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How to turn down sexual requests politely!
How to turn down sexual requests politely! The other evening I was invited out by a guy whom I meet on this site. After our initial first meeting was over and we were leaving the coffee shop. He asked if he could come by my place. Isaid no in a polite way, but felt obligated to explain why. I didn't even though I did want to tell him my reasoining. So instead I sent him an e-mail the next day citing my reasons for declining a sexual romp with him. Tell me how do other's handle this situation. And did I do the correct thing or not? DivaWoman4real [COLOR i |
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11/9/2008 12:13 pm |
I have been in your shoes before as well. I think each man takes it differently...I think it is better to put your feelings in an email...its easier to swallow. If you had allowed him to come over after coffee that is something different and that would have deserved a face to face confrontation. I think you did the right thing.
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11/9/2008 12:26 pm |
Girl I am with you. You did the right thing. A one time meeting sometimes does not make an automatic deal for sex or a relationship. It is basically an interview for each other to see if your compatible in many ways including the sex. After working in corrections both juvenile and adult, there are a lot of wierdos out there (not all folks on here are wierd- just seen my share in this line of work for years) stalkers, , molesters and they would all rather do it in private than public. The email was ok. Face to face would be harder to handle. Stick to your guns and convictions girl. And you do not have to go into a long list of reasos why your not compatible, Just say we are not compatible and let it be. If he is a man he can take it. Good luck on finding your right match. Native46dd The Key to desire is starts in the mind
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11/9/2008 12:51 pm |
You did the right thing. And, you were honest. "The Beatings Will Continue, Until Morale Improves...."
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Thank-you for your comments. And the words of encouragement. DivaWoma4real [COLOR i
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11/25/2008 4:25 pm |
divawoman4real i think u did the rite thing if u didnt like him y being him home ,i hope u made him feel like a ass the next day , tell him one thing if u didnt invite him y did he ask , Talk to u soon i hope
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No actually the subject never came up again. This same gentleman did e-mail me again asking what I wanted to d! I told him to go out to dinner. That was the end of that I didn't hear from him again after that!\DivaWoman4real [COLOR i
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Honesty is always the best policy- if there is no chemistry not much you can do. That’s why I prefer to meet someone for lunch or a quick drink after work. No pressure and if there is no chemistry ‒ well nothing ventured nothing gained
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You are absolutely correct on that point TopCat! I usually ask to meet for a cup of tea or coffee. Then talk to see if we click and feel any chemistry between the two of us. If nothing is there we go our seperate ways no hard feelings. It's just that I have a difficult time when this occurs telling that person up front if their are no vibes going on! DivaWomnan4real [COLOR i
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There's no right way or wrong, just what YOU do. I think it might have been better for him to ask if there was anything else you felt like doing; my approach is to be subtle because I'm not just about the sex anymore.
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You're quite right. That would have been the better approach to the situation! DIVAWOMAN4REAL [COLOR i
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Hi Blueeyes, I'm always available to chat and or e-mail new friends. Unfortuantely I pretty well filled with new male friends in the intimacy department right now. But e-mail me sometime again soon okay! DIVAWOMAN4REAL [COLOR i
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