49 posts 10/24/2012 11:32 am
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Plus or Minus ?
Negativity is something we have all dealt with at some point in our life. Negative thinking is counterproductive to fun, harmony, & likeability. Negative thoughts allowed to foster seem to grow and more they seem to spread the negativity to other aspects of your life & to those around you.
So, what happens when you meet someone in the lifestyle that is more often negative than positive? You know the kind of person I am talking about….the one that seems to hunt the bad points in people instead of inherently look for their positives, the one that constantly complains about everything without every attempting to fix the problem. It’s undeniably true that there will always be people in this world who see the glass as half empty. These are your negative people, who typically see the worst in a situation, no matter what the situation may be. Communicating with these people, whether they are friends, family, or lifestyle acquaintances, can often be difficult, exhausting, and can hinder your own happiness. Sure, we all need a shoulder to cry on occasionally that’s not what I’m talking about here, I am talking about the people that are CONSTANTLY negative.
But, what can you do? When someone repeatedly drains everyone around them, how do you maintain a sense of compassion without getting sucked into their doom? And how do you act in a way that doesn’t reinforce their negativity–and maybe even helps them? Try not to take it personal. Negativity is basically selfishness, and their selfishness is about them, not about you.
Whenever the negative tirade starts just smile, yet remain detached. Don’t get involved in it. Refuse to give a reaction, that is what they are looking for & that is what they feed on.
Have someone else around when conversing with the negative individual. In fact, the more people, the better. This way, the negative energy is divided between you and the other members, and you don’t have to bear the full brunt of the negative energy.
Negative people are negative because they lack love, positivity and warmth.
A lot of times, their negative behavior is a barrier they erect to protect themselves from the world. One of the best ways you can help a negative individual is to usher positivity into her life.
If all else fails, reduce contact with them or drop them from your life. Rather than spend your time with negative people, focus on the positive people in your life instead. In the past, I spent a lot of time with negative people, trying to help them with their issues. It drained up a lot of my energy and was often futile, which led me to rethink my methods. Ever since then, I worked on cultivating positivity by hanging out with positive friends.
Above all, make a conscious effort to keep your own energy on a positive level. If you fill yourself with all the wonderful reasons you have to be happy and grateful, there will be little room left for any negativity. Life is after all, an incredibly grand proposition! |
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