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Did You? Have you ever met someone.....really liked them....couldn't wait to be around them....and yet, you never thought of sex with them? Someone who was cute....even dressed sexy....but never made you think of sex? Someone that made you feel at home, easy to talk to, made you comfortable....but you didn't want to jump their bones? Never even thought about it? Have you met that person that makes you laugh? That you made plans to see again before you even finished the night? But when you went home and crawled in bed that night you didn't even wonder what it would be like if they were there with you? Did you ever stop and think that you might just be missing out on the love of your life because that someone didn't "fit" the mold in your mind of that perfect partner? Maybe they weren't six feet tall with blond hair and blue eyes and a six pack to kill. Or maybe they didn't have long legs and perky tits......or long hair. Did you?  |
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7/8/2006 6:02 am |
I've met lots of people that I have found attractive and fun to be with but have never really given any thought to having them for a sex partner. Now granted, most of those people were guys  . But I have had women friends that I've never looked at in a "sexual" way, it's just sort of a different type of connection. I don't think I have ever had a preconceived image of the perfect partner. I have always been very happy with the partner (OK, let's say it "my wife") I have but in the past year I have gone through periods where I was trying to make a connection with someone because I had this idea in my mind that I might have missed something along the way. It didn't have anything to do with a "perfect partner", it was more along the lines of just wondering what it would be like with another woman. I think a lot of that searching was motivated by the relationship with my wife that had just sort of dried up. Somewhere along the way that dry relationship sort of got reinvigorated and the lure of another partner just dried up. Funny how that works. What about you, did you ever stop to think that you may have missed the love of your life?
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7/8/2006 6:35 am |
I've always looked at sexy as an inside job, not as what's on the outside. In all honesty, Jim is the first man I've been with in YEARS that is almost as sexy on the outside as he is on the inside! -B 
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often most of the guys i've met from here have been wonderful people but they just don't fit my mould I'm a   and i'm here to stay
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Yeah I have girlfriends that I'd never considered having sex with for whatever reason... I've been away from my comp most of the week...congrats on being a sex fiend again and I'm glad you're cancer free too... 
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7/8/2006 8:59 am |
Papy: maybe you need to break the mould? The longer sex remains scarce at home, the more I wonder what the various women I meet are like in bed. Some of the ones I've met in Affairlook are real animals in the cyber-bed. SpaceCadetù
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7/8/2006 9:06 am |
A guy I worked with is what most women would consider sexy, I can't look at him that way. He is just a great friend. Even when he left the job and went to another one he would call and we would chat and go for coffee. I always look forward to hearing from him and spending time with him. He is someone who I can just laugh with, cry with, and feel so comfortable with. Now there are other friends, who hell I would love to get closer to. But everyone knows where the lines are drawn.
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7/8/2006 9:15 am |
yea i do have a lady friend like that and we meet once a month for a meal out and cinema !!
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7/8/2006 9:31 am |
LOL Yes I wound up marrying him years and years later!
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7/8/2006 10:00 am |
I'm shy, when it comes to women. I let them make the first move. There is no "perfect" person. There is only Love. Or Fear.
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I have only refused sex with a woman that wants it once, when I was a junior in HS. I never made that mistake again. Opus
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Um, we don't that's possible ... (Evil leer) Hugs from us ...
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7/8/2006 11:21 am |
Yeah - I know who she is - and we talk regularly - I love my sister 
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7/8/2006 11:43 am |
Yeah - I met someone from here a while back. We've had lunch a couple of times and he calls me every now and again but I don't think that anything will ever happen. We just chatter about life and love and what's happening at that point in time and that's about it. He's great fun, he even admits that for a reason he can't fathom, he's drawn to me (I told him moth to a flame dearie !!!) but it's purely platonic and I kinda like it that way.  Mistress Innuendo Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!
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7/8/2006 12:01 pm |
You know everything about my sex life (I mean everything). This is a post that asks a question to which I had never given any real thought. I love my friends. Not all of them are attractive. I have not seen all of their faces. Some are beautiful. Some have beautiful breasts or other body parts. Some not quite so nice to see. I still love each and every one of them. If I give this question careful consideration, then I may be able to answer "yes", but not a definitive yes. I definitely WANT to be with my Russian friend sexually, and online I sometimes am (paid sex chat). But, as far as my two other very good friends are concerned, that is different. I love each one for sure. But, I have never given much thought if any to having sex with either of them, or being with them romantically. It helps that I have not ever seen the face of my Canadian friend, while my California friend is engaged to another woman. I think then, that the answer is "yes" to two of my close friends.
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angelofmercy5 replies on 7/8/2006 4:05 pm: Thanks Lusty....I'm glad too! All you other sex fiends were making me jealous. Now...about those girlfriends that you'd never consider having sex with.....may I ask why? I never thought about why very much...I'm sort of intuitive and reactionary...I feed off of signals or feelings or vibes coming my way...so if those aren't present I don't go down that road, not even in my mind...does that make sense?
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the first 3 questions: NOPE....let cut through the chase and get the curious over, then work on the close friend ship... the next one: YES and then the last one: HELL YES!! and 3 cheers!...I often think about that all the time!
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we do lol,hopefully no 2 guy from my dates last week will work out,now he fitted the mould and boy did we click I'm a and i'm here to stay
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7/8/2006 7:33 pm |
Yes, I've had those kinds of women, largely because they already were involved in relationships. And the one time I made the mistake of admitting how I felt about one of those friends, her b.f. slapped me so hard he knocked me down. Morale of the story: never admit your feelings to a taken woman. "Today may be the first day of the rest of your life, unless you live on the other side of the International Date Line, then yesterday was the first day of the rest of your life."- Larry Andersen
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7/8/2006 9:38 pm |
Hi, just wanted to say Hi...sorry just can't form my thoughts... flo
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7/8/2006 10:31 pm |
Oh yes indeed. While up in Humboldt the neighbor in the apartment next to me. We got along great - when I moved in she showed me all over the area - we took drives, went dancing, night fires on deserted beaches. We both were involved with others and having the requisite problems adjusting - and we confided questions and secret thoughts to each other, even talked and laughed over our sexual exploits. Sometimes she'd cook something for me....Took me out to superb dinner with my sister and hubby who had flown out to witness the occasion. (Finally graduated college) My sister got me aside and asked why I hadn't gotten involved with this wonderful, gracious, hip, selfless, woman. I had often thought about it myself but it just didn't seem to fit. She is about 12 years younger - she has other guys, but not satisfied in all respects with any one. But she and I got along so well and could talk about anything, were supportive and generous with each other, we had the same outlook on life, and could laugh at ourselves around each other. Then one night we went dancing and I thought, "I've got to know"...back in the apartment parking lot, for the first time I felt awkward in her presence when I burst the question, "Would you like to spend the night together." She was just as awkward in declining saying that we both are looking around and she wouldn't want to spoil a good friendship with the problems that would be sure to come. At that moment I wished I had never spoke and at the same time wished I had asked years before when we first were getting together. I think women see some men as "brothers" and the idea of more, doesn't occur. the women I have known like that all seemed to be involvd in relationships that weren't very constructive. I wonder if there is a fear of "Love" or a belief they can't have what would be possible. Perhaps women and maybe men, compartmentalize sex apeal into realtionships but the real connections they place as family. Hard to know. Harder to let go....sigh I'm a lookin' for someone to love I'm a lookin' for someone to love well if you're not here baby I'm not there I'm a lookin' for someone to love... oooOOOOOOooooOOOOOOoooOOOOOO...!
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7/9/2006 3:45 am |
Hi, Thanks for the welcome. Just stopping bye to say hello. And yes, I have some very good female friends here that I do not think of sexually. But thats only because when I do think of them that way they tell me off
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7/9/2006 6:12 am |
Ah the lament for love never know, or lost to the whim of fate. So many stories both happy and sad. I think I'll do a little more reading here. Such interesting thoughts and diverse group of readers.
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angel said: Opus....you bring up a good point, like Adbacula said in his comment, if more women made the move, do you think more men would follow? I think I would definitely follow. I would absolutely love a clear and unmistakable signal that someone wanted sex. You women can ask for a while, I'm getting tired of the rejection. Opus
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7/9/2006 2:18 pm |
Hi angel, Your question was... Do you think that there are alot of men that feel this way? That if more women made the first move, they would be happy? Simply stated, yes. A more complex look into the male psyche, we reveal his primary motivation in life... To have sex. I read an interesting book once, where the men only needed to make a signal, and the women would present themselves in a manner ready for sex. I think many men wish it were so. It is this attitude that has hindered all men in the pursuit of love, or sex for that matter. Most all women wish to be loved for who they are. Sometimes, showing sexual interest sends off an alarm in their head. "All he wants is sex!" I find, if she becomes interested in me, we both "feel" it, eventually. Consequently, once I "feel" a woman is interested in me, I consider it be a green light. Cheers
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7/10/2006 10:06 am |
sure..i've met plenty of attractive women that i didn't crave, but many more that i did. I think in the end it's a mental attraction that gets me...you know a woman who intrigues me is much more attractive than just a pretty face.
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