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Oh yeah, losers abound....and there are a few good ones out there too!
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Oh yeah, losers abound....and there are a few good ones out there too! Hola: Well, ok, yeah....this is Affairlook. But whatever, don't care! I DO care about losers. Thought I would put a little rant up, b/c it is truly digusting to me...so if you're down with anything I post about, yeah...no need to contact me. So, I gave my heart (no, no sobbing here) to a man, who had wonderful , and a nice-but-clannish family. Anyhoo...I come from a HUGE military family. ie: My 5 siblings are all deployed around the world at anytime, mostly Iraq and Afghanistan lately. Go figure. Ok, back to the point. So, I am totally down with supporting our troops, b/c I have lived the experience of having family members in very dangerous areas for some time. K...anyhoo, my ex's brother was deployed to Afghanistan, and I totally supported him while he was there...care packages, cards, IMs, the whole deal. And, when he was home for a month on mid-tour leave, my ex and I opened our (then) home to him with open arms. And laughed our *sses off the whole time, b/c he was just that funny. Now, fast forward to a month ago, when he was home while waiting to transfer to his new duty station. My ex and I had broken up by then. His brother called me, and we chatted a few times on the phone, a few texts, and a few IMs. We talked about going out, but I declined b/c I don't drink anymore and he is a total fan of alcohol. No biggie. K, so then, one night, he freakin' asks me to have sex with him. Not kidding, no joke, and I didn't take him seriously, figuring he was drunk and in need of a lady since he'd beenin Af-freakin-ghanistan until recently. So when he asked AGAIN the second night, I told him to buzz off. Now, seriously...WTF????? This dude knows I was like, going to marry his brother, and wanted to be a part of the family...as his sister in law. Who the HELL propositions someone like that. Just b/c I am outta the circle....does he really think I'd get all over him b/c his brother and I are no longer together? Seriously, guys...I've been thinking about this, and I wouldn't dream of doing something similar. And in the end? I figure you can't teach someone class....you've either got it, or you don't...and he and his crappy brother don't. Eck. Maybe I am making too much of it, maybe not! Either way....um, yeah....I'd love to hear what y'all think....do "normal" people really do this stuff? Since I am constantly reminded this is a "sex site"...the situation seemed appropriate to post. |
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Not a good situation for him to ask you to be in. It would undoubtedly have caused drama between you, him, and your ex. Most likely not worth it. Besides, would you want to sleep with a person that would jeopardize his relationship with his family for a hook-up? (assuming that he wasn't thinking actual relationship)
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Yeah i think your situation fits a lot of peoples blogs on this site. The only difference is 99% of the time the people who post it go through with the offer. Im glad you stuck to your morals, and ill pray for your family to return safely home. Would love to chat if you have a time, id like to know what your looking for on this site.
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6/28/2009 2:20 pm |
I have only been single about 2 1/2 years but in that time, I have learned a LOT, mainly from talking to women. Unfortunately what I have found is that "Gentlemen" are a on the Endangered List. I'm amazed at some of the stories I have heard about men that my female friends have encountered. I also have found that very few men know how to truly communicate, especially about feelings and other "personal" issues. I know when I was going through my separation and divorce, I didn't rely on my male friends that I've known for years. They didn't know how to relate. Most of my support came from my female friends. That said, there are a number of females as well that also don't know how to properly communicate. Don't get me wrong, I'm not perfect, but I have learned a lot, mainly from reading and of course many many sessions of counseling.  Unfortunately, it took a failed marriage to figure this all out. I also can't be too harsh on others because it took me 36+ years to figure things out. They need courses in High School on Communication and Relationships, because most of us didn't learn from our parents, I know I didn't.
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