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waiting and hoping
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waiting and hoping am i allowed to be fussy when selecting who i meet? i'm not a jump the bones of anyone kind of girl, i like to get to know someone, have some kind of connection before i commit to anything. I don't think its a lot to ask to send a few messages before taking things further, i may be on my own in thinking this but please don't judge me, its how i am and i am certainly too old to change my ways now. Having had messages from guys expecting me to meet them in their hotel room after the first message, it just isn't going to happen, i'm sure there are some that are happy to do this and good luck to them, for me, i don't feel comfortable. I know what the site is all about but just putting it out there that with the right person i am sure i can have a good time, just get to know me a little first and let me get to know you. |
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It's all in what you want out of that meeting. I think women are more into connections...with anything they do. Personality is something...I understand when you do not want to meet, jump in bed, get it done and then get out. Some like that, but I think most do not. Even though they want a "hook up" relationship, I think they do want a deeper connection than just physical.
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Is it really 'fussy,' though? Fussy I see as overly picky. But from what you're describing, you're simply stating what you want, and living by that is paramount! Good on you for sticking to your guns. Nothing good comes out of selling yourself short...plus your way is safer, too, which is tremendously important, here. Keep on keeping on! 
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No way is this considered fussy what so ever there ma'am. I personally feel the same way as you do, how can you know someone after one msg you don't plain and simple, if they don't like what you want well screw them guess they just don't like you that much then right I'm just me
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Well ms chocolateflake23, you've certainly hit a resonating note for us with this post. Like you, we prefer to have some knowledge of the people we might be sharing our bodies with. But, unfortunately, despite many profiles professing a desire to "get to know you" , it actually seems as though ANY form of interaction is considered an opening of the door to the bedroom. As ms jelee said in the above comment to you, we agree that being fussy is not so much a negative, but rather a wise way of approaching "all of this" . A site such as this is one of the few places in Life where one can, and Should, exercise complete discretion in their selections. We lose about 90% of our contacts by our relative slowness of moving forward, but we consider the time spent in "research" to be more than worth the cost in attrition. As we like to say, " Better to investigate a little while, rather than regret a long while".So, please stay true to yourself; if your thoughtfulness is any indication, we're sure you're worth the wait.
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6/17/2016 9:04 am |
Surely we need to know another person first, find out what makes each other tick if your looking for quick sex then there are places to get it we all know that . but to get to know a person first is more important and no it's not guaranteed we are all going to click, but yes sometimes we will find a person who presses the correct mental & emotional buttons and then who knows. Personally I prefer to get to know someone first see if there is a connection good luck
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