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Horny Teenagers: Noone's Got Time for Dat
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Horny Teenagers: Noone's Got Time for Dat Don't throw away your friendship with your over behavior that has no great moral significance. There will be plenty of real issues that require you to stand like a rock. Save your big guns for those crucial confrontations. -Dr. James Dobson Parenting….what fun. Of course, I’m sure you recognize sarcasm when you read it. As many of you know, my , the Boy Wonder, is going to be a senior in high school this year. He lives across town with my ex, his mother. He is 17, the same age I was when I lost my virginity. He has had a few girlfriends, but the current one has been around longer than any of the others. She seems a nice girl but she lives in a town about 90 minutes away. They met volunteering for the same charity. Here is my problem. My ex and the girl’s father are letting them spend weekends together. Supposedly they are keeping an eye on them to make sure nothing goes on. Making them stay in separate rooms, etc. But, I was a boy once and I know I would have found a way. Hell, I did find ways. Also, the girl has an older sister who has just had a baby. I keep an eye on her FB posts and she just seems a little baby crazy to me. These issues have been a point of contention for a while now and my opinion seems to not matter one iota. So I have made it abundantly clear, that she, my ex, can help him raise the baby and let them all live with her. Recently, the young lady had to stay up here in town because her uncle was in the hospital after an auto accident. He was supposed to come over that evening and mow the lawn at stately Wayne Manor and he was running late. I texted him at 6:45 and was told he was “relaxing” at home. He got here around 7:30 finally. I texted my ex to confirm my suspicions. I asked her where he had been. She didn’t know but knew he was gone when she got home at 6:30. He was so busted. I grounded him for the rest of the week, not because he saw the girl, but because he lied about it. I had met him at a pitching lesson a couple days later and after it was over I made him get in the Batmobile so we could have a good talk. I basically asked him what he is going to do when she gets pregnant, not IF, WHEN. The rest of the conversation went well. He assured me that neither of them want to go down that road. So far the only thing they have done is fool around some. I’m guessing that means second or third base or, as my dad used to say, “playing stink-finger.” He says that her gay uncle and his boyfriend had even given them condoms and told them not to be stupid. The girl has been talking about various methods of birth control. She is concerned she might forget to take a pill everyday and is thinking an IUD might be better. I reminded him that nothing is 100 percent effective. I reminded him his cousin was on the pill and got pregnant. She claimed it was because she was on antibiotics once and they reduce the effectiveness of the bill. I wouldn’t doubt she just forgot to take it. But it kept her out of college and I assured him that a baby would keep the both of them out of college and that he could not expect to have a family on a minimum wage job. I think he was pretty well informed to begin with but I think I also gave him more to think about. I feel better about things that may not have happened yet, but will no doubt happen before long. My next task will be to convince him not to fall in love and marry the first girl he sleeps with. I’ve known several people who have, me included, and of all of them, only one couple is still together. But more on that later. Enjoy your while they are young. Teenagers make you old and lose your hair. Tune in next time, same Batchannel. Pax Vobiscum.  Just Another Geek on Affairlook |
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7/29/2013 8:41 pm |
Glad you talked with him but sleepovers....Wf??? Your ex stupid?? No way, around here Ditto this. Just Another Geek on Affairlook
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7/29/2013 8:40 pm |
Ahh, to be passionately in love and only make out again would be amazing. All that other stuff messes it up. Glad you talked with him but sleepovers....Wf??? Your ex stupid?? No way, around here......I AM ALWAYS HOME. I give them space and time to be alone but doors open and I am free to walk in at anytime. Good for you for grounding him for laying. He will learn...as long as it is not the hard way. Just Another Geek on Affairlook
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7/29/2013 8:13 pm |
Ya did good, Dad. I was always realistic with mine... with one strict point that was always hammered... cover it or die. It would've been difficult, but we could've handled a baby (at the risk of their future plans as they were then), but we COULD NOT handle some disease related illness or death. My youngest is married and has a baby now, and that little girl is the greatest... I'm pretty lucky that my girls paid attention... and it seems that the boy wonder has been paying attention as well. Just Another Geek on Affairlook
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Glad you talked with him but sleepovers....Wf??? Your ex stupid?? No way, around here Ditto this.
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Ya did good, Dad. I was always realistic with mine... with one strict point that was always hammered... cover it or die. It would've been difficult, but we could've handled a baby (at the risk of their future plans as they were then), but we COULD NOT handle some disease related illness or death. My youngest is married and has a baby now, and that little girl is the greatest... I'm pretty lucky that my girls paid attention... and it seems that the boy wonder has been paying attention as well.
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