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Blogs > SmolderingEyes29 > Whispered Sweet Nothings

Intimacy Without Intricacy  

SmolderingEyes29 43M
2 posts
6/9/2013 11:08 pm

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Intimacy Without Intricacy

I recently received a letter from a fascinating woman here looking for something that's rare for a woman to search for.

She was looking for sexual monogamy without the relationship but was afraid it's a losing battle to look for something like that here.

I enjoyed her letter; it was a breath of fresh air. It sounded kinda like she wanted intimacy without the intricacy. That's something I've been saying to friends for years, and should have been saying to myself with the last girl that I dated.

I've been in several relationships before where what I really wanted was intimacy; someone I could snuggle with and kiss sweetly and call at the end of a long day and take long sexy showers with, but every time I tried to find something so simple and sweet, drama eventually got in the way and feelings were hurt. Such is the nature of relationships; you've either found your perfect match or you find out that you need to keep looking - keep trying.

That's how I coined the phrase Intimacy Without Intricacy. I found that without placing boundaries and expectations (and therefore pressure) on a relationship a person can allow the relationship to grow on its own. It has the freedom to stretch; has the space to fan out and reach for the sunlight. Often times, expectations are kind of like a tree trying to grow, but is surrounded by taller trees looming overhead snuffing out its opportunity for a fighting chance. Since I realized this I started approaching things from another angle; friends first - expectations later, when or if it's the right time and with the right person.

Thus, I subscribe to the<b> philosophy </font></b>of intimacy without intricacy.
carnalcupcakeoo 63F
32 posts
6/9/2013 11:29 pm

 I agree wholeheartedly. I wish I could fine that here but all I end up with is men wanting the quick fuck and I just won't do that. FWB means FRIENDS with benefits but the men here don't even want the friendship. As one guy put it, he goes to the gym to work out and then goes to visit a woman to exercise his other muscle. So tacky.


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