortable with the terms--no strings, mutually beneficial, boundaries, etc--and the sex is enjoyable, then it really could be a win-win.

This kind of thing happens all the time. Do you think those young hotties are latching on to rich fat old guys because of their charm and looks? Seriously, any guy with cash uses it to secure the finer things in life.

Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.


FullOn4U 58M
20399 posts
6/13/2016 5:31 am

Some kind of apology he made for being a twat...

"Sorry for being a twat, will you fuck me for cash"

And your response?

"Yes, you are a twat... but why not, I'll spread my legs and take your cash"


SweetorSharp replies on 6/13/2016 9:12 am:
You are jumping to a conclusion over the decision!!!

lovetodoyou69 55M
1 post
6/16/2016 5:40 am

I would stay way clear treated badly left on bad terms sounds like a right dickhead got to laugh I'd probably milk him dry the bustard


BlackPussyRules 59M
913 posts
7/12/2016 4:13 pm

Once a twat always a twat. Do you really need his money?
I like digging my own grave!


Otis_Good 71M
4037 posts
8/13/2016 5:24 pm

Do what you think best I wouldn't look down my nose at you whatever you decide .

Pretty sure you are not the first woman that has been faced with this problem.


billydixy66 70M
180 posts
11/1/2016 7:31 am

No dilemma
You will regret it for all time
First question, would you even consider it if there was no money involved?


proteus_2a 58M
7979 posts
11/4/2016 1:34 am

Go with your instict , but be sure of what it entails

My 2 cents really - Cheers !


1seeking1 58F
3767 posts
11/30/2016 2:12 pm

So how did this moral dilemma end?


SweetorSharp replies on 12/9/2016 5:00 am:
I thought I considered and then I walked away. x

SweetorSharp 53F
34 posts
12/9/2016 5:01 am

I walked away. Was not worth my self esteem!


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