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Blogs > rm_comfie4u > My Blog

Is it Cheating??  

rm_comfie4u 59M/55F
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9/27/2006 7:11 pm

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9/28/2006 7:42 pm
Is it Cheating??

Hello everyone,

Is it cheating to have a 1-1 with someone here (or anywhere) when you are a swinging couple? I am asking myself that question. I imagine Norm with another woman 1-1 and as long as I know about it, I'm okay with it. It's just part of our sex life. Now there was a time when there was cheating. Norm and I had been married for 11 years. Our marriage was bumpy because of his job. He had an affair with another woman. I knew about it within a month of it beginning. I had accidently stumbled on a card that he had written her professing his undying love. I was devistated to say the least. Everyone knew us as "the perfect couple". There are a few things I remember the most, although I remember every detail that pertained to her. First reaction?? My marriage was not going to end this way!! He was not going to live happily ever after with another woman, she was not taking my husband. Next, I made him tell me every detail. How they met to hotel rooms, to how her pussy felt and everything they did sexually. I had not told him but I was facinated by women at the time. What pissed me off the most?? The sneaking around!!!! Then, wanting to leave me for someone else. He broke it off..she started following us places. She even spoke to me on the phone in great detail. "telling me if I would lose wieght he wouldn't stray away"

It was an experience I never wanted to feel again. This cheating he did in years to come led to my cheating on him, justifying that he had done it to me. The problem was us..our sex life....our life in general. Lots happened that led us to this point we are. We are older now and know what we want sexually and in our own lives. Now our swinging lives we have entered is an entirely new way of life. One that most keep quiet and behind<b> closed door. </font></b>Sure, you don't want to broadcast it but I am finding it has been all around me all along and I didn't see it.
So is it cheating to swing? It doesn't feel like it to me. It feels like something special he and I share. If we would have been at this point years ago, the women he cheated with would have been another playmate in our bed.
I'm cool with this whole thing as long as I don't lose what I already have. I will fight to keep it. BTW we at 19 years of marriage. Woohoo!!
My thoughts for today guys,
Kathy

euthenicist 68M
227 posts
9/28/2006 2:49 pm

 I concur. If you or he want to enjoy one on one company in the absence of the other half, it should be agreed to first.


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