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"Ugly" Chatter & It's Counterpart in Swinging
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"Ugly" Chatter & It's Counterpart in Swinging  More specifically about whether or not you would have sexual relations with someone you found unattractive. I was pleased to read a lot of the replies and comments. Most people are aware that it is not what is on the outside so much as what the person is inside. Although physical attraction does play a big part. I mean it is what draws you to a person. But even physical attraction is a subjective thing. What one may consider aesthetically pleasing, may not be to another. Another term that is used frequently and even has a song dedicated to it is "beer goggles". To be drunk enough to have sex with someone you normally would not, simply due to their looks. In my opinion, that speaks volumes about the person who would even use that term and partake in such misadventures. Anyone see the movie "Dogfight"? It was a 1991 film with the late River Phoenix and actress Lily Taylor. In the movie, the guys have a 'contest' they call a 'dogfight', in which each guy brings a date and they compete to see who brought the "ugliest" girl. All unbeknownst to the girl of course. It is a decent movie. But all this talk about "ugly" reminded me of it. It goes hand in hand with the notion that the more you get to know someone, the more you see a different kind of beauty. Inner beauty. Which is more important than outer beauty. In the swinging lifestyle, there is the term, "taking one for the team". This implies that one half of a couple is not physically (sometimes its personality) attracted to the corresponding member of the other couple, but will go ahead and 'play' anyway because their own partner is interested in getting it on. That particular practice should be avoided however. It isn't wise to play that way. Getting to know someone before hand could also put an end to this way of thinking too. Rather than just going out to bone the first couple you meet, or promising to bone before meeting. It all leads to what could be some uncomfortable and or, awkward situations lol. Yes, I speak from experience. Perhaps one day I will share some of our crazy encounters. lol Just try to be nice to people. Even if you are not attracted to them right off the bat, doesn't mean that can't or won't change at a later date if you keep up conversations and acquaintance. Like the saying goes: you can't take back the words once they are spoken. So if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all. Such simple lessons to always remember, because they always hold true. If you just can't get past looks, then just move along and don't waste anyone's time. ~ Read My Blog ~ justhe2ofusmt ~ Party Details ~ Elicit Underground ~SEXY~  ~FUN~ |
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"...to know me is to love me..." My mantra these days  At first glance I doubt I would pique anyone's lust....to the point I was once told "if you were a phone sex girl, I'd call you all the time..." LOL So does that mean my voice is sexier than my body?I have (both single, as well as 1/2 of a swinging couple) gone for the body or the personality....occasionally lucky enough to have both. My best description...I'm really to soft to be athletic, but too firm to be BBW....we all fall into the public's view of "sexy", yet I will go for personality over pretty any day!
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2/23/2013 7:56 pm |
I think in swinging physical attractions plays a bigger role than a emotional attraction. It depends what you are looking for as a couple and we have come to a crossroads in our relationship in this regard. Do we want to find a couple that we are both attracted to or try to develop a relationship with the other couple. I firmly believe a emotional attraction enhances a sexual experience but when you are married with careers and children do you have the time and energy to invest in another intimate relationship. And yes while searching on Affairlook is it not a physical attraction (photo) that attracts you to a persons profile? But I do agree a persons attitude can make them FUglY but have not found it to work in the reverse if I am not physically attracted no matter their personality it wont change. As for taking one for the team that is a very common problem we run into with swinging and I will not do that again!
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Well said! So very true that inner beauty IS more important! Romance her heart, tease her body, enjoy the company shared in bed n out! Treasure every moment spent together, in good times n bad! Cum visit my blog, you're always welcum!  submokey Become a watcher! THINK PINK!
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2/8/2013 7:11 am |
I believe,that choosing a sex partner on looks has to do with maturity & experience. When we were younger,physical attraction was all we made time for. As I've matured and gained more experience,I've learned that the mind is the primary sex organ. I am much more attracted to smart women over the beauty queens. Trust me the sex is much better!   Call Me The Breeze     
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