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The Bisexual Slut (or) Sexual Venn Diagram
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The Bisexual Slut (or) Sexual Venn Diagram I definitely do not make it a secret that I am in a relationship with the most wonderful person ever. I do, however, tend to keep this person's gender unmentioned when in certain companies. I keep using gender neutral pronouns like they, them, my partner or using languages that address nouns without having to imagine them having either a dick or a vagina. Pointless? Not when you're me, or a countless many other bisexuals out there. It is hard enough being a woman, case in point: jezebel (dot) com/man-poses-as-woman-on-online-dating-site-barely-lasts-1500707724 It is pretty hard being a woman who likes, nay, extremely enjoys sex and makes it a point to pursue said enjoyment in any medium possible. I've been taken to psychiatrists by "concerned" "friends". Both words have quote marks because they really were not. I've been gossipped about, I've been harassed through "intervention". Frankly, I've been through hell. However, it is fucking super maliciously hard being a woman who likes sex so much to the point of self-identifying as a slut and is a bisexual. Woah. Let me put that in a way that is easier to understand: 1) I am a woman. 2) I am a slut. 3) I am a bisexual. Now we all know (I am being very generous here), how logic goes. You know, basic logic we learned in high school maths. The: a happens IF and ONLY IF b equals c. We know that (1) is not necessarily (2) i.e If a person is born a woman, she is not necessarily a slut. I know for a fact that Mother Teresa wasn't a slut. She's a fucking nun for god's sakes. Or my mom isn't a slut. She's only dated one man, and married said man and has been with that man ever since. Some bigots would argue that ALL WOMAN ARE SLUTS. But that's why they're bigots and I would never ever ever have sex with them. We also know that (1) and (3) is not necessarily true either as a set. I use "not necessarily" not to mean they are mutually exclusive, but that there is an overlap and there are also stand alone areas. There are also bisexual men too. Do google up Venn diagram if you really want to make an effort to understand this. There are online Venn diagram makers as well that can help you visualize. Bearing in mind that being (2) is considered a bad thing in our current society, there is always that misconception that (3) automatically equals to being (2). I understand that sexuality is a personal issue, and some people are staunch monogamists. I respect that. I respect partners who believe the same and try to conform to these rules of relationship that they set. I have no problem with being loyal to one person. A relationship is made up of more than one person, and I am willing to do anything for love (almost everything. I still draw the line at scat and blood). It does make me very uncomcortable that despite assurances that my love is true, despite giving up the things I love best (can I ever say no to gangbangs?) my bisexuality has always been regarded with contempt. As if being a bisexual gives any old jack<b> authority </font></b>to an "all access" pass to my vagina. It doesn't. I have a highly functioning brain. I understand that with every action there are consequences. Doing something that people dislike will cause the people to dislike you. It's logical. Fucking a dead cat is illogical because the dead cat can't give consent. Neither does a live cat. And that is why I will never fuck cats. Although unlike bigots, I am very fond of cats. And it's not just romantic partners, friends are not very understanding either. When I have a male partner, I get judged by my "real" lesbian friends. (Seriously, your sexuality is as real as you want it to be). One actually said "oh you bisexuals definitely carry STDs". As someone who goes for routine sex health checks, I definitely was offended by this ignorance. When I have a female partner, some male douchebags will leer and attempt unfunny jokes like "oh yeah let's have a threesome sometimes". Forgetting that my partner is his or her own person. If she wants a threesome, she'll ask for a threesome. If she's a lesbian, she'll puke at the idea. The thing about lesbians is that they are definitely not into men. Here, this article might help: www.yourtango (dot) com/experts/mary-malia/lesbian-stereotypes-why-they-exist-how-we-can-eliminate-them This is why I keep the gender of my loved one on a don't ask don't tell basis. We still live in a world where people pass ignorant judgments and frankly, I just don't give a damn anymore. |
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Wow....good post.
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I'm really glad you wrote this, hysteroyster. You must find yourself in a difficult position quite often, and I can empathize with that. I'm very happy that you've claimed your sexuality as your own and don't see a need to conform to what makes other people comfortable. I think that in itself is a very powerful step. Whenever we do not conform to the social norm, there will be people who are... 'concerned'. Sometimes, they are simple concerned for us. After all, we're all brought up with the bogeyman of all the terrible things that happen to people that do not conform. Many others, however, are more interested in getting you to conform to their worldview. I see jettison that deadweight. At the end of the day, the most important thing is how you feel about yourself. It is your life and your body. If you're in a good place, then that is what matters 
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in Affairlook blogland people were the slut badge with pride (regardless of wether it is with an animal, a mineral or even corn on the cob when they run out of batteries...  Wannabe/Sexpot - which one do you want me to be? 
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uh-huh. Hit the nail on the head right there.
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