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Why Are You On AFF?
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Why Are You On AFF? I was reading some blogs of people who are new to Affairlook.....or new to me anyways. There are some really promising bloggers coming up. I'm going to follow a couple of them and maybe feature them later on my blog so some of you can get to know them too. But one of the things that started to really stick out in some posts is that the men who are new on here all seem to think that they have found their adult candy store. (Click on the picture on this post to see a larger view) It's kind of funny....or maybe kind of sad too...that they think that with all these beautiful women they see here they have hit the lottery and by tomorrow night there will be two or three of these beauties in their bed. Now...you and I know that isn't true...don't we? So, it's kind of fun to go back to some of those posts in a couple of days and read that they just don't understand why not one single woman has answered their 100's of emails they have sent out. Well...duh.....maybe it's the content of the email. "Hey Baby....I got a pole for your hole"! Doesn't do much for me, how about you? Looking at the new women bloggers posts....they are totally different then the men's. Kind of made me wonder....what did you think you were going to find when you logged onto Affairlook? Did you think you had found the source of unlimited sex? Did you think you'd find your soul mate? Did you think you were ready for "no strings attached" sex? So, tell me what was on your mind when you became a member of Affairlook. And how has your opinion changed now?  |
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6/1/2006 7:08 am |
I came to the site to peek at the cams, but when I found the blogs it was like two different sites, who would have thought I would have met the fantastic people I did here! 
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6/1/2006 9:05 am |
Angel, what a loaded question! Oh yeah... my opinion, and my attitude, sure has changed!! I was never quite so blatant in my e-mails, I mean I never said anything as lame as Hey Baby, I've got a pole for your hole but I wasn't looking for polite conversation either. I actually started blogging (under another user name) and the content was pretty tame but I was still trolling for available (yeah right..) women. My marriage was pretty lifeless, nothing happening in the bedroom except my snoring. In fact my wife and I hadn't slept in the same bed for something close to 12 or 13 years. We had lived in our present house for 10 years when I realized that I had NEVER slept in the master bedroom, only the guest bedroom or on a very uncomfortable sofa-bed in my office when we had company who got the guest room. I have blogged several times about how my marriage has turned around completely in the 10+ months that I have been here on Affairlook. I never for a moment expected that to happen and I am so proud that it did!! I don't "troll for chicks"  any more, my wife and I sleep in the same bed, and our sex-life is awesome. I have stopped corresponding with my cyber-girlfriends completely. I did receive a rather shocking revelation yesterday, a friend told me that one of my former cyber-girlfriends is pregnant and she is telling folks that I am the father. Now, cyber-sex is becoming more and more realistic but this has got to be a first... NOTE FOR MY WIFE, IN CASE SHE HAPPENS TO READ THIS "I HAVE NEVER EVEN BEEN ON AISLE 9 SO THE WET SPILL THERE COULDN'T POSSIBLY BE MINE".I still blog but I get no where near the attention that your blog receives. You're one of the Affairlook BlogingStars, that's why I like to read your blog and make comments here. We have company coming to visit this next week, good friends that we have known for many, many years. When they were here last year I slept down in my office and they never made any comments. I wonder if they will notice that I am sleeping in the master bedroom during their visit this time? Wait, what am I saying... I'm going to be sleeping in a hotel up in Williamsburg, VA all but one night during the two weeks they are going to be here. I sometimes hate my job which requires so darn much travel!
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6/1/2006 10:02 am |
I had an affair with a really wonderful married woman years ago, and it was such a good experience for me personally that I was hoping it could happen again. Only better this time. What I found, is that trying connect with people over these "dating sites" is more difficult than it seems. Even when trying to follow the advice of others. I often wonder if anybody repsonds to anyone at all. Finding Blogland has been really interesting and has kept me coming back to Affairlook. But I often wonder why there are so many married and attached woman blogging. Thanks for you question Angel, that was thought provoking.
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6/1/2006 10:25 am |
In a moment of loneliness and madness I followed a link that took me to Affairlook. I tip toed in scared stiff and found the irish chat room....from there I found the blogs....and now I'm home....
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6/1/2006 11:41 am |
I was invited to view Affairlook by a Lady friend. I had no idea what I was getting into either but it was worth it. Every bit of the fun I have had since 2004 is a direct result of that dear Lady, so you can count me in on the blogs AND MAYBE SOMEDAY, IF THE GODS THAT BE, ever fix that D***** A L section, I will once again join the MRR.
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6/1/2006 11:41 am |
I honestly didn’t know why I joined for sure; no preconceived notions, except where I was, I didn’t want to be, and this was different. You know about my wife and then there were two horribly ugly relationships that left me thinking about changing teams. (just kidding about changing teams) I didn’t want to be connected to anyone after that . . . ever! Somehow thru the whole thing I lost who I was. I started following some blogs and then started mine, getting involved and ya what? I started to find me again . . . the playful, ornery old flirt I’ve always been. There’s plenty of sex to be had here, no doubt about that . . . but here we talk about everything that doesn’t get talked about in RL . . . also there’s a wealth of information and encouragement . . . and it’s free! "Hey Baby....I got a pole for your hole"! . . . I wouldn’t say something like that to a woman I knew well, let alone one I was trying to impress . . . but to each their own. Dicks with dicks? The people I’ve met and thoughts exchanged thru the blogs . . . money can’t buy that! Super Post! btw Thank you! H. 
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I joined out of curiousity really...and I have stayed cos of the friends that I have made but now i think it more of a community of people who support each other
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6/1/2006 2:29 pm |
Angel my Dear Angel, tsk, tsk, tsk. As a member of the Advice Line posters in much more than as an once in a while poster, surely you are familiar with the MRR's. You have been listed there several times I do believe. Anyway, dear one, the MRR simple refers to the sites Most Respected Responders. of which I at one time was listed in the number one position for almost 3 weeks before the A L went to H*** in a handbasket.
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6/1/2006 2:52 pm |
I came to Affairlook to meet guys in my area...... I never get out. I work and I'm a mom. ... After being, "used" and being chased down the highway I decided it wasn't for me. I'd rather just be, "alone". My time will come one day. It did end a "dry spell" of almost 3 years though. I just blog on here now.
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6/1/2006 4:44 pm |
When I first joined, referred by a friend, it was more of the candy store mentality. The impossible dream...casual sex...oooohhhweee. It didn't take long to figure out that while there were lots of verrry interesting pictures holding out hints of insane sex...the reality was quite different. Then again, being close to 60 probably wsn't much of a starting point competing against all the young hunks.... Then I got into the blogging thing and found a totally new universe... being able to understand what women were thinking and having the courage to write. Wow!!! I could see what I've been missing all along...being able to share real stuff that just isn't always communicated face-to-face. I could share sides of me that have never been allowed out to play, and get the same sense of that from people in blogville...such as yourself. This has been a big surprise...the last place I would expected to find such amazing stuff being shared...sex thoughts and otherwise. It is like a whole new universe...and really special and important to me. I feel like I've made some very unique and special blog friends and I care a lot about their well being. Been though several 'crises' with blog friends...and it is so cool that people are jumping up from all over the place to send butterflies and prayers to those in a bad place.... We all get there from time to time and it is very comforting to know there's folks out there who care and will try and do something nice and helpful. Good thoughts go a long way in this world. I feel it is an honor to be part of this community. And along the way, sorted out what I want, which is not some shallow meaningless short term relationship, but a long term spiritual and tantric one with someone of the quality of people I'm meeting via the blogs here. This has all affirmed there really is one more round...and the best is yet to come.
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6/1/2006 5:42 pm |
Actually when I joined, I was afraid that it was going to be a candy store -I don't like that, and nearly didn't join because of it- but I was lonely and didn't know where else to go so here I am ... though I have read some real female profiles that made it seem like it was a candy store, and I've probably made a couple bad moves, but eh it's life... Eventually -who am I kidding I haven't been here that long - I stumbled into Blogville ... I think you were actually one of the first people to leave a comment at my blog -thank you for that. Being in Blogville has definitely been a blast full of interesting ideas and people - including an interplanetary lady ...who has caught my attention ...perhaps I hers  ...though I can't say I really knowAs for finding a soul-mate - dunno, see how things go... I'd definitely like to ...I imagine it'd be better than being treated like a sex toy at any rate....
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6/1/2006 8:18 pm |
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6/2/2006 4:21 am |
I signed up one day when I was overwhelemd with work. It was March, and I had made a resolution at the beginning of the year to spend more on *personal* time, for dating and such. It never happened. Everyone I knew, was pressuring me to get back in the game, and find someone. Well, actually they were all advising me to take a few hours off of work and go get laid, especially my best friend who is gay and is always always after me to go make some man *very* happy...LOL I signed up on two other sites, and all I did was come across people I knew professionally. I am NOT into the bar scene. I had lots of people hitting on me in real life, but no one that I found interesting. When I was much younger, I had been very aggressive sexually, so I had no inhibitions on a site like this. I signed up, looked through the catalog, found someone I thought was very cute, tall with a mustache. I made hm promise to pay for a hotel room, and we met within first week or two of my signing up after maybe five emails and a couple of pictures. SeriOUSLY! I wasn't looking for a relationship. I should have NEVER spent the night.. and I wouldn't have if he didnt keep going till it was light out and the birds were singing. (My first indicator of how long we had been together because I had no sense of time in his arms) The way he held me while I slept, my best friend calling me with a wake up call to see where the hell I was and waking us up together. her cracking a joke with him on the phone...I wasn't prepared for that. She invited him to come over for dinner at her house with her husband so they could meet him. Second time we met, I made him come to meet my friends, cause I figured that would make him say no. I figured, if he can make it past that, I will give him a chance to get to really know me. We watched Memomoirs of a Geisha at my friends house, and he complained it was a chick flick. He likes war movies. Before he went home, the next day after he took me to breakfast, we sat in his car, for almost an hour and he played me songs. Love song after love song after love song. I started crying, but I didn't let him see me as I hid my face pressed into his shoulder. Then, I spent next wekend, the *entire* holiday weekend, with him over Easter. Four days of my not working, just relaxing and thinking about someone new in my life that I thought was very special. He worked most of the time, while I just relaxed at his house with my dog. He taught me his favorite meal, and we cooked it together. We watched a movie. It was a CHICK flick he brought home, rented, something about marriage. He also brought King Kong... but we never had time to watch it. I realised, that was what I was missing MOST in my life, not just sex but someone to take care of my heart, while I took care of his. Of course, the sex was awesome, and in between everything else... I am certain I had my brain overloaded on that as well. Overload is not the word for it actually. Originally I thought it would be nice to met someone driving distance away, for over night or the weekend, because I didn't want anything too serious. Distance was a good thing, or so I thought. Then, all of a sudden I was planning my work around trying to be with him. I could do it, but it made me *really* think hard about what I wanted out of life. I could easily move to where he is fulltime, but part time there would be very doable if I juggle my schedule well. I never thought I would be the type to get married. Suddenly, we were talking about it, and I don't know who started it. I think we started talking about his neice, whom met someone and married them in a month. I know at first I warned him not even to bring it up with me unless we made it through summer.. then I said we could talk about it. TALK about it, not do it..... First, I have to explain. last guy I dated converted religions and became a born again virgin bcause he could not deal with me... previous guy was a volunteer minister.. I coruppted him. They had both pursued me... and prior to that I had a 14 year relationship. i never dated much as an adult, was much more agressive when i was younger, so I really wasn't into anything serious. I wanted to meet a lot of people, for casual weekend relationships so that I could take my time getting to know them. IF that.. SO... next time we were together, he rented another movie about marriage. I was not against it, it was really very good to watch it with him. HOWEveR, you have to understand, he has enough movies at his house that I have neverseen that he could entertain me for a YeAR without renting anything. That weekend was his birthday, and I spoiled him... and moved some kitchen stuff in to his house because I love to cook. Stuff that I was not concerend about losing whatsoever, but nonetheless, he was talking about moving so I could bring my dog back when I stayed. We had gotten in trouble with someone cause where he lives now does not allow dogs, and he was calling my dog HIS dog. Then, we were talking on the phone about is moving. he already put the deposit down. THEn he asked me if I would move out of state with him if he had some major changes at work. I told him NO, because careerwise I could not make as much money there. Next thing I know he is calling it off, because he doesn't want to lead me on. He apologises, for the possibility he might have to move. MIGHT have to move, so he doesn't want to continue in case of that in the future. . I have to see him again in about two weeks, but we have since called it off.... too fast, too intense, too soon.. he basically ended it and apologised to me for leading me on and he is apologising about bringin up marriage and told me he didn't want to continue because he might have to move for work. I told him when he first asked if I was willing to jump states if he did, NO, but now I have thought about it and said why not. At least, back to the original statement of *IF* we make it through summer, then we can talk about something more serious. I am still confused. I met a guy on this site, I email him first for a one night stand. THen I end up with him for two months. Next thing I know, he has me thinking about marriage, and I am not freaking out about it, but actually considering it AND moving. But, I was only looking for a one night stand when I met him. I didn't have any plans of moving out of state, but now my heart says it makes sense if he is there. I think he is is using reverse psychology or something. I am sooo confusd it is not even funny, if you knew how much time I put into my career and where I finally am at right now.... But, I look at it all and say, for these feelings, I would give it up in a second. ALL my friends tell me I am crazy for telling him I wouldn't follow him. I am seriously seriously ill I tell ya. THEY, my friends .. think i should move and they think I am stupid for telling him no! First I deleted my account. then I begged Affairlook to reinstate it, they did (THANKS!) I came back ONLY for the blogs. I rewrote my profile basically so I wouldn't get so many emails....figure I will scare them all off saying I want a relationship. ... hehehe.. I feel like I hit a brick wall, going 260 MPH. ... i need help. I've lost my mind and I don't know where to find it... pregnant lesbian penguins and transvestite turtles at [post 357595] actually made sense to me.... lol Does this mean I am having an attack of the stupid?
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6/2/2006 5:13 am |
oh.. and I should prolly add that when i last saw him, after he told me that, I just said OKAY.. no problem! Thats what a no strings attached meeting is all about, right? I pick a guy up for a one night stand, he gets all emotional on me then he gets all full of willpower and won't let me seduce him cause he doesnt want to take advantage of me anymore.... saying cause I have been really really good to him. And he might move. Maybe. Cause he has legitimate worries about his job. That still might not happen, at least not till the end of summer. So.. he apologises cause doesnt want to lead me on. Even though the sex is more then just good... where does someone get willpower like that?????? WHAT is with him??? He had made me stay over night, while he was at work, maybe i shoulda stayed or something and tried to talk with him more after he got home? Instead, I just said, "no need to make this any harder then it has to be"... and left... as quickly as I could. I just told him "if you changed your mind who am i to argue?" I mean, i didnt even try to persude him with words, because why should I, after he said i could not seduce him.... cause he didn't want to take advantage of me... I am not sure if he wanted me to stay and try to talk with him.. but, I figured, no point in fighting about it, if he feels he doesnt want to take advantage of me and hurt my feelings.. I am just really confused. i don't understand men at all... their not supposed to get all emotional... right?
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6/2/2006 6:19 am |
yeah, thats why i am so confused. He pushed away my body, with respect for my heart and soul.. and now.. it is like he is all there in my mind all the time and I dont know how to deal with that. Sex, I understand. Not the mushy stuff.
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I wanted to try out a new experience, and if I met women to play with, so much the better. Now it's a way to re-invent myself. Which is why I changed the name of my blog shortly after I started it...
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6/2/2006 3:04 pm |
Thank you, for both the reminding words and letting me know that you have been reading ...I assume that's what you mean, when you say your enjoying it.
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Great post! Great Blog! Hope you are resting and recuperating at lower RPM's! XO Labio 
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I had been in a LTR for five years and I was curios as to what was out there. Now I don't really care, I LOVE TO BLOG!!!
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curiosty got me here,a friend told me about it but not what it was a bout lol,it took me a minth to get brave enough to go into chat now i have my own arm chair in there.its hasn't changed my expectaions as i had non to beguin with I'm a   and i'm here to stay
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I originally came to this site just to see who would be interested. My marriage wasn't open then so nothing would have came of anything had my profile even been seen. I had a total of 8 profile views in a year and a half. I'm now on here with a much clearer vision of what I want and what I'm willing to accept. I can finally say that search has paid off A couple found us through the blogs and wanted to meet us because of what they found there. We took a slow road to getting here but I don't think we could have found a couple we could be more comfortable with.
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6/4/2006 10:36 pm |
I came here just for sex. I am not happy I found emotions. I want a refund!
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6/7/2006 4:20 pm |
Wow! Been scanning your post and they are awesome! Been here in FF recently since I felt lonely at the same time horny I guess since I am in a foreign country for the first time alone and no one to talk to and far from my loveones. But then after receiving those eeeeeeeeemails and responses from folks round my new place. It was like the sexville of europe if not the city. Honestly, my profile is just to catch attention (well, that's what we do right?) and it was fun reading those messages on my mail box till i got bored since most of them makes me cringe nowadays. Been blogging for almost 6 years now, it's not just at this site and I really admire your thoughts. Thanks for sharing it. =) Maybe, I could start blogging here too...
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