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 She apparently does not understand the relationship between people in a relationship involving S&M or BDSM. Emasculating men is not the basis of the lifestyle. It is all about complete trust.I think someone needs to get a life LOL If I have stopped by your blog, please be sure to sign my permission slip Pimp Me, Pimp My Blog, But Let Me Do The Same With You  
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Like the other posters, this made me laugh. Wanker indeed! People are crazy. At least she's upfront about it. xoxo Always tell the truth Use kind words Keep your promises Giggle and laugh Be positive Love one another Always be grateful Forgiveness is mandatory Try new things Say please and thank you Say your prayers Smile ~Author unknown
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Precisely! I am not opposed to having a relationship with someone where my sole purpose is to please them in very possible way. As long as it wasn't my only relationship, haha. But it would get old for me very fast if the other person didn't work hard to communicate with me and know me. Wouldn't being a slave be awesome if your mistress asked you to do things that she knew were edgy for you, that you weren't comfortable asking someone to do? That way, yes, I would be serving her and yet our needs would be connecting on many levels.
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She apparently does not understand the relationship between people in a relationship involving S&M or BDSM. Emasculating men is not the basis of the lifestyle. It is all about complete trust.I think someone needs to get a life LOL I totally agree with you that it ALL being complete trust. I'm not saying I would enjoy pain or humiliation (I am almost 100% sure I wouldn't, as if someone hits me I see red and basically very animalistically want to kill them), but if I met someone who I had total, complete trust in, I would think it interesting to give myself to them totally for their pleasure, and tolerate their whims as best I could. In fact, Lia is a dom and I pretty much stay well clear of her lifestyle. I know if I ever wanted to play in that way, that she completely, totally has my trust. I don't have that with anybody else. I have a very sensitive erogenous zone that brings me incredible orgasmic pleasure (it is left as an exercise for the reader, to find it...). It is extraordinarily easy to overstimulate me and make it unpleasant and painful to endure. I can only tolerate fifteen seconds or so of someone stimulating me there. Lia can do it for five minutes, or indefinitely, and I melt completely when she does. So yes... trust is a total prerequisite. I'm not showing up with a collar at some wanker's house to have them whip me without it.
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Yes ONE of my profiles--I have an account on a site just for bisexuals which is a nice safe community because though most swinger types love a bisexual woman, they abhor bisexual men and I don't particularly enjoy feeling like I have to hide any of my kinks. Not that I get to play with a guy more than once every year or two. Sigh. And that is mostly an issue with the quality of guys I meet and not my desire. And you are right I think she needs someone for role play. Or self administered therapy. Or something.
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Aww I love when my humor makes people happy. When you say that it fills me with joy. One of the most important things for me as I get older is a desire for balance in my relationships. I truly deeply enjoy spoiling a woman wit h pleasure and affection but it has to balance in some way. I could -- and may -- write a whole post just for you about that.
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Like the other posters, this made me laugh. Wanker indeed! People are crazy. At least she's upfront about it. xoxo
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There are so many misconceptions about alternative relationships/lifestyles that I don't even know where one would start to clear it all up. And then I remind myself it's not my job to save the world! Ha...just my friends. Fifty Shades of Grey just made it worse. The whole point of any relationship, IMHO, is for the two people to get some of their needs met. Period. Well, and share love, of course. If it works for one to serve and the other to be served (i.e. it meets needs for each), rock on and go forth and be happy. She obviously missed that memo. You didn't! And you have a very necessary skill that is required for a relationship to be mutually fulfilling - you know what works for you and what doesn't. And you speak up about it. While I don't know how this will all play out for me, I still hold by my belief that we all are better served having mutual relationships (sexual or not) to get our needs met - no one person can do all that for another. Or at least, not that I've seen. As for my embracing such alternatives, at this moment in time it's largely philosophical. My last relationship has given me much food for thought and a need for a resting period to truly absorb all I learned. I'm lucky that he was fundamentally a kind person because I was so far gone that had he been a person with ill intent, I would have been an easy target. I like to believe that energetically I would have picked up on that and not gone there. It is taking awhile for me to trust myself again. Ahhh, life - it's never boring is it??? Please know that I send you (and your whole family) tons of good thoughts and positive energy. Big hugs! Always tell the truth Use kind words Keep your promises Giggle and laugh Be positive Love one another Always be grateful Forgiveness is mandatory Try new things Say please and thank you Say your prayers Smile ~Author unknown
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There are so many misconceptions about alternative relationships/lifestyles that I don't even know where one would start to clear it all up. And then I remind myself it's not my job to save the world! Ha...just my friends. Fifty Shades of Grey just made it worse. The whole point of any relationship, IMHO, is for the two people to get some of their needs met. Period. Well, and share love, of course. If it works for one to serve and the other to be served (i.e. it meets needs for each), rock on and go forth and be happy. She obviously missed that memo. You didn't! And you have a very necessary skill that is required for a relationship to be mutually fulfilling - you know what works for you and what doesn't. And you speak up about it. While I don't know how this will all play out for me, I still hold by my belief that we all are better served having mutual relationships (sexual or not) to get our needs met - no one person can do all that for another. Or at least, not that I've seen. As for my embracing such alternatives, at this moment in time it's largely philosophical. My last relationship has given me much food for thought and a need for a resting period to truly absorb all I learned. I'm lucky that he was fundamentally a kind person because I was so far gone that had he been a person with ill intent, I would have been an easy target. I like to believe that energetically I would have picked up on that and not gone there. It is taking awhile for me to trust myself again. Ahhh, life - it's never boring is it??? Please know that I send you (and your whole family) tons of good thoughts and positive energy. Big hugs! First, we are very much in synch about communicating our needs and taking a role in each relationship that fulfills us in some way. I still hold by my belief that we all are better served having mutual relationships (sexual or not) to get our needs met - no one person can do all that for another. Absolutely spot on my dear, if anyone has ever put my whole philosophy of love to words this is the clearest I have ever seen it expressed... and it warms my poly heart that you get this. Wow. As for your last relationship... I love how fully you out your faith and trust in people and you always seem to be processing and analyzing whether they deserve it as you go. Your instincts and intuition are very astute and you would have read the signs of evil way before you let them touch you. Hugs back to you also, my friend.
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LOL. Sage advice. It is important always for me not to keep the shields up, but to observe the players carefully. You are so right about losers running amok in the scene.
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