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Why did I put myself through that?  

hornyguyMN 43M
2356 posts
6/7/2015 12:07 pm
Why did I put myself through that?

I know I'm more then a little late to chime in on this. But I just watched the 50 Shades of Grey movie last night. Long term followers know I'm part of the local BDSM community. I have never read the books and still have no plan to do so. So here is my take on the movie.

First the good things:

1. Condom use - I thought this was awesome, nothing that depicts sex these days even suggests condoms. So full marks for that.

2. On the same note, they discuss the pill (sort of). It is mentioned in the contract and there is a 20 second tease to it. But at least it was mentioned it.

Now for the parts I didn't like (in no particular order):

1. "Laters baby" - WTF IS A BILLIONARE DOING SAYING SOMETHING THAT TEENAGERS WOULD BE EMBARRASSED TO SAY!!!!!!!!! I cringed every time I heard this.

2. Christian Grey was one hell of a creepy bastard. If anyone reading this is or was a fan of TNA wrestling and remembers Samuel Shaw and his angle with Christy Hemme. That is who he reminded me of. He meets her once then shows up where she works despite never being told where that is? He runs a trace on her phone after a drunk phone call? He constantly shows up out of nowhere, can you say stalker.

3. There seemed to be a total lack of chemistry between the actors. Whether that was because of the material they were given or the cast I don't know.

4. The depiction of everyone into BDSM either being pedophiles or damaged.

5. On that note the whole "I'm damaged so love me, but no you can't love me" thing.

6. Following that train of thought the whole "I don't know you but I love you already" thing.

7. They both spend the whole movie trying to change the other, or getting them to negotiate things under duress.

8. "I found being a submissive freeing and fulfilling so obviously you will to". Ummmm yeah doesn't work that way for everyone.

9. While negotiation is an interregnal part of D/s relationships. The way they approached it in the movie as being a physical contract bothered me. Lists can be exchanged sometimes. But there is no pressure to sign a contract. In part because these things are always fluctuating and evolving. Things are constantly renegotiated, thus making a physical contract pointless. Not to mention the actual legalities with such a contract.

10. It looked like he was flogging her stomach at one point .... ummm bad idea. There are too many important organs in there and she was a tooth pick, nothing to pad the important things.

In short the movie was literally painful to watch.

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